What are you suppose to do when...

[johnjbruin]

Setting:
You have a friend who is very sad, almost crying but not crying. You are not close friends, but more than just aquaintances. How do you interact with her. The sadness is the result of this person not doing that great academically in college and its the first time. Its not like the she is a freshman or something. So they do know what college needs, to do decently in your classes.

This happened to me today morning and I sort of had not idea how to deal with it.
This was because I am not at that stage when I am total buddies with her, and neither am i at the stage where she is just an aquaintance.

And no, this is just a friendship.
And i dont have any intentions of making it anything else than firendship either.

So, looking for opinions on this.

 

[Electric Amish]

Well, you just missed your chance to make it more than a friendship.

amish

 

[boyRacer]

Why is she sad?

 

[boyRacer]

Everytime i tried to help someone like that... it ended up becoming more than a friendship anyway...

 

[johnjbruin]

Originally posted by: Electric Amish
Well, you just missed your chance to make it more than a friendship.

amish

See, i dont want to since i have no interest in this person in that regard.
But we are friends.

 

[Electric Amish]

Originally posted by: BoYRaCeR
Why is she sad?

Can you read?

amish

 

[boyRacer]

Originally posted by: Electric Amish

Originally posted by: BoYRaCeR
Why is she sad?

Can you read?

amish

Ooops...

I skipped that part... i thought it was gonna be at the end.

 

[agnitrate]

What did you do exactly?

I probably would have listened to her and did one of those sit next to them, rub them on the back and tell them it's going to be ok (if they are crying), then put your arm around them and do the side-hug kinda thing. Just be with them. That's what friends are for, right?

-silver

 

[pyonir]

Originally posted by: Electric Amish

Originally posted by: BoYRaCeR
Why is she sad?

Can you read?

amish

i can't. please tell me. the suspense is killing me.

 

[Pepsei]

Originally posted by: agnitrate
What did you do exactly?

I probably would have listened to her and did one of those sit next to them, rub them on the back and tell them it's going to be ok (if they are crying), then put your arm around them and do the side-hug kinda thing. Just be with them. That's what friends are for, right?

-silver

And after that, if the mood is right... you know how to play baseball?

 

[johnjbruin]

Originally posted by: agnitrate
What did you do exactly?

I probably would have listened to her and did one of those sit next to them, rub them on the back and tell them it's going to be ok (if they are crying), then put your arm around them and do the side-hug kinda thing. Just be with them. That's what friends are for, right?

-silver

well. i just talked to her for 2-3 minutes. I did tell her "everything will be fine" etc.
but after that I had to leave for a lab in which i couldnt be late so...

 

[johnjbruin]

Originally posted by: Pepsei

Originally posted by: agnitrate
What did you do exactly?

I probably would have listened to her and did one of those sit next to them, rub them on the back and tell them it's going to be ok (if they are crying), then put your arm around them and do the side-hug kinda thing. Just be with them. That's what friends are for, right?

-silver

And after that, if the mood is right... you know how to play baseball?

Dude, at least read the whole post.

And no, this is just a friendship.
And i dont have any intentions of making it anything else than firendship either.

 

[agnitrate]

Originally posted by: Pepsei

Originally posted by: agnitrate
What did you do exactly?

I probably would have listened to her and did one of those sit next to them, rub them on the back and tell them it's going to be ok (if they are crying), then put your arm around them and do the side-hug kinda thing. Just be with them. That's what friends are for, right?

-silver

And after that, if the mood is right... you know how to play baseball?

A crying acquaintaince is like a bottom of the 9th, 2 outs, 3-2 count, grand slam needed to win the game situation :

If you score, you're going all the way baby. If you blow it, you're never going to hear the end of it from the rest of your team.


Anyways, I think you pulled it off. Why are you so worried about it? Did you think she thought you were doing something wrong? You listened to her and did your best. If you're not really great friends, I would think that is all there is to be expected.

-silver

 

[johnjbruin]

Originally posted by: agnitrate
Anyways, I think you pulled it off. Why are you so worried about it? Did you think she thought you were doing something wrong? You listened to her and did your best. If you're not really great friends, I would think that is all there is to be expected.

-silver

I guess so. It just felt weird, hard to explain. I guess it has something to do with seeing other people sad.