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What do you do when life feels like its crushing you?

schdaddy

schdaddy

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usually when I'm stressed I'll exercise or listen to music... but here lately nothing works with money probs, school, and keeping my gf happy everyday

i just need a freakin break and nothing seems to satisfy🙁
 
My remedy is laying in bed until early in the morning, not sleeping and thinking about all that's f*cked up in your life. For some reason, it's not working.

Seriously tho, sorry to hear about your situation, sounds like it's close to mine (school probs, just broke up with girl of 2.5 years, life sucks)...I've tried drinking...and tomorrow is my appointment with a counseling service. 🙂
 
I like to drink heavily and sleep in the next day. Its good to mix some lan gaming into the heavy drinking too. More fun.

That usually works for me 😀
 
Originally posted by: LOLyourFace
i fvcking run. a lung opening jog by the river.. I run off all the pain and frustration..
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That's exactly what I do, but I have a talk with myself while running if I really feel like sh!t. For some reason, just talking to myself, outloud mind you, it suddenly gets everything out in the open, even with no one there, and it definitely helps me feel better. I was having nightmares every night for 2 weeks straight a month ago and I was really out of whack. I finally spent one night, ran for an hour and just talked about my problems to myself. I came back feeling like a million bucks and I still feel it to this day. It works wonders.

 
Originally posted by: Ameesh
well if try to keep your girlfriend happy everyday is makin you sad , dump her ass, shes not good for you.
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no she's not the problem - actually she makes things 10x better
its just that we don't have much time to hang out with school and work & when we do have time we don't have much cash to do anything different
 
I would recommend a few books on Zen. One of their stories about two tigers, a cliff and a strawberry had a great impact on me.
 
I'd run...but I think I'd die. I'm in good physical shape, but my cardio has been horrible since childhood since I had asthma. I'll try running, and I'll do maybe a half mile before I think I'll die...not tired, just can't breathe.

So, I tend to let it out in violent tendencies, punching, kicking, whatever.

And then the drinking takes over.....gets very interesting there. 😉

But seriously, have you considered seeing/talking to someone? I've been too stubborn and proud to admit I need help for the last 3 years...and finally I made an appt last week. I'll let you know how it goes.
 
Originally posted by: EvilYoda
I'd run...but I think I'd die. I'm in good physical shape, but my cardio has been horrible since childhood since I had asthma. I'll try running, and I'll do maybe a half mile before I think I'll die...not tired, just can't breathe.

So, I tend to let it out in violent tendencies, punching, kicking, whatever.

And then the drinking takes over.....gets very interesting there. 😉

But seriously, have you considered seeing/talking to someone? I've been too stubborn and proud to admit I need help for the last 3 years...and finally I made an appt last week. I'll let you know how it goes.
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I had asthma since childhood, except I've noticed that if I do more cardio my asthma goes down. For about 3-4 years straight when I was heavliy involved with sports and the gym I never noticed any asthma problems, and lately it's been coming back up. For the first month or two it's pretty bad, just keep that inhaler handy, but it gets a bit better. Also try swimming too.

Except swimming didn't go well with my smoking habits. My lungs would feel fine (not the asthma-like pressure) but my capacity has gone down or something because of smoking, so time to cut that out. (except the occassional J to calm myself)
 
Originally posted by: trmiv
I like to put on Pantera-"Fvcking Hostile" as loud as I can get it, and go freaking nuts.
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Music used to work great for me too, the past few years it will only add to the depression though. Fewer and fewer things can penetrate it. A concert still helps sometimes, and for the rest I just became a workaholic/game addict. Just do stuff to keep yourself from thinking or feeling.
 
A dog is expensive (but they really help!). My parents all use to just nag/yell each other all the time, and when my sister brought home a dog everyone just seem to forget about all their petty differences and just instead spoil the dog now instead of yelling at each other. Too bad the dog does not have pernament residence with us🙁 My sister shares responsibility with her roomate 30 miles away.

