I think it is common for people to be nervous and not have anything to talk about in person after they have talked in depth online. When you are online you can be whoever you want to be bascially. You get to think about everything you type before you type it and ackward pauses aren't that ackward. But in real life you have to make eye contact, you are more exposed as the person you really are. So if you have been yourself online you should have no problems. Just act normal, and be calm, don't push for sex or anything. Be like Fonzie.
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What are your experiences meeting someone offline?
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imported_Tomato
Diamond Member
I met Gabriel in person two nights ago... we'd been chatting online for a couple of weeks prior to the meeting.
We met up in a coffee shop in West Hollywood, and I got hopelessly lost... was about 30 minutes late. That was a good way to break the ice, I apologized profusely about my lack of direction and he said he was just glad I hadn't stood him up.
From there, it just flows... ask about things you've talked about online (about each other's lives, etc.), etc. Good times... we're getting together again next Tues/Wed.
I'm meeting up with Zach for a movie next week. Also met him online... 🙂
We met up in a coffee shop in West Hollywood, and I got hopelessly lost... was about 30 minutes late. That was a good way to break the ice, I apologized profusely about my lack of direction and he said he was just glad I hadn't stood him up.
From there, it just flows... ask about things you've talked about online (about each other's lives, etc.), etc. Good times... we're getting together again next Tues/Wed.
I'm meeting up with Zach for a movie next week. Also met him online... 🙂
CaseTragedy
Platinum Member
thats probably how you got your keg... 😉
imported_Tomato
Diamond Member
Most good, some exceptional, some weird.
-Met Forest, a hippy who gave me a "red pill" filled with "the purest, most organic, Afgan-grown Mary Jane money can't buy" at the end of our meeting in person
-Met Whitney, a UCLA radiologist MD/PhD only interested in sex (he didn't get any)
-Met Jason, an MIT grad/computer tech with a really hot import model little sister, who is now one of my best friends in SoCal
-Met Jacob, who is also currently one of my best friends in SoCal
-Met Ruby, a webpage designer who turned out to be a "user" and a very poor excuse for a "friend" (we no longer speak)
-Met Izzy, a nice raver/paralegal who scared me off because her fights with her boyfriend were violent and public
-Met David, music producer, chess player, gentleman
-Met Joel, another MIT grad who turned out to be pretty flaky
-Met Gabriel (see above), a personal trainer, two nights ago, who was absolutely sweet and adorable... he's gonna whip me into shape and teach me how to surf
-Met Christa, an older woman who I dated a couple times, but there was no chemistry
-Met JC, rocker guy w/castle
-Met Kat, who I now consider my best female friend in California
There are more, but that's all I can remember off the top of my head.
imported_Tomato
Diamond Member
ATOT-ers who attended my board game meetups = :heart:
Made some friends from those, and I enjoyed the company of everyone who came... you guys bring the best snacks, and have been my favorite/most challenging Trivial Pursuit competitors to date. 😀
Made some friends from those, and I enjoyed the company of everyone who came... you guys bring the best snacks, and have been my favorite/most challenging Trivial Pursuit competitors to date. 😀
murphy55d
Lifer
Seriously, is this a "friend" or someone you hope to have relations with? I met a few people from online who are FRIENDS, so it's no big deal, you talk to them like you would any other friend you know.
If you hope to score, then I suggest just whipping it out, and going from there.
If you hope to score, then I suggest just whipping it out, and going from there.
alkemyst
No Lifer
I'd go for Gabriel...the Zach guy looks like a guy I had been called at 3am to get out of someone's house. He may just be playing the part though 😉 This other guy told the girl she had no right to turn him down and they would have sex regardless of what she thought (she called me from her bathroom supposedly 'freshening up')
I have gotten lost on the way to meet's too, one is my best lady friend now...she looked like a total snobby bish when I was late (there were two of the same shops on that road, I assumed the one closest to me, she assumed the one closest to her, a difference of about 5 miles maybe)....I had tried to get into her pants 🙂, she wanted a friend at the time, I had just broke up with a fiancee and wanted only sex and no commitments. Probably a good thing she resisted, we talk alot now about things in life which I would have probably lost had we been intimate.
alkemyst
No Lifer
I have a feeling a lot giving advice are only assuming....
after 4 years of talking I don't think there will be doubts whether sex is happening or not.
