What are the chances that your first girlfriend is 'the one' you spend the rest of your life with?
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not bloody likely, especially not at 18...Give the relationship a few months, you'll see she's not the "one"
Unfortunately not as often as people would like. If your first g/f is your first love (which is not always how it works out), then you want it very badly (to spend the rest of your life with her). But it rarely happens that way. Some people are very lucky though.
The odds of you spending the rest of your life with your first g/f if you're 13? Slim to none.
The odds of you spending the rest of your life with your first g/f if you're 23? Much better.
It all comes down to maturity and feasibility. You can actually make real life-time decisions when you're older.
--Sarah
The odds of you spending the rest of your life with your first g/f if you're 13? Slim to none.
The odds of you spending the rest of your life with your first g/f if you're 23? Much better.
It all comes down to maturity and feasibility. You can actually make real life-time decisions when you're older.
--Sarah
The odds of you spending the rest of your life with your first g/f if you're 13? Slim to none.
The odds of you spending the rest of your life with your first g/f if you're 23? Much better.
That pretty much sums it up right there, the more maturing both have done before the relationship the less likely they are to break up later.
And since maturity usually comes with age, the older you are the more likely it is.
Viper GTS
The odds of you spending the rest of your life with your first g/f if you're 23? Much better.
That pretty much sums it up right there, the more maturing both have done before the relationship the less likely they are to break up later.
And since maturity usually comes with age, the older you are the more likely it is.
Viper GTS
I know that my first girlfriend will not be the one I will spend my life with, and I know that my second girlfriend wont be the one either, next stop is the third one whenever that happens. But after what I know, the fewer girlfriends you go through the better, all relationships are a pain when they end 
I realy hope third is a charm for me
I realy hope third is a charm for me
"And since maturity usually comes with age, the older you are the more likely it is."
I beg to differ there. I think irregardless of age, first time experience is nature's way of destroying that fragile aspect of our being. And as such, the probability of any such relationship to work is slim--irregardless of age, and the probability is the same.
Czar, that was funny reading your statement. It made me smile! LOL! I too hope the third is a charm for you, but as the saying goes: Heaven helps those who help themselves. It takes some work from both for it to be a charm. I would hope you do your part, for we can only change that which is within and limited to us--not that which comes from others.
Btw, Stefan, are you asking this because of your new found gf? I suppose she's your first, based on statements you made in the past (i.e., the rumour spelled).
I beg to differ there. I think irregardless of age, first time experience is nature's way of destroying that fragile aspect of our being. And as such, the probability of any such relationship to work is slim--irregardless of age, and the probability is the same.
Czar, that was funny reading your statement. It made me smile! LOL!
I too hope the third is a charm for you, but as the saying goes: Heaven helps those who help themselves. It takes some work from both for it to be a charm. I would hope you do your part, for we can only change that which is within and limited to us--not that which comes from others. Btw, Stefan, are you asking this because of your new found gf? I suppose she's your first, based on statements you made in the past (i.e., the rumour spelled).
luvly
What I was trying to say that I have been in two relationships and neither of them worked out, not because we didnt try more that we found out that this wasnt the right person. Not just any two persons can have a successful relationship. I think that you can have a successful relationship with maybe 1% of the total population of the oposide sex(or same if you like). You just have to pick thouse out which you know will not match up for you but sometimes you think its the right one and later find out, thats why the next one is always a better chance than the former one
But however you look at it the worst pain imaginable is when a relationship ends, and I want to have as few of those as i possibly can.
What I was trying to say that I have been in two relationships and neither of them worked out, not because we didnt try more that we found out that this wasnt the right person. Not just any two persons can have a successful relationship. I think that you can have a successful relationship with maybe 1% of the total population of the oposide sex(or same if you like). You just have to pick thouse out which you know will not match up for you but sometimes you think its the right one and later find out, thats why the next one is always a better chance than the former one
But however you look at it the worst pain imaginable is when a relationship ends, and I want to have as few of those as i possibly can.
I married my first girlfriend - been married 7 years now (2 kids). I had many "multiple date" relationships before, and a few one-nighters, but never a girlfriend.
<< Btw, Stefan, are you sking this because of your new found gf? I suppose she's your first, based on statements you made in the past (i.e., the rumour spelled). >>
Yes, Angela is my first girlfriend. I've been going out with her since Nov. 16. I already can't really think of what it would be like to not have her around. I'm 19, she's 18. She has already had a bunch of really bad relationships (nothing sexual - untilI I came around. Actually, we both did it for the first time last night. Merry Christmas to me
). She is the most kind, generous and non-judgemental person I've ever met (which is surprising considering how much she went through as she was growing up - I wont go into detail though). She makes me incredibly happy and I love spending all my free time with her.
I don't know if this is how it is time after time for people who go through many relationships though...
well not to bring you down to earth, but seriously, i've had girls that i was soooo into, and i just couldn't imagine life without them. where are they now? heh.
<< I honestly don't know. But I really feel sorry for those who have it happen like that. >>
Why do you feel that way? I think its sweet. For me, it looks like it will be my second, even though I was, in general, alway hoping that whever my first will be (was) the one I spend the rest of my life with.
<< we both did it for the first time last night. Merry Christmas to me
). >>
was it any good?
oh and congrats<< That pretty much sums it up right there, the more maturing both have done before the relationship the less likely they are to break up later.
And since maturity usually comes with age, the older you are the more likely it is. >>
Age has absolutely nothing to do with maturity. Learning from experience does. And marrying your first GF means zero prior experience. I feel really, really sorry for those people.
kami
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<< Age has absolutely nothing to do with maturity. Learning from experience does. And marrying your first GF means zero prior experience. I feel really, really sorry for those people.
>>
I agree with part of this and disagree with the rest
Learn from experience? HELL YES. This is one of the things that shapes you as a person...the things you go through and learn. Also agree that age has nothing to do w/ maturity.
But there's nothing wrong with marrying the first person you meet if YOU feel that they are "the one."
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