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What do you do when your mad at yourself?
- Thread starter Maleficus
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the question reminded me of this comic
any genuine responses? im really really frustrated.
why is your response to the situation frustrating you? Why do you value your action as either good or bad? If you consider it bad, is it within your control to change? If it is, what possibly prevents you from changing to a desired state? Why do you desire a particular state? Do you think it can be obained?
I would really like to know. Let me begin by saying that there is nothing wrong with you. Whatever you did will pass. Whatever you consider valuable now will not likely matter in the future. What is the dearest value to you will be gone after you die. Is it worth the hassle to consider your (mis)deed as so paramount to your being that you must dwell on it and attach yourself to the state you're in? Personally, I have found all that to be meaningless. No matter what you may think right now, I still love you, no matter who you are.
Cheers ! 🙂
why is your response to the situation frustrating you? Why do you value your action as either good or bad? If you consider it bad, is it within your control to change? If it is, what possibly prevents you from changing to a desired state? Why do you desire a particular state? Do you think it can be obained?
I would really like to know. Let me begin by saying that there is nothing wrong with you. Whatever you did will pass. Whatever you consider valuable now will not likely matter in the future. What is the dearest value to you will be gone after you die. Is it worth the hassle to consider your (mis)deed as so paramount to your being that you must dwell on it and attach yourself to the state you're in? Personally, I have found all that to be meaningless. No matter what you may think right now, I still love you, no matter who you are.
Cheers ! 🙂
Maleficus
Diamond Member
Linuxboy, first off you scare me man... and generalized answer to your above question: what i did was stupid other people pay for it. I realize it wont be important 100 years from now but in all reality most people dont care to much for 100 years from now because we are all mainly concerned with ourselves and our families, all of which wont be around in 100 years. it has an impact here and now so the far future doesnt concern me all that much. I attach myself to my deeds as does everyone its how we judge ourselve sand how others judge us. If you have no care for your actions you are empty period. im just ticked off looking for a reasonable way to vent.
you scare me man...
why does that frighten you? It's exactly what I was thinking at the time. I realize it's probably a most unconventional answer but why does it elicit fear?
I attach myself to my deeds as does everyone its how we judge ourselve sand how others judge us. If you have no care for your actions you are empty period.
I have met some who are unattached completely. In their world, the idea of judgment is itself empty. Why do you assume that the lack of attachement must also bring a lack of care and thus lead to what I assume you mean as nihilism. I allude to nothingness, which does not mean the absence of somethingness.
Cheers ! 🙂
why does that frighten you? It's exactly what I was thinking at the time. I realize it's probably a most unconventional answer but why does it elicit fear?
I attach myself to my deeds as does everyone its how we judge ourselve sand how others judge us. If you have no care for your actions you are empty period.
I have met some who are unattached completely. In their world, the idea of judgment is itself empty. Why do you assume that the lack of attachement must also bring a lack of care and thus lead to what I assume you mean as nihilism. I allude to nothingness, which does not mean the absence of somethingness.
Cheers ! 🙂
Maleficus
Diamond Member
you scare me because you are talking like a suicide hotline operator or something.
I have never in my life met someone who is completely unattached there is and always will be something to someone that they truly care about. it may not be a physical entity but there will always be something. they may not care much in terms of judgement but i would be willing to bet that if the one person they admired and loved most came up and told them they were complete and total idiots and they hated them it would affect them. Through analysis i bet you would somehow associate this with my situation let me assure you now that is not the case.
I may try that working out thing later but not now cause i feel just drained and upset. thanks for the post though.
Keep the suggestions coming.
I have never in my life met someone who is completely unattached there is and always will be something to someone that they truly care about. it may not be a physical entity but there will always be something. they may not care much in terms of judgement but i would be willing to bet that if the one person they admired and loved most came up and told them they were complete and total idiots and they hated them it would affect them. Through analysis i bet you would somehow associate this with my situation let me assure you now that is not the case.
I may try that working out thing later but not now cause i feel just drained and upset. thanks for the post though.
Keep the suggestions coming.
<< I did something extremely stupid i just wanst thinking and now im completely infuriated with myself. what do you guys do when your mad at yourself to kinda help you chill out?
dont ask what i did either cause its personal. >>
? I sleep
? Call up a friend and flood her(or very ocassionally him) up with all your problems story
? Get bit*hy with my parents
? Break stuff I no longer need
? Eat
you scare me because you are talking like a suicide hotline operator or something.
I've always found it interesting how behavior is categorized by people. As early as 2, 3 months of age, children can categorize gender (of adults only), some sounds, colors, etc. What would happen if you didn't categorize my post and tried to understand the meaning behind it?
I have never in my life met someone who is completely unattached there is and always will be something to someone that they truly care about. it may not be a physical entity but there will always be something. they may not care much in terms of judgement but i would be willing to bet that if the one person they admired and loved most came up and told them they were complete and total idiots and they hated them it would affect them.
Affectation and unattachment are two different things. I think we're having some trouble communicating. I define unattachment as the state when one is in congruence with the Ultimate, in effect, the ego-less state and affectation as external influence on the self (that is not the same self as present in unattachment).
And you are right, people like that are nearly impossible to find just because it requires significant effort to come to such a point.
Through analysis i bet you would somehow associate this with my situation let me assure you now that is not the case.
I associate nothing until I am absolutely certain of it. I am absolutely certain about very few things. At times, I think I know nothing.
All the same, my only intention in the original post was to make you thing. The unconventional method acts as a congitive disonance, thus forcing you to adjust some aspect of cognition or behavior to adapt.
Now that that's clear, let me actually try and come up with some concrete way for you to cope with your current state of perceived inadequacy.
I may try that working out thing later but not now cause i feel just drained and upset. thanks for the post though.
