What is the hardest thing you've ever done?

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nakedfrog

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Carried an automatic transmission down three flights of stairs and across a parking lot, alone.
 

IGBT

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Tried to convince a family member to stop drinking and doing drugs...when somebody is hell bent on going down the road of wrong there's not much I could do cause he would not listen. Not a happy story to say the least....:(
 

AreaCode707

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Originally posted by: crab
Originally posted by: BigDan
Originally posted by: crab
Facing the fact that my injury is here to stay, my life will basically start over an its looking like I'll be single forever. woohoo.

Months and months of hospital stays, a buncha surgeries, a blood infection, blah blah blah.

Why would you be single forever? You seem like a great guy. Yeah, I know you have bad medical problems, but that isn't the only thing about you.

Thanks. :) I'm sure it'll come someday...I'm just impatient...and it sucks because the majority of people seem to assume that the disabled aren't interested in or capable of relationship...its not even considered it seems.

Cory, you're a totally awesome person. Circumstances conspired to bring that out in you, it seems. There will definitely be a girl (or more than one) who's going to see that in you and want to know more. I'm not looking, but if I was I could definitely see looking in your direction more than in the direction of a lot of the guys I know.
 

Maetryx

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It's an interesting question. But a lot of the answers are things that were unavoidable, or involuntary. I think that another interesting question would be what is the hardest VOLUNTARY thing you have ever done. Of course, that begs the questions of whether or not child birth is voluntary.

Because a lot of things you just handle because you have no choice. It's time to have a child, or it's time to have a kidney stone or get fired or lose a family member and basically you have no say in the matter, or no longer have any say in the matter.

So what is the hardest thing you have ever done that you could have "walked away from"?

I'll probably think of a better answer later, but back in April I took the P.E. (professional engineering) exam. That morning I stood in living room feeling sick in the pit of my stomach and trying to talk myself out of (or was it into?) going at all. I figured I would fail the test, an 8 hour ordeal. I finally forced myself to go, with the prodding of my wife, under the assumption that it would be good practice for when I took it next time. In fact I passed the exam. *Phew*.

Again, I'll probably have a better answer later.
 

Feldenak

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Jan 31, 2003
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Hrmm....

I would say sobering up realizing the answer to my problems isn't in a bottle. Then after that changing my major and returning to school at 29.

Edit: Now my toughest decision is if I want to add on an extra year of school for the Masters of Accountancy.
 

KingNothing

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Originally posted by: Feldenak
Hrmm....

I would say sobering up realizing the answer to my problems isn't in a bottle. Then after that changing my major and returning to school at 29.

Edit: Now my toughest decision is if I want to add on an extra year of school for the Masters of Accountancy.

Accountancy is seriously a word? All this time I thought Monty Python had made it up...:D
 

RIGorous1

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Originally posted by: dirtboy
I got divorced two years ago... Starting life over again from the bottom and dealing with all the emotional back wash that a divorce puts one through, was probably the hardest thing I had to do.

I feel you... I'm in a similar situation... minus 2 years :(
 

Rage187

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"that had to be hard.. did they join you eventually?"

Nope only happened about a month ago.

I miss my parents and brother/sisters.

My wife is coming to see me next week though for 10days.



It will eventually lead to a divorce.

No way this is going to work out.


Luckily I'm only 26, have a fantastic well paying job, and still attractive.

Plus we dont have any kids.


Any cute ATOT FEMALES in the Reno/Tahoe area?
 

cavemanmoron

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Hardest thing,letting the bank forclose on my first house,last year;
after it was on the market for over 2 years;
with no offers,the old neighborhood,has gone really downhill..... :(

It was very tough to let it go,even after my lawyer told me,it was best. :(

I had bought that house in 1980,just before i turned 22.



most painful thing,besides physical injuries;{like broken bones,torn muscles,surgeries.. : blah}
got divorced,

my {ex} brother-in-law,told me,my {ex} wife had been planning on leaving for about 2 years.
didn't see it coming,even tho a lot of the reasons she left were my fault...

hindsight is 20-20..

Live,and learn..
 

scauffiel

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That would be Basic Underwater Demolition/SEAL training. No better way to spend 54 weeks than getting kicked in the balls 24/7 and knowing that you volunteered for it. And you can volunteer out of it whenever you want. Eighty percent choose to. Wondering why you think you've got the guts to go on where so many have quit or failed.

Maybe it was being in the SEAL Teams; where you were surrounded by such high caliber people all the time that you came to believe you were ten feet tall and bullet proof. Constantly bettering yourself. Constantly improving.

Or maybe it was my rapelling accident where I shattered the heels and ankles of both legs, broke both bones in my right leg, crushed two vertebrae and destroyed three discs, shattered both my wrists and broke the end off my right arm. The three months I spent in the hospital. The corpsmen wiping my ass (because my hands are pinned up with external fixators and my back was broken) as I defecate into a bedpan on an open ward with twenty other patients separated only by curtains. The fourteen surgeries. The anger that it happened to ME. The countless hours spent in the gym getting back together. The denial that my life in the Teams was over. Not being able to carry my five year old daughter for ten minutes before my back is screaming at me. The subsequent realization that I won't be doing the things that I've trained for and love to do. Saying goodbye to friends and teammates. The medical retirement. The ongoing recovery. The daily pain from the time I wake, to the time I lie down at night.



Or it could be my separation and living away from my two great kids who are in Colorado with their mother, while I'm in Virginia.



