What is "serious"?

[wiredspider]

So I my b/f and backed off to just being friends, basically I think that means we broke up. I of course still love the guy. Been talking to him lately to figure out what he wants. He had said he didn't want to be involved because we both have to much going on (he works and I got to college..). Anyhow, he says he does want to be involved, but doesn't want it to get too serious. So wtf does that mean from a guy? Thanks for any insight, maybe some of it will clear my crazy mind up.

 

[Ryan]

He wants to be friends with benefits.

 

[Cattlegod]

keep going to college.

and, it means he wants to do other people if he gets the chance and it will be ok.

 

[pulse8]

It means he wants all of the benefits and none of the problems of a relationship. (benefits meaning sex and someone to hang out with if his friends are busy)

Tell him to piss off.

 

[bradruth]

Originally posted by: pulse8
It means he wants all of the benefits and none of the problems of a relationship. (benefits meaning sex and someone to hang out with if his friends are busy)

Tell him to piss off.

:thumbsup:

 

[The Stigenator]

means everything in the relationship minus the commitment for marriage or future.

 

[psiu]

Originally posted by: bradruth

Originally posted by: pulse8
It means he wants all of the benefits and none of the problems of a relationship. (benefits meaning sex and someone to hang out with if his friends are busy)

Tell him to piss off.

:thumbsup:

:thumbsup:

 

[shimsham]

just get pregnant. problem solved.

 

[jjones]

It means he wants to do your best friend and for you to be okay with it, maybe even join in.

 

[olds]

It means he has his eye on or has found, someone else.

 

[Gooberlx2]

Originally posted by: bradruth

Originally posted by: pulse8
It means he wants all of the benefits and none of the problems of a relationship. (benefits meaning sex and someone to hang out with if his friends are busy)

Tell him to piss off.

:thumbsup:

Meh, we don't even know anything about the guy. I know I've been in a couple situations where I wanted to just be friends w/ benefits with a girl. It worked with one girl for a small while until I graduated and moved away, another time the girl wanted the relationship to become more, and I didn't. Atleast he's not stringing you along letting you think you're in a real relationship while he goes on dates behind your back.

 

[FoBoT]

he means "why buy the cow when i get the milk for free"

 

[alphadude]

Forget the punk.

Life is way to short to waste on this guy.
Find someonelse.

Damn, is that even a word? Someonelse or is it someone else????? 🙂
Sum1else. WTF!

Brain has just exploded ... must ....... find .... replacement.

 

[bradruth]

Originally posted by: Gooberlx2

Originally posted by: bradruth

Originally posted by: pulse8
It means he wants all of the benefits and none of the problems of a relationship. (benefits meaning sex and someone to hang out with if his friends are busy)

Tell him to piss off.

:thumbsup:

Meh, we don't even know anything about the guy. I know I've been in a couple situations where I wanted to just be friends w/ benefits with a girl. It worked with one girl for a small while until I graduated and moved away, another time the girl wanted the relationship to become more, and I didn't. Atleast he's not stringing you along letting you think you're in a real relationship while he goes on dates behind your back.

Yeah, we do know something about the guy--he's a guy. I'm a guy, and I know if I said that to a girl it would mean exactly what pulse8 said (although that's not something I'd likely say in the first place).

 

[Gooberlx2]

Originally posted by: bradruth

Originally posted by: Gooberlx2

Originally posted by: bradruth

Originally posted by: pulse8
It means he wants all of the benefits and none of the problems of a relationship. (benefits meaning sex and someone to hang out with if his friends are busy)

Tell him to piss off.

:thumbsup:

Meh, we don't even know anything about the guy. I know I've been in a couple situations where I wanted to just be friends w/ benefits with a girl. It worked with one girl for a small while until I graduated and moved away, another time the girl wanted the relationship to become more, and I didn't. Atleast he's not stringing you along letting you think you're in a real relationship while he goes on dates behind your back.

Yeah, we do know something about the guy--he's a guy. I'm a guy, and I know if I said that to a girl it would mean exactly what pulse8 said (although that's not something I'd likely say in the first place).

I know it meant exactly what pulse8 said. Read my post again and you'll see I was talking about exactly that. I'm just saying that it all doesn't necessarily mean he's a bad guy/a$$hole for it. I've been there and done that. He could have/should have worded it differently, but I'd bet he's trying to be polite and not say: "Hey, I just wanna hang out and fvck around". There's a lot of worse things he could be doing than telling her (in his indirect way) he doesn't want a full/real relationship anymore.

