what if my colleague says F*** word...

[withsmile]

Occasionally (recently more often, 3 times a day), when he got pissed off, sometimes a little loud, most of the time murmuring to himself. I'm a girl just out of school, 30ish people corporate subsidiary environment, all male, but nobody is like him. We have good personal relationship, but when he says F-word, I still feel embarrassed, is that me or him? What do I do?

 

[SmoochyTX]

Grow up.

ETA - If he wasn't saying it to you or about you, then get over it. Now on the other hand if he was cursing you out using foul language then report it.

Grown-up people cuss. As you said, you're fresh out of school and are getting used to this working environment. You can't honestly expect everybody to walk on eggshells around you just because you're some young female right? Oh wait. :roll:

It's things like this that make me ashamed to be a female at times.

 

[KLin]

Report the fscking bastard to your HR department. :thumbsup:

 

[Fullmetal Chocobo]

Originally posted by: withsmile
Occasionally (recently more often, 3 times a day), when he got pissed off, sometimes a little loud, most of the time murmuring to himself. I'm a girl just out of school, 30ish people corporate subsidiary environment, all male, but nobody is like him. We have good personal relationship, but when he says F-word, I still feel embarrassed, is that me or him? What do I do?

Research all of the uses for the "F" word. Not all (hardly any) are sexual, thus no reason to be embarrased.

 

[91TTZ]

Originally posted by: withsmile
Occasionally (recently more often, 3 times a day), when he got pissed off, sometimes a little loud, most of the time murmuring to himself. I'm a girl just out of school, 30ish people corporate subsidiary environment, all male, but nobody is like him. We have good personal relationship, but when he says F-word, I still feel embarrassed, is that me or him? What do I do?

Call his mommy. She'll hide his bike and won't let him eat dessert for a week!

 

[buzzsaw13]

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
Grow up.

 

[puffff]

say it a few times yourself.. you'll get over it.

 

[Colt45]

Get a helmet. Most people I work with say it 3 times in a row, rather than 3 times in a full day

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: withsmile
Occasionally (recently more often, 3 times a day), when he got pissed off, sometimes a little loud, most of the time murmuring to himself. I'm a girl just out of school, 30ish people corporate subsidiary environment, all male, but nobody is like him. We have good personal relationship, but when he says F-word, I still feel embarrassed, is that me or him? What do I do?

That happens occasionally.. actually a little more than occasionally at my job and it's glaringly inappropriate in a professional envirnoment. You have a manager? he/she needs to manage this.

 

[clamum]

Originally posted by: KLin
Report the fscking bastard to your HR department. :thumbsup:

:thumbsup: Fvckin 'a.

 

[3NF]

F*** him

 

[mpitts]

See if you can get transferred to a different 4th grade class.

 

[FrustratedUser]

WTF! I use the F work daily at work.

 

[FrustratedUser]

Where the F*** are the pics!?

 

[withsmile]

I'm sure it's not sexually related, just a way to show he's pissed off.

but I'm seriously not used to that word...

Originally posted by: Fullmetal Chocobo

Originally posted by: withsmile
Occasionally (recently more often, 3 times a day), when he got pissed off, sometimes a little loud, most of the time murmuring to himself. I'm a girl just out of school, 30ish people corporate subsidiary environment, all male, but nobody is like him. We have good personal relationship, but when he says F-word, I still feel embarrassed, is that me or him? What do I do?

Research all of the uses for the "F" word. Not all (hardly any) are sexual, thus no reason to be embarrased.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: FrustratedUser
WTF! I use the F work daily at work.

in front of clients?

 

[redgtxdi]

ROTFLMAO at some of the responses here........:laugh:

 

[AgaBoogaBoo]

Is he doing it infront of others? Clients?

If you don't like it - talk to him about it, but don't say that it's just because you don't like it. If it's not putting a bad impression on you if you work with him a lot or something and do presentations together, then I wouldn't bother. Sometimes it's a simple matter of pointing it out, he might have not even thought about what he's saying.

 

[Gunslinger08]

You would cry every day where I work. I think 50% of our conversations are offensive to someone.

 

[IAteYourMother]

Originally posted by: withsmile
I'm sure it's not sexually related, just a way to show he's pissed off.

but I'm seriously not used to that word...

You'll probably start hearing it more often

 

[FrustratedUser]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: FrustratedUser
WTF! I use the F work daily at work.

in front of clients?

We don't have clients. I work in government funded R&D.

 

[IHateMyJob2004]

Originally posted by: withsmile
Occasionally (recently more often, 3 times a day), when he got pissed off, sometimes a little loud, most of the time murmuring to himself. I'm a girl just out of school, 30ish people corporate subsidiary environment, all male, but nobody is like him. We have good personal relationship, but when he says F-word, I still feel embarrassed, is that me or him? What do I do?

YYour 30, just tell him you don't like it. What's he going to do, report you for requesting he stop saying F***?

AS for professionalism, your bst off ignoring him. AS long as he doesn't swear in front of clients, it's not an issue and fairly common place to run into these people on occasion. I do, all the time but not till I know the people around me are comfortable with it.

I've had my slips and some embarrising ... never with a client near and usually in part due to a combo of to much caffiene and lack of sleep the previous night.

Anyways ... let it slide if you can, but don't be afraid to tell him to his face. That is the first step. NEVER go to higher-ups before talking to the person directly. This is common curtosy.

 

[IHateMyJob2004]

Originally posted by: withsmile
I'm sure it's not sexually related, just a way to show he's pissed off.

but I'm seriously not used to that word...

Originally posted by: Fullmetal Chocobo

Originally posted by: withsmile
Occasionally (recently more often, 3 times a day), when he got pissed off, sometimes a little loud, most of the time murmuring to himself. I'm a girl just out of school, 30ish people corporate subsidiary environment, all male, but nobody is like him. We have good personal relationship, but when he says F-word, I still feel embarrassed, is that me or him? What do I do?

Research all of the uses for the "F" word. Not all (hardly any) are sexual, thus no reason to be embarrased.

He is just venting internally. To him it's probably subconscious ... but it acts as astress reliever for him.

 

[Fullmetal Chocobo]

Originally posted by: withsmile
I'm sure it's not sexually related, just a way to show he's pissed off.

but I'm seriously not used to that word...

Have you told him that? Easiest possible way to a resolution of the situation.

 

[bozack]

woah, you could never work where I do then...profanity is a staple, and I work with primarily women...heck we even have an award where whomever gets the department director to give you "the finger" you get a remote controlled middle finger hand on your desk for the day...whomever gets her to flip them the bird most in a year will win a prize...needless to say we aren't that mature.