Originally posted by: aidanjm
Originally posted by: tRaptor
I dont know why this is bothering me. I goto work every day, i come home I sleep. Maybe its just work getting to me. I just think, what am I working twards?
any meaningful friendships or relationships in your life? people you enjoy spending time with?
anything in your work life you'd like to explore? some interest or hobby you've never really taken the chance to explore?
Yeah, that's what I always try to ask the wife.
I have a hobby (boardgaming - see sig; and tinkering with PCs and PC gaming), so I'll always have a reason to work. More money for boardgames, the challenge of a match of wits with a person, etc. Good stuff!
My wife does NOT have any hobbies. So, she'd be totally going off into introspection and about the pointlessness of life if we didn't keep moving. Improvements to the house, investment properties, new jobs, new friends, etc - always have to keep things active to keep her distracted, because she can find nothing she likes to do for FUN.
Basically, the real reason she works two jobs now is because she wouldn't know what to do with her free time! It keeps her mind busy. Heck - try that, get a second job!
Personally, I think the best solution is to get out and MEET PEOPLE. Find a hobby you can share with a number of people and have fun doing it.
In my experience, though, this is the hardest thing with the wife. She'd complain "What's the purpose of life? Why go on?" and I suggest - "Well, find a reason to - find a hobby, something to enjoy doing or sharing with people" and I just get back "No, that's not it, and I hate other people, anyway"
It's, like, well DUH, you aren't even TRYING to find a reason to enjoy life, you are just looking to gripe!
(FWIW, she's not often like that - her moods are really VERY heavily dependent on personal validation at her job. When her boss is down on her, and the company is cutting payroll and riding their asses about shrink or conversions or whatever, she gets in these moods. Still, a good hobby that involves other people is a solution to this!)