Any dog with do. You can't help but just laugh when you look at them. And knowing that someone needs you and wants to be with you all the time is a really great feeling🙂

what do you want NOW?😉
 
typically when this happens i grab life by the neck and give it a swift kick in the balls followed by a good st@bing. This usally does the trick. now for thoes extream cases where life just wont take the hint i ask for some help from my good friend Jose Curevo. He comes along with 10 or so of his friends and we have a grand old time. usally involves breaking something which releaves untold ammounts of stress. (unless you broke something that was yours. that always sucks)

i then proceed to sleep for a good 20 hours or so. nothin like a good sleep to make things better. and you bypass having to say good by to Curevo in the morning. not always the most plesent expirence. that should do teh trick.

if not just so you know theres always someone out there that has it worse then you. and sometimes knowing that its not as bad as it seems is all ya need
 
trmiv
"Vulgar Display Of Power" is one of my favorite albums to workout to (or when I need to work up the nerve confront someone/something)



But seriously, have you considered seeing/talking to someone? I've been too stubborn and proud to admit I need help for the last 3 years...and finally I made an appt last week. I'll let you know how it goes.
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I don't believe I need counseling (I could be wrong), its just that my normal "I need to chill" techniques aren't working
 
yeah, counseling isn't for everyone, but I don't think it'd hurt.......if it doesn't help, so be it, but if it does, then maybe you've found an answer. It's free for students anyway, on campus. All my "techniques" have since stopped working, for a while now, so I don't know what else to do. So depressed all the time, no good friends anymore, lost the girlfriend, she's causing me all sorts of pain now.....can't have a good solid hour w/o worrying or thinking about something.

So if counseling isn't for you.........another vote for drinking? I took about 6 drinks (mixed beer and liquor....that was fun) 3 weekends ago in under an hour. That made things interesting really fast 🙂
 
Nothing. I know no other state of mind. It is constant, so it is normal. In a way, this might be easier than those who feel it sometimes. At least I am used to it 🙂
 
i find a close friend, usually my roommate now that i'm at school and we listen to some music, smoke some herb, and just talk about stuff. I had a bunch of problems when i first got here this year (and i still kinda do) between my girlfriend breaking up with me but then toying around with my feelings, missing my family, generally being unhappy at school and stressed by the work and a few other things. I'm not saying it makes the problems go away, but if you do it and get a good night sleep it certainly does make you feel better. And please, no flames about drug use or whatever, if you dont agree with it, thats fine, but for me and some people, its a nice way to relax.

I'm just counting the days til thanksgiving now so I can get away from all this crap for a little bit.
 
Originally posted by: trmiv
I like to put on Pantera-"Fvcking Hostile" as loud as I can get it, and go freaking nuts.
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heheh, I've done that, too -- and Mouth for War 🙂
 
Originally posted by: Moonbeam
I would recommend a few books on Zen. One of their stories about two tigers, a cliff and a strawberry had a great impact on me.
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The Tiger and the Strawberry

Sophie, a member of the Fellowship of Reason®, was walking through the forest one day. Suddenly, a tiger rushed out of the bush after her. She ran and ran to escape the deadly teeth and claws of the wild beast. Sophie came to a cliff and scurried over the edge, hanging on for dear life just out of the reach of the tiger above. Then she noticed five more tigers below her at the bottom of the cliff. Sophie looked around for some way of escape and she spied a strawberry growing out of the side of the cliff. It was the most perfect strawberry she had ever seen?ripe, red, full, perfectly formed, juicy, sweet, and delicious. Holding onto the cliff by one hand, Sophie reached over, picked the strawberry, and she ate it.

Spirituality is the management of the faculties of memory, actuality, and imagination toward the goal of happiness. 🙂 source
 
Originally posted by: AndyTriboletti
Originally posted by: Moonbeam
I would recommend a few books on Zen. One of their stories about two tigers, a cliff and a strawberry had a great impact on me.
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The Tiger and the Strawberry

Sophie, a member of the Fellowship of Reason®, was walking through the forest one day. Suddenly, a tiger rushed out of the bush after her. She ran and ran to escape the deadly teeth and claws of the wild beast. Sophie came to a cliff and scurried over the edge, hanging on for dear life just out of the reach of the tiger above. Then she noticed five more tigers below her at the bottom of the cliff. Sophie looked around for some way of escape and she spied a strawberry growing out of the side of the cliff. It was the most perfect strawberry she had ever seen?ripe, red, full, perfectly formed, juicy, sweet, and delicious. Holding onto the cliff by one hand, Sophie reached over, picked the strawberry, and she ate it.

Spirituality is the management of the faculties of memory, actuality, and imagination toward the goal of happiness. 🙂 source
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OK, what was the point of that story?
 
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