What is the best way to handle this situation?

[envy me]

So I met this girl a few months ago at a nightclub, we hung out twice however during the brief time that we've known each other we became fairly close. We made plans for next week. I was randomly going through facebook and checked hers. It turns out she died.

I did not get a chance to meet her family or close friends as I did not know her for a very long time.

I have found out the arrangements for the visitation and funeral.

I don't know what happened to this girl. I have tried to contact one of her friends and delicately explain the situation I'm in but I have not received any response. From some the comments people have posted it sounds like it may have been a suicide.

I'm not really sure the best way of handling this situation. I don't want to approach the family because they are grieving right now.

 

[SandEagle]

was she married? if not, just talk to her parents and let em know that you were a friend of hers

 

[TehMac]

Sounds like you didn't really know her...you wanted to, but it's too late. That sucks man,

My advice would be to move on, it sucks, but there's nothing really for you at this point.

 

[Leros]

If you need to go to the funeral for yourself then go. If you're ok with not going, then I would just leave it as it is. Funerals are for the living, not for the dead.

 

[envy me]

she was not married. It was just her mother, when should I ask her? at the visitation? I don't know anything about her mother? Wouldn't she find it awkward discussing this with someone who is a stranger to her?

 

[GodlessAstronomer]

If I were you I'd stay far away.

 

[OUCaptain]

If you want, swing by the funeral just to find out how she died. But thats all. Do not approach the family. "Hi, I met your daughter at a bar. I was working on boning her but she up and died on me. What happened?" I doubt that would go well.

Your post count indicates you are the anti-christ standing on his head.

 

[envy me]

do they mention that at funerals? like what happened during eulogies?

 

[Colt45]

Originally posted by: envy me
do they mention that at funerals? like what happened during eulogies?

Not usually, almost 100% no if it is suicide.

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: envy me
So I met this girl a few months ago at a nightclub, we hung out twice however during the brief time that we've known each other we became fairly close. We made plans for next week. I was randomly going through facebook and checked hers. It turns out she died.

I did not get a chance to meet her family or close friends as I did not know her for a very long time.

I have found out the arrangements for the visitation and funeral.

I don't know what happened to this girl. I have tried to contact one of her friends and delicately explain the situation I'm in but I have not received any response. From some the comments people have posted it sounds like it may have been a suicide.

I'm not really sure the best way of handling this situation. I don't want to approach the family because they are grieving right now.

dude, you made a chick kill herself?

 

[Gunslinger08]

I wouldn't ask. Go to the visitation/viewing and funeral (if you feel so inclined) and just keep your ears open. People will definitely be talking about how such a young person died. Introduce yourself to the mother and tell her you were just getting to know her daughter well and wish you'd had more time with her.

 

[guyver01]

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[guyver01]

Originally posted by: envy me
So I met this girl a few months ago at a nightclub, we hung out twice .. It turns out she died.

I'm not really sure the best way of handling this situation.

Hanging out TWICE does not put you in a relationship.

Unless you fell in love at first sight (it does happen) and are grieving for her loss... best is to move on and forget it.

 

[Pliablemoose]

Go to the viewing, ask the funeral home staff how she died.

If you need more closure, go to the funeral, but don't talk to the family, they have enough shit to work through no matter how she died.