When you have talked a couple days, weeks, months then it's always a crap shoot. The women I have met in that capacity = sex first meeting or I walked due to them being not what they told me (I love the "you will not be disappointed line" or "we are both desparate for affection" 🙂 )....
Two very wierd situations were me and this one chick were going to meet for just sex that was going to be it...I got there and two big trucks were there (she lived alone)...she said they were friends watching the game since their cable was out....I didn't even get out of my car although I sort of wanted to see what was up....but I don't recommend my insanity for everyone.
another was a girl I actually talked to for a loooong time, eventually we'd talk on the phone which I thought was a PITA, but she typed crappy anyway so it was a tossup...she was young and I wasn't looking at her as a sex buddy (young as in 18-19 not a kid, I was 30 at the time)....anyways she out of the blue wanted to do a real life meet.
I offered to meet closer to her (45mins) as I didn't mind driving anyway (and I figured after dinner I'd hit the clubs / bars down that way).....well we were supposed to meet at teh restaurant but as I was almost there she called. Told me her car wouldn't start and if I could pick her up. I didn't think it a problem...I have no problems showing up at a girls house, but I told her be safe, probably best we met in the parking lot.
I got there and she was nowhere to be found. Called and asked, she gave me some excuse and her apt #....I knock she answers.
Now there were three problems here, one was when she answered she was about 10-15 lbs overweight....still not a pig or anything, but the pics she had sent from the few months we were talking were supposedly recent and from before she started exercising....no biggie...but the tattoos and piercings that covered even her face were a little much for me.
The the next wierd problem...on a pull out couch was another totally naked and equally tattooed and pierced chick with toys on her pull out couch. I had told her I was open to experimenting and play, but this was not my rabbit hole of choice 😉....I told her I had just gotten back with my ex financee (this was planned about three days in advance and we hadn't talked until the meeting day) and I was flattered, but I really thought it was just going to be dinner....she seemed upset, just mentioned if things break down again, I would know what could be waiting.
I went clubbing met a ONS that was pretty sweet and I thought would be more than that, but she told me in the early afternoon (we got a 'room' at 6am after spending a few hours on the beach) she was in a long term relationship and the guy was on a however long project. We were supposed to just dance and she was supposed to go home alone, she said.
after 4 years of talking I don't think there will be doubts whether sex is happening or not.
When you have talked a couple days, weeks, months then it's always a crap shoot. The women I have met in that capacity = sex first meeting or I walked due to them being not what they told me (I love the "you will not be disappointed line" or "we are both desparate for affection" 🙂 )....
Two very wierd situations were me and this one chick were going to meet for just sex that was going to be it...I got there and two big trucks were there (she lived alone)...she said they were friends watching the game since their cable was out....I didn't even get out of my car although I sort of wanted to see what was up....but I don't recommend my insanity for everyone.
another was a girl I actually talked to for a loooong time, eventually we'd talk on the phone which I thought was a PITA, but she typed crappy anyway so it was a tossup...she was young and I wasn't looking at her as a sex buddy (young as in 18-19 not a kid, I was 30 at the time)....anyways she out of the blue wanted to do a real life meet.
I offered to meet closer to her (45mins) as I didn't mind driving anyway (and I figured after dinner I'd hit the clubs / bars down that way).....well we were supposed to meet at teh restaurant but as I was almost there she called. Told me her car wouldn't start and if I could pick her up. I didn't think it a problem...I have no problems showing up at a girls house, but I told her be safe, probably best we met in the parking lot.
I got there and she was nowhere to be found. Called and asked, she gave me some excuse and her apt #....I knock she answers.
