<< I find this a little hard to believe... maybe they hid the seriousness of their habit from you out of shame, but that just defies the effects of nicotine. >>
Weren't you the former drug addict? I wouldn't expect you to find it easy to believe, since drug addicts obviously don't know the meaning of self restraint.
Tobacco as an OCCASIONAL pleasure used to be the rule, not the exception, just like the occasional pipe or cigar smoker. In the beginning, my grandfather couldn't afford to buy enough tobacco to smoke any more than he did. They traveled into town every two weeks and he bought what his modest income would allow for spending on luxuries. He was a firm believer in moderation. He didn't just ostensibly preach it, he BELIEVED it. Too much of anything is not good. Some people live according to that maxim, others don't.
MANY people reserve alcohol and tobacco such as cigarettes, pipes, cigars and smokeless tobacco as an occasional pleasure today. That you don't know any of them may have more to do with the character of those you chose to surround yourself with. Because you don't understand the meaning of "limits" or "moderation" doesn't mean the same must therefore be true of everyone.
<< Your body eventually builds up tolerance to it, and actually develops a dependency to it, in which you'll need more nicotine just to stay 'normal'. >>
ONLY in those persons who are constantly exposing themselves to it. When you grant your body a reprieve from ANY addictive drug, or do not cross the maintanence thresshold required for dependency and decreased sensitivity to develop, every exposure is like the first. This is FACT. The person who smokes a pipe or enjoys a snifter of brandy ONLY in the evening after dinner a few times per week does NOT build any measurable tolerance or require more to stimulate the same level of pleasure/reward feedback in the brain. The person who overindulges to the point that they have not granted sufficient reprieve from the drug's influence between exposure will certainly develop dependency and tolerance.
<< You have no idea what you're spewing about. Addiction has nothing to do with the 'me want' factor. A behavior becomes addictive when several conditions are served, including tolerance, withdrawal, and lost of control of the behavior... look at this thread itself, and how many people hate the behavior, say it's disgusting, telling other people to don't start, and want to quit themselves. It has nothing to do with the 'me want' factor. >>
Then by your logic nobody can quit? Of course that's bullsh-t. How could people quit at all if they were just hopeless slaves to addictive substances? Its a choice. When people are ready to quit, they quit. Those who aren't, won't. People may not "chose" to become addicted, but they do chose to engage in the behavior that predictably leads to addiction.
I'm very familiar with the clinical significance of addiction; the dopaminergic system, the nucleus accumbens shell, the pre-frontal cortex, etc. But, if you want to re-educate me, have at it.
<< It's thoughts like that that is making quitting so difficult for people. People seem to think that to quit should be a matter of will power... that if they use pharmacological aid such as bupropion or the nicotine patch, that it then means they have a serious problem... something now out of their control, and so they're ashame of it and don't bother seeking those type of aids. >>
That's their choice how they want to perceive it. Addictions are tough to quit, nobody denies that. Tough doesn't equal "impossible". Its tough to lose weight. Its tough to maintain good grades. Its tough to tolerate some of your neighbors without strangling them. Its tough to get beyond the loss of a loved one. Its tough to work-out. Its tough some days just getting out of bed. Its tough some days just going to work. WAAAAAAAAAAA! Cry me a freaking river.
I don't care if someone wants to try and ease their cessation by using whatever means they think will work; hypnosis, gum, patches, meditation, group support, incarceration, a length of rope hung from the ceiling. Whatever they think will get them over the hump. There's no shame, just quit. People do it all the time. 30 year 3 pack-per-day smokers wake up one morning, cough-up a lung biscuit and nearly choke to death on it, become disgusted and proclaim THAT'S IT! And they quit - just like that. I've seen it, that's how my mother quit. My father quit a few years later, though not in time to stave off lung cancer.
<< It's the same reason why people don't like going to see a therapist or taking prozac for depression... once they reach that stage, then they think their state must be extremely bad if they lost complete control over it and need outside aid. >>
They do so because they chose to do so. Depression is a self-deceiving condition in and of itself. People don't need to be 'discouraged' from seeking treatment, they rationalize all by themselves how they don't need to seek treatment. I know, I went through a 6 month long depression where I rarely left my apartment. Cry me a river.
<< Yeah, addiction is all about the 'me want' factor. The junkie lying on the floor in his own diarrhea, curled up in the fetal position because of a severe stomach ache, and running a fever wants a shot of heroin because of the 'me want' factor. >>
Yeah, by that time, they're addicted. How did they get to that point? Maybe there were indulging themselves on behalf of or for the benefit of someone else?
<< The insidious nature of nicotine is that people don't want to believe how addictive it is... users don't want to admit it until it's too late... and non-users can never appreciate how addictive it really is. It's a wad of dry leaves wrapped in paper, you should be able to quit that. Obviously you're ignorant, both to the effects of nicotine, and to human behavior. >>
Well, obviously. I mean, I'm not a drug addict, never have been one. I've experimented with it all. I even had 'urges' to keep doing it, because it was pleasurable. But, I realized that was the catch, that was the bait, so I left it alone for a while. IOW, I had "restraint". Some of my friends rejected this, despite my attempts to discourage them. They would say "Ahh, what's the big deal? I'm not going to get addicted." One of them is dead, but he chose that road. I can't make his decisions for him.
Addiction is a self-inflicted "disease", calling it a disease is a true insult to those who have REAL diseases they did NOT bring upon themselves through foolish, indulgent and decadent life-style choices.