what age is the best and suitable to have first sex?

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okay, i'm christian and all, and i just wanted to know, where in the bible do you see that u shuldn't have sex before marriage? i'm not for or agains, i just wondering...
 

qacwac

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to extra: are you wanting me to show you where it says adultery is wrong and you already know that premarital sex is a form of adultery
if that's the case then "You shall not commit adultery" Exodus 20:14 should do. (and there are many more)

or

do you not think premarital sex is a form of adultery. If that's the case then I'll write another one in just a moment.
 

qacwac

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If you don't believe that premarital sex is adultery then you are much like the Pharisees. They were so consumed with being good on the outside that they totally neglected their heart's condition.

So people now might say "I just do it for pleasure." or whatever Jesus' words still are true. "But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart." Matthew 5:28. So if just looking at a woman lustfully is adultery than sex, in any form outside of marriage, is this and much, much more.

It is also pretty clear from the OT that sex was intended for husband and wife alone. Notice the the wording in
Genesis 2:24 "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh." It says "they" shall become one flesh, referring to man and "his wife". So by using the word "wife" it cannot mean anything except marriage.
And if you have any doubt as to what "one flesh" means then 1 Corinthians 6:16 should clarify. "What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh."
So sex is not some neutral act that can be just done for pleasure but it is a unitig of the flesh.

Sorry for all you who hate religious descussions.
 

Noriaki

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Well I'm 20 now and in no particular hurry.

When you find some one you care about enough and want to.
 

KarsinTheHutt

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<< &quot;But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.&quot; >>



Does this mean that whosoever lookith on a man to lust after him does not comit aldultery? wtf is this sexist double standard (*&amp;^%?

Wow! I guess I commit adultery about 1000000000000 times/day then. :D :D :D

Rock on, Red Dawn! I'm not as blunt as you are, but I pretty much believe the same thing. :)
 

rc5

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Younger, better, faster, cheaper.

I heard someone had more than 100 sex partners in HS(not all in same period certainly)
 

BlkDragon6

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<< to extra: are you wanting me to show you where it says adultery is wrong and you already know that premarital sex is a form of adultery >>



It's not premarital sex if you don't plan on getting married ;)
 

Noriaki

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<< 18-20... I'm thinking...
if you ain't lost it by then.... you're one of the holy rollers waiting for marriage.
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Not true, I'm 20, haven't, and don't expect to anytime soon. Marriage is not what I'm waiting for though.



<< I am lookin' 4 a girl right now, seems to be pretty difficult to break the ice for me. Or go to the next step after the introductory talk. >>


I hear that! Women are to damn complicated. Very difficult.



<< At about 15 you become emotionally ready. >>


That is quite different for everyone, perhaps you were, not everyone is.


As for women having sex for pleasure, works well in the movies, but in real life you have to find a guy who gives enough of a sh!t about you to try and pleasure you to. And seriously how many guys care enough to do something like that? And of those few that do care enough, how many of us can?
lol don't mind me, I'm a bit cynical :p
 

visgf

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When you are mature enouth to know that sex is so much more than just the physical fulfillment. Whether you intend to be casual or not, you are still affecting your emotional side.
 

Zucchini

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&quot;but in real life you have to find a guy who gives enough of a sh!t about you to try and pleasure you to&quot;

Ok, what kind of losers have you been going out with. I think most men know that keeping a woman happy is GOOD.
 

rudds

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<< << Whether you intend to be casual or not, you are still affecting your emotional side. >>

Maybe for women. Another reason it's great to be a guy.
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speak for yourself... i get emotionally attached pretty quickly :p
 

Noriaki

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<< Ok, what kind of losers have you been going out with. I think most men know that keeping a woman happy is GOOD. >>



You don't have to convince *me* of that, I agree 100%, I honestly doubt most of my friends would notice the difference either way, though. And I was speaking on their behalf.

I'm being extremely cycnical...I'm rather to sarcastic about things like this.
 

BlkDragon6

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How in the world does a topic on &quot;age that's best and suitable to have first sex&quot; turn into a bill clinton joke? The seriously doubt that the blow job in office was the first he's ever had. Maybe I'm just missing something.