me and two friends have linksys routers. So i put myself on port forwaring one port, and set that as the file transfer port on Aol instant messager. So my other friends do the same and it doesnt work . Now we can send to other people who aren't on routers. And normally we cant. So then we put ourselves all as the DMZ hosts, and it works fine even linksys router to linksys router. So for some reason i think that we cant send to people on routers with just port forwarding, and need to use DMZ (we all had linksys, but i figure some network thing would prevent us from sending to netgear, and other brands) Can anyone explain why? AIM's help files say the default file transfer port is 5190 , but we changed it to the port being forwarded btw.