What do u talk about with girls?

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dude

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Talk about how great your X was and your X was this and that. They love to hear stuff like that.
 

Mookow

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<< just talk to her about stuff, especially her! girls love to talk about themselves, like how their day went. >>



Oh yeah. Women absolutely love to talk about themselves. You just have to ask the right questions to get them started... after that, the trick is to learn to say "uh huh", "wow", "really?", and "oh, how sad" like you have actually been listening.
  • "How was your day?"
  • "Have you lost weight?"
    This one works well, unless she has actually gained weight, in which case you have gotten yourself into trouble. Use with caution.
  • "Wow, that [insert article of clothing that she is wearing here] looks great on you"
    Note that while this may not be phrased in the form of a question, they tend to treat it as such, and tell you where they bought it at, when they bought it, who was with them at the time, etc
  • "Anything interesting happen at work today?"
    Note that this one can be hit or miss, but its worth a try
  • "How is your [insert class name here] class going?"
  • "Nice shoes... wanna f#ck?"
    You knew I had to put at least one smartass comment in there ;)
 

ThePresence

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Nothing in particular. You can't come with a list of topics to talk about. It's a conversation! Conversations just happen, you can't plan out the direction they go.
 

FSUpaintball

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My personal strategy is to talk about one subject as long as it stays interesting. You can stay on one topic for 10 minutes or more this way, and it's still very interesting. Usually what happens is that while talking about one thing, you'll want to comment on another related subject. Don't talk about that related subject!!!! Save it for when the original conversation is about to get boring. Then start talking about your other thought. That way, it's hard to run out of stuff to talk about.


If you're really desparate, go with Mookow's suggestions. Those are good old n' trusties.
 

Chrono

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hint
give yourselves some space
seems like you two are always together which can be a bad thing

space is good because you can tell about all the funny stuff that happens when she's not around
and the both of you can still be comfortable and happy being with each other :)

just talk about anything really
what happened during your day? your past? what you want to happen? blah blah
i don't know
just think of various dumb things which can turn into whole discussions ;p
 

AaronP

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I usually start by "accidently" dropping the results of my STD test on the ground near some hot chick, and she'll pick it up, glance at it for a second, and see that I am clean.

Then I bend over to tie my size 17 shoes which are about 4 sizes too big. They usually look down for a second, notice the size of my shoes, put two and two together, and simply hand me a room key or time and address, and then its time to get to business.
 

Noriaki

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Same thing I do with anyone else.

In fact I usually find it easier to talk to girls about stuff than guys.

If you are having awkward silences maybe you need to find someone you have more in common with so you can talk about more.

 

Eli

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Heh.. just whatever comes up.. lol..

I know of the awkward silence you speak of. She may, or may not be feeling the same thing. I wouldn't worry about it too much, just be yourself. ;)
 

Jfur

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we laugh at all the guys we know and discuss their physical flaws and hpw geeky they are when they try to talk to us ;)
 

joohang

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<< we laugh at all the guys we know and discuss their physical flaws and hpw geeky they are when they try to talk to us ;) >>


LOL.

I personally have trouble talking to girls because our interests are so different. But then after talking for a while, I usually find some common interests and start talking about it.

My problem is that once I start talking about one of my interests, I know A LOT about it. I get carried on and scares off the girl (at least it feels like it). I don't really care though. I just try to stop myself from talking too much and look too nerdy. :)

What can I do? I'm too smart. ;):eek:
 

Jerboy

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The same thing I talk about with guys, except I talk to them about guys and they seem to like that. Avoid talking about CS or anything technical that interests you, because they most likely won't have a clue. Talk to them about some cool place to hang out, about movies, something you two have in common like class... Don't say f word every two sentence either.
 

Maggotry

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Been married almost 7 years. We talk about laundry, diapers, drain cleaners.......... :eek:
 

PeeluckyDuckee

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First time I met this girl, we talked and talked and talked throughout the nite at her place, all the way till 5am morning next day when I had to leave and be on my way home from holidays. In case you were wondering, no we did not do anything out of the ordinary.

Go with the flow.
 