Now there were three problems here, one was when she answered she was about 10-15 lbs overweight....still not a pig or anything, but the pics she had sent from the few months we were talking were supposedly recent and from before she started exercising....no biggie...but the tattoos and piercings that covered even her face were a little much for me.
The the next wierd problem...on a pull out couch was another totally naked and equally tattooed and pierced chick with toys on her pull out couch. I had told her I was open to experimenting and play, but this was not my rabbit hole of choice 😉....I told her I had just gotten back with my ex financee (this was planned about three days in advance and we hadn't talked until the meeting day) and I was flattered, but I really thought it was just going to be dinner....she seemed upset, just mentioned if things break down again, I would know what could be waiting.
I went clubbing met a ONS that was pretty sweet and I thought would be more than that, but she told me in the early afternoon (we got a 'room' at 6am after spending a few hours on the beach) she was in a long term relationship and the guy was on a however long project. We were supposed to just dance and she was supposed to go home alone, she said.
Hey, look at this guy I met from the 'net. We met in real life and he's so cool. We went for dinner and enjoyed ourselves the rest of the night. :Q He's my bf now. He also happens to be a model!
Hahaha! I am only kidding. He is not my bf. I wrote that in humour, to imitate Dezign. 😉 😀
I do know him in real life because my sibling introduced him to the model industry when she found him on the streets of NY (I don't mean homeless). She's all, "What are you doing here, you're hot and a model material. Let me hook you up!" He's been getting contracts ever since then and travelling to Europe for fashion shows. I think he's hot looking, but his fashion stylists give him the feminine look, which is what's in the market for male models. I would rather see a masculine look. The linked picture is the kindest shot. Hopefully this helps AunixM3 in understanding the professional, runway male model industry. You have to be at least 6' tall.
Anyway, back at you, the original poster, for accusing me of usurping threads, whereas I don't! Hope you enjoyed me fulfilling your false statement about me.
Note that the picture provided is copyrighted. If you copy it without the written permission of the photographer, it's your cup of tea and you'll find yourself in court. ("You" is used generically.)
Hahaha! I am only kidding. He is not my bf. I wrote that in humour, to imitate Dezign. 😉 😀
I do know him in real life because my sibling introduced him to the model industry when she found him on the streets of NY (I don't mean homeless). She's all, "What are you doing here, you're hot and a model material. Let me hook you up!" He's been getting contracts ever since then and travelling to Europe for fashion shows. I think he's hot looking, but his fashion stylists give him the feminine look, which is what's in the market for male models. I would rather see a masculine look. The linked picture is the kindest shot. Hopefully this helps AunixM3 in understanding the professional, runway male model industry. You have to be at least 6' tall.
Anyway, back at you, the original poster, for accusing me of usurping threads, whereas I don't! Hope you enjoyed me fulfilling your false statement about me.
Note that the picture provided is copyrighted. If you copy it without the written permission of the photographer, it's your cup of tea and you'll find yourself in court. ("You" is used generically.)
"Well my dear, if you fulfilled a 'false statement' then it would no longer be false would it? Nice try....."
Yeah, of course I want to live up to your description and perception of me. I may be a bad actress, but I enjoy playing the role. The statement was false until I lived up to your expectation by making the above post.
"BTW... thanks for letting us know that the picture is copyrighted, especially after you have decided to post it on the net for all of us to see"
Well, I figured many of you boys at this forum are wannabe pimps and make believe that you have money. So, it wouldn't hurt to wake up to see yourselves slapped with lawsuits for things you took for granted.
🙂
Yeah, of course I want to live up to your description and perception of me. I may be a bad actress, but I enjoy playing the role. The statement was false until I lived up to your expectation by making the above post.
"BTW... thanks for letting us know that the picture is copyrighted, especially after you have decided to post it on the net for all of us to see"
Well, I figured many of you boys at this forum are wannabe pimps and make believe that you have money. So, it wouldn't hurt to wake up to see yourselves slapped with lawsuits for things you took for granted.
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