what is the worst thing....

[Schadenfreude]

Originally posted by: Chaotic42

Originally posted by: Jehovah
Not many, I bet.

But kudos for recognizing where it's from!

you win . . . a fistful of yen!

That was a post of extraordinary magnitude.

No! Not water! Ah! Ah! Ah! Ohhh! I'm melting! I'm melting! What a world, what a world! It was a fighting force of extraordinary magnitude!

 

[lavagirl669]

thanks guys.....I think he got his karma
because I left him for good and never looked back.

*and my brothers went after him*

The pain was inside as much as outside but I got through it

 

[Chaotic42]

Originally posted by: Jehovah
No! Not water! Ah! Ah! Ah! Ohhh! I'm melting! I'm melting! What a world, what a world! It was a fighting force of extraordinary magnitude!

Ah, I love that movie.

Back on topic, I had a girl who wanted me to get her pregnant. She said if I did, then I could have anal sex with her.

I never saw her again after I refused.

lol

 

[Aquaman]

Originally posted by: lavagirl669
thanks guys.....I think he got his karma
because I left him for good and never looked back.

*and my brothers went after him*

The pain was inside as much as outside but I got through it

That's good......... don't look back

Good that your brothers got him also

Cheers,
Aquaman

 

[Schadenfreude]

Originally posted by: lavagirl669
thanks guys.....I think he got his karma
because I left him for good and never looked back.

*and my brothers went after him*

The pain was inside as much as outside but I got through it

If you don't mind, could you give us, in deatil of what happened with the douchebag and your brothers? I think a big part of the ATOT community would get a good laugh out of that.

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: lavagirl669
thanks guys.....I think he got his karma
because I left him for good and never looked back.

*and my brothers went after him*

The pain was inside as much as outside but I got through it

glad to hear your brothers took care of business.

how long ago was this?

 

[lavagirl669]

This happened about 8 years ago.

He blew up at me about something mindless and dumb.
He used to do that all the time either verbally or physically
and I'm not sure why and I certainly don't blame myself for it.

I guess he just was and is a very unhappy and miserable person.

Anyway, he used to hunt all the time
so he had rifles around the house all the time which in itself was pretty scary.
He would get mad at me even if dinner was late or if he didn't like what I cooked,
and I remember saying something about it to him after hearing him
complaining about this....he starts screaming at me and throwing things around.

Then he starts throwing ME around
I'm trying to defend myself and back off....back into a wall and am literally
cornered. He picks up one of his rifles and BAM right to the side of my head and
I crashed back into a desk that was there.
Laying on the floor, crying and begging him to stop
He had it raised over me and was actually turning it around at one point but thank
God he didn't use it or hit me with it again.
I stayed there as long as I could shaking and crying without saying anything....
got the phone and called my Dad to come and get me.

You're really going to hate this part....my Son was there at the time this happened,
and he was only like 5 years old.
Not a good situation at all....which is why my Son is with me to this day.

My Dad came, and being that he had a bad heart condition, he didn't get into it with my ex.
My Dad was nice to everybody. He actually thanked my ex for not hurting me really
bad if you can believe that. (May he rest in peace

That is just the way my Dad was, and it would have literally killed him to fight or get out of control because of his heart condition.

He took me away from there, and all I know is my Brothers saw me and found out what happened and went over there and beat the FVCK out of him.
I didn't get details, just that they took care of it. Very protective brothers.....
my ex begged me to come back after all that and it pissed him off even more that I wouldn't.
To this day he finds some reason to hold that against me. Me?

I find it difficult to talk about this, but wanted to share it because it was requested....and I'm sure you
guys would do the same if it was your Sis or relative.
I can talk about it now, because I've gotten through it and am not bitter at the world
because of it.

I've even learned to forgive him for this in my own way. I don't talk to him and never went back,
but just learned to forgive and let karma take its course and it surely did.
The only reason I ever talk to him if I have to is for issues re my Son and that's it.

To this day....he is a bitter, angry and unreasonable man.....

I'll never get into a situation like this ever again!

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: lavagirl669
This happened about 8 years ago.

He blew up at me about something mindless and dumb.
He used to do that all the time either verbally or physically
and I'm not sure why and I certainly don't blame myself for it.

I guess he just was and is a very unhappy and miserable person.

Anyway, he used to hunt all the time
so he had rifles around the house all the time which in itself was pretty scary.
He would get mad at me even if dinner was late or if he didn't like what I cooked,
and I remember saying something about it to him after hearing him
complaining about this....he starts screaming at me and throwing things around.

