After looking further, I think it is a male cobweb spider..
The markings are on the top side of the spider...widows have their markings on the bottom side...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triangulate_cobweb_spider
If it's anything other than a widow species, it's almost certainly a cobweb spider. I can't believe I forgot to think of that - many cobweb spiders can closely resemble widows, and they can often behave in a similar fashion.
Which makes sense, considering widows ARE cobweb spiders (all cobweb spiders share the same Family, of which the widow Genus is within).
But don't confuse the specific marking situation as a way to absolutely rule out it being any variety of Widow. Some widows, even of the exact same species, sometimes have a very different marking, different color, or none at all, or on the top of the abdomen. That can be especially true when they are young, with the markings possibly shifting to the underside as they age.
Plus, there are definitely widow species with varied markings on the top of the abdomen - it may just not be specifically the black widow.
I think I found it:
Neoscona oaxacensis - Western Spotted Orbweaver
I can all but guarantee that is not an orb weaver.