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what do you do when you miss someone???

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CyNics

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my grandfather passed away 2 days ago...i missed him so muchhh...what to do..what to do? I want to talk to him man... 🙁 I didn't have the opportunity to talk to him since one month ago after he had a heart attack..he was like..semi-coma for 1 month...then..he just left us..peacefully..
 
Think about the good times....talk with people about him! For me, I always found that works. That, and keeping yourself SUPER busy so that you are not lying around just thinking about him being gone....🙁
 
Originally posted by: MrsSkoorb
Think about the good times....talk with people about him! For me, I always found that works. That, and keeping yourself SUPER busy so that you are not lying around just thinking about him being gone....🙁
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Very nicely put. 🙂 But just remember; while it's good to keep yourself busy so that you don't dwell on it, you must also come to terms w/the fact that he's gone. Just don't want to see you get stuck in denial, that's all. Mrs. Skoorb gave great advice. Good luck to you, CyNics.
 
Originally posted by: MrsSkoorb
Think about the good times....talk with people about him! For me, I always found that works. That, and keeping yourself SUPER busy so that you are not lying around just thinking about him being gone....🙁
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I don't think I can get myself SUPER busy cause I'm currently having a 2 weeks holidays 🙂 I'm not sad actually.. cause he was already 88, had enjoyed whatever he wanted to, got nothing to worry about, son/grand son all have their own career... and the best thing is I was able to be with him in his last few breaths..I just missed him so much...
 
Then you are very lucky to have shared something with someone so special to you. 🙂

If not super busy, then just pleasantly occupied. Be happy...he led a long life! 😀

EDIT: Just to add, the first year Skoorb and I were married, he lived in the US and I in Canada. While he was still alive of course and I could talk to him, I was not with him and missing is one of the worst feelings. I used to make myself think how lucky I was that there was someone in this world of ours that loved me as much as Skoorb does. I would smile everytime I thought of that.
 
Originally posted by: MrsSkoorb
Think about the good times....talk with people about him! For me, I always found that works. That, and keeping yourself SUPER busy so that you are not lying around just thinking about him being gone....🙁
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🙁

You should talk out loud, as if you were talking to him ... it'll make you feel worse and better at the same time ...
 
Originally posted by: Blieb
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You should talk out loud, as if you were talking to him ... it'll make you feel worse and better at the same time ...
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my mum might think I've became nutz because of missing my grandfather too much..hehe 🙂
thanks..your suggestion made my laugh for the first time today 😉
 
if you feel a little strange talking to him (or if you think your mom will start to freak out), write him a letter of what you might want to say to him if he were there with you...the release will really help the healing process. Best of luck
 
reload.
and try again, but this time not to lead them so much.





















yeah, yeah - I'm a bastard for typing that.

serously, my granpappy died several years ago but I "imagine" conversations with him all the time now.
 
Originally posted by: ffmcobalt
I drink heavily and kill myself in a huge 30-car pile-up on the freeway.

nik
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What an idiot comment! And IMO most of yours are. How did you manage to post almost 20,000 posts and not get banned for being an asshole?

To CyNics:

Your grandpa did live a long life, hopefully a full one. I don't plan on being around that long, I have no surviving grandparents. You must always remember that death is a part of life. The thing that bothers me most in the world is I know I will watch my parents die unless I have an untimely death. I am so unsettled every time I bring that thought up.

 
Originally posted by: MaxDepth
reload.
and try again, but this time not to lead them so much.
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I don't know which is worse here - yours or ffmcobalt's.

Show a little respect. Both are appropriate responses to someone whining over a girl that dumped them and they miss her (but reload and try again) ... but not when someone's grandfather dies.

Asshats.

- M4H
 
Originally posted by: Kiyup
Originally posted by: ffmcobalt
I drink heavily and kill myself in a huge 30-car pile-up on the freeway.

nik
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What an idiot comment! And IMO most of yours are. How did you manage to post almost 20,000 posts and not get banned for being an asshole?

To CyNics:

Your grandpa did live a long life, hopefully a full one. I don't plan on being around that long, I have no surviving grandparents. You must always remember that death is a part of life. The thing that bothers me most in the world is I know I will watch my parents die unless I have an untimely death. I am so unsettled every time I bring that thought up.
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yeah i know that death is a part of life..I'm not sad...just missed him so much...staying with him for 20 years.. 🙁 I tried to keep myself busy by modding my case the whole day 🙂 ..but still..before I went to bed..I still thought of him...

 
Originally posted by: ffmcobalt
I drink heavily and kill myself in a huge 30-car pile-up on the freeway.

nik
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lol wat the heck....


neways...think of it this way...ur gramps had one helluva fun time w/ u...he saw u when u were born, saw u grow up and all and become who u became....don't be sad cuz he's happy...happy as hell to get to knw u and have fun w/ u...so there's no point in being sad (although it's very very hurtful to see someone you love pass...but your human...we all will be sad sometime or another...)

he died peacefully...in his sleep knowing who u were....my grampa never knew the real me...he was struck by a careless bus driver who ran a red light and passed away before he got to know me better...i wish i knew a ton lot more korean to communicate better w/ him...hehe he was such a goof-off...he always played pranks on the whole family....that old dude was freakin hilarious.....it's just that i didn't get that "ohhh i miss him sooo badly" effect because simply, we didn't know each other that much...it's a regret that will haunt me....my gramps had 79 yrs of life experience and stories that he coulda told me...all gone ya knw.......

well, i wasn't all that too saddened because he knew that me and my bro, my cousins were on the right track to success (my bro got a 1500 on SAT's, i got straight A's ...heading to UCSD as EE major...my cousin, a screw up during high school, got his act together, joined the navy...now he's a intelligence officer for the navy...my other cousin graduates as a civil engineer, gets a job, engaged...)...so those were the good news we were able to pass on to my gramps....i'm sure he was satisfied when he died...so i wasn't too much distressed...

hehe well, now it's ur turn i suppose to do life...he screwed a chic and out came ur mom/dad and now came u.....now go get laid...
 
ffmcobalt's a fvcking idiot..just ignore him..i've learned to do so..

sorry to hear about your g-pa cynics... be glad you got to know him and have good memories.. i never knew either of my grandpas...and one of my grandmas... i will probably feel the same way when my one remaining grandma passes away.. not sure how i would deal with it.
 
Originally posted by: datalink7
Originally posted by: ffmcobalt
I drink heavily and kill myself in a huge 30-car pile-up on the freeway.

nik
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A bit out of line nik, don't you think?
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Actually, I didn't even read the thread. All you guys getting all pissed off because you think that I came in here and posted something to be mean or hurt someone, get over it. I came in here having read the thread title only and posted something completely random and exaggerated. Now calm down and relax.

If my post offended or stung the originator of this thread, I'm sorry.

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nik
 
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