Then he starts throwing ME around
I'm trying to defend myself and back off....back into a wall and am literally
cornered. He picks up one of his rifles and BAM right to the side of my head and
I crashed back into a desk that was there.
Laying on the floor, crying and begging him to stop
He had it raised over me and was actually turning it around at one point but thank
God he didn't use it or hit me with it again.
I stayed there as long as I could shaking and crying without saying anything....
got the phone and called my Dad to come and get me.

You're really going to hate this part....my Son was there at the time this happened,
and he was only like 5 years old.
Not a good situation at all....which is why my Son is with me to this day.

My Dad came, and being that he had a bad heart condition, he didn't get into it with my ex.
My Dad was nice to everybody. He actually thanked my ex for not hurting me really
bad if you can believe that. (May he rest in peace

That is just the way my Dad was, and it would have literally killed him to fight or get out of control because of his heart condition.

He took me away from there, and all I know is my Brothers saw me and found out what happened and went over there and beat the FVCK out of him.
I didn't get details, just that they took care of it. Very protective brothers.....
my ex begged me to come back after all that and it pissed him off even more that I wouldn't.
To this day he finds some reason to hold that against me. Me?

I find it difficult to talk about this, but wanted to share it because it was requested....and I'm sure you
guys would do the same if it was your Sis or relative.
I can talk about it now, because I've gotten through it and am not bitter at the world
because of it.

I've even learned to forgive him for this in my own way. I don't talk to him and never went back,
but just learned to forgive and let karma take its course and it surely did.
The only reason I ever talk to him if I have to is for issues re my Son and that's it.

To this day....he is a bitter, angry and unreasonable man.....

I'll never get into a situation like this ever again!

if you don't mind me asking, what did you see in him in the first place?

 

[Aquaman]

Good that you got over it and don't let it eat at you.

I hope you find a better guy......... if you have not found one already

Cheers,
Aquaman

 

[lavagirl669]

young, dumb and disillusioned?

He wasn't like that in the beginning, guys like that never are until they own you.

 

[lavagirl669]

Originally posted by: Aquaman
Good that you got over it and don't let it eat at you.

I hope you find a better guy......... if you have not found one already

Cheers,
Aquaman

thanks Aquaman.....it will be worth the wait

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: lavagirl669
young, dumb and disillusioned?

He wasn't like that in the beginning, guys like that never are until they own you.

I'm sorry...but no one should EVER "own" you

You aren't some piece of property, your a human being with feelings and emotions just like the rest of us.

You have your own rights and freedom.

 

[Aquaman]

Originally posted by: Jero

Originally posted by: lavagirl669
young, dumb and disillusioned?

He wasn't like that in the beginning, guys like that never are until they own you.

I'm sorry...but no one should EVER "own" you

You aren't some piece of property, your a human being with feelings and emotions just like the rest of us.

You have your own rights and freedom.

I pwn you in neffing



Cheers,
Aquaman

 

[lavagirl669]

agreed.....

let me rephrase...he acted like he "owned" me
which I guess is why he treated me that way....
but again, I was very young and naive.

 

[Aquaman]

Originally posted by: Aquaman

Originally posted by: Jero

Originally posted by: lavagirl669
young, dumb and disillusioned?

He wasn't like that in the beginning, guys like that never are until they own you.

I'm sorry...but no one should EVER "own" you

You aren't some piece of property, your a human being with feelings and emotions just like the rest of us.

You have your own rights and freedom.

I pwn you in neffing



Cheers,
Aquaman

Actually that is nothing to be proud about

Cheers,
Aquaman

 

[n0cmonkey]

Originally posted by: Jero

Originally posted by: lavagirl669
young, dumb and disillusioned?

He wasn't like that in the beginning, guys like that never are until they own you.

I'm sorry...but no one should EVER "own" you

You aren't some piece of property, your a human being with feelings and emotions just like the rest of us.

You have your own rights and freedom.

Some people just don't understand that.

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: n0cmonkey

Originally posted by: Jero

Originally posted by: lavagirl669
young, dumb and disillusioned?

He wasn't like that in the beginning, guys like that never are until they own you.

I'm sorry...but no one should EVER "own" you

You aren't some piece of property, your a human being with feelings and emotions just like the rest of us.

You have your own rights and freedom.

Some people just don't understand that.

true enough. for some it's part of their culture (which is really scary within itself)

I'm so glad that I live in Canada in the land of the free. I would hate to think how I would be if I lived
in a place where slavery was common place

 

[n0cmonkey]

Originally posted by: Jero

Originally posted by: n0cmonkey

Originally posted by: Jero

Originally posted by: lavagirl669
young, dumb and disillusioned?