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: wiredspider
So I my b/f and backed off to just being friends, basically I think that means we broke up. I of course still love the guy. Been talking to him lately to figure out what he wants. He had said he didn't want to be involved because we both have to much going on (he works and I got to college..). Anyhow, he says he does want to be involved, but doesn't want it to get too serious. So wtf does that mean from a guy? Thanks for any insight, maybe some of it will clear my crazy mind up.

It means he wants to still have sex while pursuing possiblity of sex with others.

You're the backup. Every guy has one.

 

[sniperruff]

Originally posted by: spidey07

Originally posted by: wiredspider
So I my b/f and backed off to just being friends, basically I think that means we broke up. I of course still love the guy. Been talking to him lately to figure out what he wants. He had said he didn't want to be involved because we both have to much going on (he works and I got to college..). Anyhow, he says he does want to be involved, but doesn't want it to get too serious. So wtf does that mean from a guy? Thanks for any insight, maybe some of it will clear my crazy mind up.

It means he wants to still have sex while pursuing possiblity of sex with others.

You're the backup. Every guy has one.

not me =(

but i do like what FoBoT said "why buy the cow when i get the milk for free"

 

[spanky]

Originally posted by: spidey07

Originally posted by: wiredspider
So I my b/f and backed off to just being friends, basically I think that means we broke up. I of course still love the guy. Been talking to him lately to figure out what he wants. He had said he didn't want to be involved because we both have to much going on (he works and I got to college..). Anyhow, he says he does want to be involved, but doesn't want it to get too serious. So wtf does that mean from a guy? Thanks for any insight, maybe some of it will clear my crazy mind up.

It means he wants to still have sex while pursuing possiblity of sex with others.

You're the backup. Every guy has one.

every guy has two.

 

[KarenMarie]

Originally posted by: bradruth

Originally posted by: pulse8
It means he wants all of the benefits and none of the problems of a relationship. (benefits meaning sex and someone to hang out with if his friends are busy)

Tell him to piss off.

:thumbsup:

That is exactly right...

He wants to be able to call you up, come over and have sex with you... not strings attached, then drop you whenever he finds something 'better' to do.

I am sure that you feel you are worth more than that... so tell him to fvck off...

and just to mind fvck him.. tell him that you have another b/f and it is the best sex you have ever had!

😉

 

[wiredspider]

Any other opinions? I kinda wish these things were the case so I could just forget about him... His actions haven't quite reflected the things said (ie I was totally drunk and he didn't try to take advantage).

Either way, time to move on... I've actually been totally honest with every guy that has asked me out, told them I was still in love with my ex. Should I really be telling them that right off the bat or something I should kinda keep to myself? I tell them because it feels like it would be unfair for them not to know that...

 

[KarenMarie]

Originally posted by: wiredspider
Any other opinions? I kinda wish these things were the case so I could just forget about him... His actions haven't quite reflected the things said (ie I was totally drunk and he didn't try to take advantage).

Either way, time to move on... I've actually been totally honest with every guy that has asked me out, told them I was still in love with my ex. Should I really be telling them that right off the bat or something I should kinda keep to myself? I tell them because it feels like it would be unfair for them not to know that...

You don't need to explain anything to anyone you are just dating.. it will only spoil everything...

Who knows... you can go on a date with someone else and it could turn out to be your true love, and you will have wondered why you ever wasted your time with this one... that opportunity will be lost if you just tell everyone that you are in love with someone else..

Plus you are young... go out, have fun and don't worry about the guy who only wants things his way

🙂

 

[spanky]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
Plus you are young... go out, have fun and don't worry about the guy who only wants things his way

🙂

that is great advice.


sooo............ how YOU doin' :laugh:

 

[bleeb]

Originally posted by: rbloedow
He wants to be friends with benefits.

yeah i think so too.

 

[KarenMarie]

Originally posted by: spanky

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
Plus you are young... go out, have fun and don't worry about the guy who only wants things his way

🙂

that is great advice.


sooo............ how YOU doin' :laugh:

Me? I am old... in a committed relationship and a displaced parent!!

But on the good side... I found $250.00 in the pocket of a jacket I have not worn in a year and am trying to decide what I am gonna treat myself with!

🙂

 

[spanky]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie

Originally posted by: spanky

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
Plus you are young... go out, have fun and don't worry about the guy who only wants things his way

🙂

that is great advice.


sooo............ how YOU doin' :laugh:

Me? I am old... in a committed relationship and a displaced parent!!

But on the good side... I found $250.00 in the pocket of a jacket I have not worn in a year and am trying to decide what I am gonna treat myself with!

🙂

rejected :brokenheart:


so wiredspider.... how YOU doin' :laugh: