I understand that sentiment. What would make the distinction confusing to me would be the underlying assumption that all indifference is willful. I once told you I didn’t care what you thought. You took that statement to task, I think in a negative way, and at least a dialog ender forcing me to explain a viewpoint that requires the same kind of unconscious assumptions you continue to make here. You reason for your confusion is invisible because the assumptions they rest on are true to you only so long as they are unconscious and unexamined. I speak a different language than you do but I use the same words.
So indifference to you is colored emotionally by the notion of willfulness, the intention to want not to know to escape responsibility and any sense of guilt for being that way. But how about indifference at the level that caring would exacerbate the harm caring can do. Take for example, enabling an addict to obtain whatever poison he or she might crave because you can’t handle their suffering and by alleviating it you are doing a good thing. What about when caring in addition requires sacrifice that will cause more harm to you than any benefit you provide someone else. Finally why care about that over which your caring harms you and affects nothing positively in the real world, that it’s just a game you are playing to delude yourself your being good?
What if with such self awareness in mind, your choose not to participate because you are not prisoner to such imaginary needs to see yourself as a caring person, lacking any need for egotistical self flattery being a caring person grants you. Maybe we could call it tough love.
If you can’t be emotionally manipulated by the unconscious assumptions you make because you do not make them, surely it is better than indulging the sadistic pleasures that are so commonly the pleasures of those who have given themselves permission to inflict on others the misery they unconsciously experience from their own self hate.