ThaGrandCow

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<< I usually start by "accidently" dropping the results of my STD test on the ground near some hot chick, and she'll pick it up, glance at it for a second, and see that I am clean.

Then I bend over to tie my size 17 shoes which are about 4 sizes too big. They usually look down for a second, notice the size of my shoes, put two and two together, and simply hand me a room key or time and address, and then its time to get to business.
>>

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Thats the most ignorant thing I've heard in a month at least! I love it! :D:D:D:D
 

Jerboy

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How can you not know what to talk about anyway? Girls usually spits out topic faster than you can finish up and they'll never give you enough time for silence.
 

Jfur

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I once went on a date with this really shy guy. FINALLY he began to talk, and it was all about the steps he used to clean his military rifle. He went on for about 20 minutes, but he could or would not talk about anything else. It was really, really awkward. He just stared at me and I did not feel like talking much in that situation.

Like others mention, just talk about normal things -- and please do not assume that we dislike sports or computers or sci-fi or any other thing. Talk about things that interest you and listen to what interests her -- it's that simple. If you get stuck, ask thoughtful, open-ended questions.
 

Freejack2

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<< "Nice shoes... wanna f#ck?" >>



Didn't work. Possibly because she wasn't wearing shoes. :p
j/k :) :D :)
 

joohang

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Oct 22, 2000
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<<

<< "Nice shoes... wanna f#ck?" >>



Didn't work. Possibly because she wasn't wearing shoes. :p
j/k :) :D :)
>>


Then talk about her bra. If she ain't wearing one, what are you waiting for trying to come up with a question to ask?
 

her209

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I talk to them about the same stuff I talk about with guys for the most part. They are just normal people too. Thats one thing I learned a while ago. Treat them for the most part like your guy friends (but dont fart towards them). Be a little more gentle, but still treat them like everyone else. What do you do when you get into silence with your friends? Just dont hit the woman and everything will be alright.

You mean I should talk aboot how many w0men i've slept with?
 

ThaGrandCow

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<< I once went on a date with this really shy guy. FINALLY he began to talk, and it was all about the steps he used to clean his military rifle. He went on for about 20 minutes, but he could or would not talk about anything else. It was really, really awkward. He just stared at me and I did not feel like talking much in that situation.

Like others mention, just talk about normal things -- and please do not assume that we dislike sports or computers or sci-fi or any other thing. Talk about things that interest you and listen to what interests her -- it's that simple. If you get stuck, ask thoughtful, open-ended questions.
>>

Yes, exactly. Don't assume they don't like things, but then again don't immediately drop that you're going to the next star trek convention and you're going in full regalia. Wait until after a few dates when the other person is interested. Then your interest becomes a funny "quirk" as opposed to something that will repel the woman. As for the military guy, well we can't win them all can we? Maybe he had something else on his mind that night, maybe you and him just didn't click, or maybe he just wasn't comfortable enough around women yet. Everyone needs practice, and maybe you were one of the first people he'd actually been on a date with.
 

Jfur

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<< I talk to them about the same stuff I talk about with guys for the most part. They are just normal people too. Thats one thing I learned a while ago. Treat them for the most part like your guy friends (but dont fart towards them). Be a little more gentle, but still treat them like everyone else. What do you do when you get into silence with your friends? Just dont hit the woman and everything will be alright.

You mean I should talk aboot how many w0men i've slept with?
>>



Read the first paragraph again, but substitute: "Treat them for the most part like your guy friends..." with "Treat them for the most part like your guy friends but without making up absurd and laughable lies" ;)
 

joohang

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Oct 22, 2000
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<< I once went on a date with this really shy guy. FINALLY he began to talk, and it was all about the steps he used to clean his military rifle. He went on for about 20 minutes, but he could or would not talk about anything else. It was really, really awkward. He just stared at me and I did not feel like talking much in that situation.

Like others mention, just talk about normal things -- and please do not assume that we dislike sports or computers or sci-fi or any other thing. Talk about things that interest you and listen to what interests her -- it's that simple. If you get stuck, ask thoughtful, open-ended questions.
>>


LOL. So true.