He wasn't like that in the beginning, guys like that never are until they own you.

I'm sorry...but no one should EVER "own" you

You aren't some piece of property, your a human being with feelings and emotions just like the rest of us.

You have your own rights and freedom.

Some people just don't understand that.

true enough. for some it's part of their culture (which is really scary within itself)

I'm so glad that I live in Canada in the land of the free. I would hate to think how I would be if I lived
in a place where slavery was common place

You think the submissive attitude doesn't exist in Canada? I bet it exists in every country in the world. Someone does not believe they are "good enough" or whatever and bam, they're getting abused. It's more common than most think.

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: n0cmonkey

Originally posted by: Jero

Originally posted by: n0cmonkey

Originally posted by: Jero

Originally posted by: lavagirl669
young, dumb and disillusioned?

He wasn't like that in the beginning, guys like that never are until they own you.

I'm sorry...but no one should EVER "own" you

You aren't some piece of property, your a human being with feelings and emotions just like the rest of us.

You have your own rights and freedom.

Some people just don't understand that.

true enough. for some it's part of their culture (which is really scary within itself)

I'm so glad that I live in Canada in the land of the free. I would hate to think how I would be if I lived
in a place where slavery was common place

You think the submissive attitude doesn't exist in Canada? I bet it exists in every country in the world. Someone does not believe they are "good enough" or whatever and bam, they're getting abused. It's more common than most think.

Submissive attitudes exists eveywhere.... In many ways, I'm that way too.

However, I don't think submissive attitudes = ownership of individual

damn, dictionary.com doesn't quite agree with me :/

according to the dictionary, I'm not really submissive.

 

[n0cmonkey]

Originally posted by: Jero

Originally posted by: n0cmonkey
You think the submissive attitude doesn't exist in Canada? I bet it exists in every country in the world. Someone does not believe they are "good enough" or whatever and bam, they're getting abused. It's more common than most think.

Submissive attitudes exists eveywhere.... In many ways, I'm that way too.

However, I don't think submissive attitudes = ownership of individual

damn, dictionary.com doesn't quite agree with me :/

according to the dictionary, I'm not really submissive.

It's not exactly the same thing, but it's damn hard to explain without sounding like a complete ass.

 

[lavagirl669]

I get what you mean NoCMonkey....

I think that as Jero said, this exists everywhere
and I see a lot of it here in Hawaii unfortunately.

Possessiveness, control....you name it....it sucks.

But it is a win win situation to get out of it and be ok
and not sit around throwing pity parties
or having a "hater" attitude.

 

[n0cmonkey]

Originally posted by: lavagirl669
I get what you mean NoCMonkey....

I think that as Jero said, this exists everywhere
and I see a lot of it here in Hawaii unfortunately.

Possessiveness, control....you name it....it sucks.

But it is a win win situation to get out of it and be ok
and not sit around throwing pity parties
or having a "hater" attitude.

Unfortunately, most people aren't strong enough to get themselves out of it. For women there are a few resources that are quite helpful. Of course, those resources are generally against helping out men in abusive relationships, which is ridiculous to say the least.

I see it all over the place. Pretty much anywhere you go someone will be in one of those relationships. It's horrid.

Anyhow, :beer: for you.

 

[lavagirl669]

true NoC

wish there were more resources for women out there in these kinds
of situations....

but thanks for the :beer:
and the thoughts....

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: lavagirl669
true NoC

wish there were more resources for women out there in these kinds
of situations....

but thanks for the :beer:
and the thoughts....

the best advice I can possibly give you is to learn how to defend yourself....


Take a course in martial arts or self defence.

If some guy in the future tries that sh!t on you again, he'll be lying down on the floor before he accomplishes anything

 

[n0cmonkey]

Originally posted by: Jero

Originally posted by: lavagirl669
true NoC

wish there were more resources for women out there in these kinds
of situations....

but thanks for the :beer:
and the thoughts....

the best advice I can possibly give you is to learn how to defend yourself....


Take a course in martial arts or self defence.

If some guy in the future tries that sh!t on you again, he'll be lying down on the floor before he accomplishes anything

While that's not a bad idea, it is attacking the symptoms instead of the illness. The biggest problem comes from people (men and women, a lot of people seem to forget that) not believing they deserve better, or are being mistreated, or thinking they're too "in love" to get what they truly deserve. Until they accept that abusive behavior is not right, the self defense won't help.

And at that point, emotional and financial support are just as important. There are plenty of resources to help WOMEN with this, although there can never be enough resources.