I think it is customary for the children to get the Father's last name. Dunno why, or where I heard that... but to me, it just seemed like the right thing to do.
Kinda like... it was ME who was breaking with tradition, and it was not right to automatically make the kid do it too.
If she's a career woman, it could be that careers are 90% about connections. If her name changes, some of the contacts she has may not be able to reach her anymore.
I have an aunt that went by both last names for 5 years until she was recognized by her new name easily.
All in all, a last name, last I checked, is not a good measure of how much someone loves you, so what's it matter?
A rose still smells just as sweet by any other name!
I have an aunt that went by both last names for 5 years until she was recognized by her new name easily.
All in all, a last name, last I checked, is not a good measure of how much someone loves you, so what's it matter?
A rose still smells just as sweet by any other name!
rh71
No Lifer
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It means she hasn't been shown the back of your hand yet.
I kid... I kid... my wife hasn't changed her last name to mine yet and it's been 8 months. She's in no hurry to... as it's time and effort with the paperwork. I only bring it up once in a while to screw with her but I really don't care as long as she intends to do it... sometime in our life. But she thinks "Lee" is too common or something...
I kid... I kid... my wife hasn't changed her last name to mine yet and it's been 8 months. She's in no hurry to... as it's time and effort with the paperwork. I only bring it up once in a while to screw with her but I really don't care as long as she intends to do it... sometime in our life. But she thinks "Lee" is too common or something...
Career and publications
I do socially go by my husband's name, and I never correct anyone when they call me it. It's just not my legal name or the one I use at work.Lets just get rid of the names for identification alltogether.
Lets use numbers instead, we can still use names, but on if its on paper, its a number.
Names are just confusing.
Lets use numbers instead, we can still use names, but on if its on paper, its a number.
Names are just confusing.
we wanted to keep track of my wife's maiden name, so all our kids have a second middle name, which is her maiden name.
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Our four kids each have the maiden name as one of their middle names.
Some choose to use it, others do not.
sixone
Lifer
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Whether to take my husband's name was something I really had to think over before we married. I was born with cool initials, the same for first, last and middle, and I didn't really want to give that up. But I decided if I was going to marry him, it wouldn't be right to try to keep part of my life separate. In the end, I took his name. Plus, I don't have to spell it all the time.
mugs
Lifer
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I actually wouldn't blame my fiancee if she wanted to keep her last name. Her last name is Smith, my last name is constantly mispronounced, constantly misspelled (it's only 6 letters!), and it's Spanish so people who've never seen me in person always assume I'm Mexican.
i know a lot of feminists that never changed their last names. for me, changing my last name is something i did but i found difficult to do as i'm related to everyone who has the same last name as my maiden name (since it's SO rare which i find really cool), while my current last name is more common and people ask me if i'm related to so-and-so (the answer is always no).
Its a nice idea to keep your last name under a few circumstances ..
Your name is your livelyhood for your career. Lets say IE real estate where its your name that people hear.
You are the only child or from a family of women where your name wouldn't normally get passed on.
Your name is your livelyhood for your career. Lets say IE real estate where its your name that people hear.
You are the only child or from a family of women where your name wouldn't normally get passed on.
in some cases, a woman is established in buisness or some other public situation and changing her last name would be a unacceptably hassle not just to her, but to her clients. for a real estate agent, for example, changing your name could mean losing word of mouth and starting all over.
if you are a guy, imagine what a pain in the ass it would be to change YOUR name. think of how many buisness contacts you'd have to call, web addresses/emails to change, new buiness cards to make, social security, DMV, insurance, medical records, financial things (credit cards, banks), right down to your freaking auto mechanic.
if the woman i marry wants to take my name, i will be very flattered and pleased. if she doesn't, i understand completely.
if you are a guy, imagine what a pain in the ass it would be to change YOUR name. think of how many buisness contacts you'd have to call, web addresses/emails to change, new buiness cards to make, social security, DMV, insurance, medical records, financial things (credit cards, banks), right down to your freaking auto mechanic.
if the woman i marry wants to take my name, i will be very flattered and pleased. if she doesn't, i understand completely.
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