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What freedoms did you give up when you got married?

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apinomus

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I am getting married soon, so for those of you already married, what freedoms did you have to give up once you were married?
 
Originally posted by: Nik

If that's the way you look at marriage, why bother?
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I totally agree. If you found the right person, then they allow you to be you with very few exceptions.
 
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: apinomus
I am getting married soon, so for those of you already married, what freedoms did you have to give up once you were married?
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If that's the way you look at marriage, why bother?
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I'm not. I'm just wondering what other people gave up. My fiance and I are very open with each other and really aren't like a lot of the people that seem to get married. Neither of us go out and party or do a whole lot of things people may have to give up like drinking, smoking, strip clubs, etc. It's more of wanting a list of things that may cause me to think of things I myself do that I might have to give up or do less of.
 
I'd presume the freedom to have sex with other people. I mean, I'm not married, so I couldn't possibly know, but it's just an assumption. An educated guess if you will. 🙂
 
Originally posted by: letdown427
I'd presume the freedom to have sex with other people. I mean, I'm not married, so I couldn't possibly know, but it's just an assumption. An educated guess if you will. 🙂
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Don't tie yourself into such a tight box.
 
Originally posted by: Garet Jax
Originally posted by: letdown427
I'd presume the freedom to have sex with other people. I mean, I'm not married, so I couldn't possibly know, but it's just an assumption. An educated guess if you will. 🙂
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Don't tie yourself into such a tight box.
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But being tied down with a tight box can be alot of fun! 😉
 
having sex whenever i wanted. i also lost the ability to actually look at a victoria's secret mag. now she thinks i'm just doing it to look at the women and not pick something for her out. :shrug; oh well.
 
Originally posted by: Garet Jax
Originally posted by: Nik

If that's the way you look at marriage, why bother?
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I totally agree. If you found the right person, then they allow you to be you with very few exceptions.
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both of you are idiots. wanting to know the list of things that the op might give up is not the same as not loving the person you are marrying. if he wants to know, he has a right to know.
 
Originally posted by: apinomus
I am getting married soon, so for those of you already married, what freedoms did you have to give up once you were married?
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The freedom to be an idiot 100% of the time without having to answer to anyone about it.

 
Originally posted by: Garet Jax
Originally posted by: Nik

If that's the way you look at marriage, why bother?
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I totally agree. If you found the right person, then they allow you to be you with very few exceptions.
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But the YOU changes to fit the other person a bit, you just don't notice it unless you are outside the relationship. You do give up freedoms in any relationship. Even more when you have kids. It is all about if it is worth it to you to give up some freedom. Most people won't notice it or won't care about the freedom in comparison to the companionship they gain. Some of us just haven't found someone where it is worth that.
 
Originally posted by: 3cho
both of you are idiots. wanting to know the list of things that the op might give up is not the same as not loving the person you are marrying. if he wants to know, he has a right to know.
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You must have missed the point.
 
Going out too many nights of the week for whatever (sports, etc.) She gets home at like 7pm (and leaves the house at 7am) so we don't have all that many hours to begin with.
 
Nothing, other than the ability to date anyone else. You have to accept people for the way they are. If you go into a marriage thinking, "This person will be great as soon as I change this about them", you're in for a rocky road.

Now what did I give up when we decided to have kids? Where do I begin?
 
Originally posted by: Red Dawn
Originally posted by: apinomus
I am getting married soon, so for those of you already married, what freedoms did you have to give up once you were married?
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The freedom to be an idiot 100% of the time without having to answer to anyone about it.
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Not really the ability to be an idiot 100% of the time, but more having to think that my actions affect more than just myself now.
 
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