Yeah, I'm going to go with being away from my kids as the hardest. But I'm probably biased. Maybe I'm just tired.



S.
 

StormRider

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Taking public showers in Junior High. Everybody had a garden snake but I only had an inch worm....
 

PCMarine

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Going on a grueling backpacking trip in the rockies... Although I am so glad it did it, as it was really a great lifetime experience.
 

Brutuskend

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Originally posted by: StormRider
Taking public showers in Junior High. Everybody had a garden snake but I only had an inch worm....

HAD???
rolleye.gif
:p
 

DigDug

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In no particular order

1. Completing my first year of law school
2. Breaking up with my last girlfriend after 1.5 years of being together.
3. Staying composed as a watched my mother lying on the floor, thinking she was dead.
4. Watching the twin towers fall, and thinking "what next"?
5. Realizing an re-realizing an re-realizing and re-realizing that my parents won't be around forever
6. Discovering that I am not as attractive as I thought I was.
7. Truly starting to realize that money doesn't buy happiness, and wondering what the next goal can possibly be.
8. Waiting to find that special someone.
9. Assuming that a special someone actually exists for me.
10.
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Koing

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Originally posted by: scauffiel
That would be Basic Underwater Demolition/SEAL training. No better way to spend 54 weeks than getting kicked in the balls 24/7 and knowing that you volunteered for it. And you can volunteer out of it whenever you want. Eighty percent choose to. Wondering why you think you've got the guts to go on where so many have quit or failed.

Maybe it was being in the SEAL Teams; where you were surrounded by such high caliber people all the time that you came to believe you were ten feet tall and bullet proof. Constantly bettering yourself. Constantly improving.

Or maybe it was my rapelling accident where I shattered the heels and ankles of both legs, broke both bones in my right leg, crushed two vertebrae and destroyed three discs, shattered both my wrists and broke the end off my right arm. The three months I spent in the hospital. The corpsmen wiping my ass (because my hands are pinned up with external fixators and my back was broken) as I defecate into a bedpan on an open ward with twenty other patients separated only by curtains. The fourteen surgeries. The anger that it happened to ME. The countless hours spent in the gym getting back together. The denial that my life in the Teams was over. Not being able to carry my five year old daughter for ten minutes before my back is screaming at me. The subsequent realization that I won't be doing the things that I've trained for and love to do. Saying goodbye to friends and teammates. The medical retirement. The ongoing recovery. The daily pain from the time I wake, to the time I lie down at night.



Or it could be my separation and living away from my two great kids who are in Colorado with their mother, while I'm in Virginia.



Yeah, I'm going to go with being away from my kids as the hardest. But I'm probably biased. Maybe I'm just tired.



S.

wow.

How did you let the accident happen or it just did? A moment of care lessness? Dam man sorry to hear. I know I would be shattered if that happened to me. I would get on and try to be back where I use to be but it wouldn't be the same as you know. Sorry man. You served your country, congrats on that. HOw many years did you serve?

I've not done anything as hard as you guys at all. I've climbed up this indoor wall where no one climbed up it so that felt dam good to me. Took a few months to get up it and build the strength as it was a steadying overhang so not much use of the legs. Climbed up this well that was cool and no one managed to do that either :D

Koing

 

Spamela

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finishing a 100 mile bike race in the mountains during summer.

my brain was fried for days afterwards.
 

hzl eyed grl

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How about two things? The first is dealing with a brain tumor at 18 years old. The second was both hard and great at the same time. It was when I left California in March to live with HayZeus. Hard because I'm an only child and very close to my mom and great because I fell in love.
 

Ppower

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So many, but the 2 most mentally painful. 1. Ending a relationship with a girl I loved and had been dating for 4+ years, because I knew in the end we would not be a good marriage match. 2. Having to make the decision to have a pet that I had since I was 16 years old put to sleep, because her digestive tract wasn't working right anymore(spent over $500 trying to find the problem) and she was slowly starving to death(she was 15 years old).

I think the hardest decisions in life deal with love.

As, for phyiscally hard sheesh I couldn't count the amount of things. I can say bench pressing 315lbs is hard and squating 450lbs makes you feel like an accordion. To many hard jobs in the past I would much rather forget about. :)
 

Ameesh

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Apr 3, 2001
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Originally posted by: anno
Originally posted by: conjur
Originally posted by: Ameesh
Originally posted by: anno
Originally posted by: BigDan
1) Called off an engagement to someone I really loved but couldn't marry
2) Gave birth to a 8lb14oz son with no meds
3) Gave birth to a 7lb13oz daughter with no meds
4) Hiked the Chilkoot Pass trail (aka Klondike Gold Rush trail)
5) Found my birth mother
6) Lost my Grandma, had to help my Mom with funeral arrangements
etc

ok.. the giving birth unmedicated thing is the hardest physical thing I ever did (but.. you win, I only had to do 5lb8 and 6lb11).

kidney stone ownz jo0

I've heard that.

My nephew's wife gave birth back in Mar. and had a kidney back in May. She said she'd take giving birth over the kidney stone *any* day!

fortunately, I can't argue that! I expect duration of labor, position of baby and duration of stone-passage would have to figure in to the equation..

probably I would lose. still.. the question was hardest thing YOU've done.. yes?

(had the babies on purpose.. rather skip kidney stones, if I get a choice..)

ive had a kidney stone! i 0wn baby birth!