Keep the suggestions coming.
Ok, there is no short-term solution for this. Well, no actually you can postpone the solution by means of drugs, social activities, and general busy-ness. But in the long run, you must see what causes you to react and feel angry with your own performance (or lack of it). In effect, you need to realize the moment you have between a cause, and your reaction. That moment is when you can choose what you need to do, including not reacting to the situation.
If you really want an easy solution to being mad, go and work out really hard or play a video game. Anything you like to do that absorbs your attention will do.
Cheers ! 🙂
I've always found it interesting how behavior is categorized by people. As early as 2, 3 months of age, children can categorize gender (of adults only), some sounds, colors, etc. What would happen if you didn't categorize my post and tried to understand the meaning behind it?
I have never in my life met someone who is completely unattached there is and always will be something to someone that they truly care about. it may not be a physical entity but there will always be something. they may not care much in terms of judgement but i would be willing to bet that if the one person they admired and loved most came up and told them they were complete and total idiots and they hated them it would affect them.
Affectation and unattachment are two different things. I think we're having some trouble communicating. I define unattachment as the state when one is in congruence with the Ultimate, in effect, the ego-less state and affectation as external influence on the self (that is not the same self as present in unattachment).
And you are right, people like that are nearly impossible to find just because it requires significant effort to come to such a point.
Through analysis i bet you would somehow associate this with my situation let me assure you now that is not the case.
I associate nothing until I am absolutely certain of it. I am absolutely certain about very few things. At times, I think I know nothing.
All the same, my only intention in the original post was to make you thing. The unconventional method acts as a congitive disonance, thus forcing you to adjust some aspect of cognition or behavior to adapt.
Now that that's clear, let me actually try and come up with some concrete way for you to cope with your current state of perceived inadequacy.
I may try that working out thing later but not now cause i feel just drained and upset. thanks for the post though.
Keep the suggestions coming.
Ok, there is no short-term solution for this. Well, no actually you can postpone the solution by means of drugs, social activities, and general busy-ness. But in the long run, you must see what causes you to react and feel angry with your own performance (or lack of it). In effect, you need to realize the moment you have between a cause, and your reaction. That moment is when you can choose what you need to do, including not reacting to the situation.
If you really want an easy solution to being mad, go and work out really hard or play a video game. Anything you like to do that absorbs your attention will do.
Cheers ! 🙂
Maleficus
Diamond Member
<< perceived inadequacy >>
You somewhere got the thought that i think myself inadequate. This is not the case at all, i simply messed up i still think just as much of myself as before i have no problem with myself. Everyone makes mistakes and im not foolish enough to think that i am some ultimate screw up or something idiotic like that just because i did one thing wrong. I'm just looking for a different way to vent that is all. You are trying to take this WAY to deep. I did something i regret and am looking for a way to take my mind off of it that is all.
And the whole attachment thing was just a difference in definition i guess.
You somewhere got the thought that i think myself inadequate. This is not the case at all, i simply messed up i still think just as much of myself as before i have no problem with myself. Everyone makes mistakes and im not foolish enough to think that i am some ultimate screw up or something idiotic like that just because i did one thing wrong. I'm just looking for a different way to vent that is all. You are trying to take this WAY to deep. I did something i regret and am looking for a way to take my mind off of it that is all.
And the whole attachment thing was just a difference in definition i guess.
That's a good argument. However consider the source of your seeing yourself as "i simply messed up". What does it mean to mess up? Does it mean that you did something that you perceive as only out of your ordinary conduct or does it mean that you did something you "know" is somehow "wrong". If you perceived no iadequacy, you would never make the claim that you "messed up", quite the contrary, you would claim "hey I'm perfect, this is just some activity, just like any other". yet you didn't do that, which leads me to believe that your perceived action is somehow the result of a mind that perceives itself as imperfect, or alternately, inadequate in perfection.
So yes and no, you think I mean to talk about your perceived worth and I do, but not in the traditional sense of "having a problem with oneself".
You claim that I make this too deep, and that to me signifies that you nave not yet experienced the depths of your own mind. My questions are fairly elementary and can be answered without too much thought. I realize you are "looking to take your mind off it", but did you ever think that there's a reason it's on your mind in the first place? If there is, then all I tried to offer is the best solution I know of to "get this off your mind".
Cheers ! 🙂
Maleficus
Diamond Member
Inadequacy and imperfection are apples and oranges dude.
in·ad·e·quate (n-d-kwt)
adj.
Not adequate to fulfill a need or meet a requirement; insufficient.
Imperfect is obviously with flaw or error, Not Perfect
I am obviously Imperfect but not inadequate, If i thought i was inadequate i would say something like life is not worth living im gonna go kill mysel for something stupid like that. You are trying to make this a question to me of my opinion of my own self worth. This is almost irrelevant all i asked for was suggestions as to how to relieve some frustration built up by an error of mine. that is all. this isnt a deep philosophic debate on the meaning of life or perception or self worth or anything. Your vigilance in interrogation is actually really annoying. You seem to be on some righteous crusade to make people "think" deeper or something to the sort. I have no need for it...
in·ad·e·quate (n-d-kwt)
adj.
Not adequate to fulfill a need or meet a requirement; insufficient.
Imperfect is obviously with flaw or error, Not Perfect
I am obviously Imperfect but not inadequate, If i thought i was inadequate i would say something like life is not worth living im gonna go kill mysel for something stupid like that. You are trying to make this a question to me of my opinion of my own self worth. This is almost irrelevant all i asked for was suggestions as to how to relieve some frustration built up by an error of mine. that is all. this isnt a deep philosophic debate on the meaning of life or perception or self worth or anything. Your vigilance in interrogation is actually really annoying. You seem to be on some righteous crusade to make people "think" deeper or something to the sort. I have no need for it...
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