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Well isn't this just a kick in the nuts before Christmas...

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My father had been having some digestive problems and they just got the test results back:

Pancreatic cancer

Fuck.

So far it looks like they caught it early but the survival odds in general are not exactly very good. Surgery has been scheduled for early January. Sad thing is my dad just retired and he and my mom had been looking forward to getting to do some traveling together. They had a cruise booked for Jan 14th and were going to rent an RV this summer and go coast to coast.

Hopefully things go well but so far my family is 0 for 3 against cancer with all three sub combing to slow painful deaths. Fourth time is the charm, right?



Fuck...


Update:

Well, my parents have been pretty much living with us during treatment and its been a long, very tough road but we finally have some good news! After a very arduous and intense chemo/radiation treatment we got the first results back and after only a month since the treatment ended and the tumor has already shrunk by 33%! (Apparently it can (usually) keep shrinking)

We still don't know if this puts surgery back on the table but given that there was no guarantee that the treatment would be effective this is great news and likely means there will be some good quality time left with my father.

Its funny how it changes your whole perspective when you hope for 5 years of life because the alternative is likely 6 months to a year

Still no guarantees but....damn....this feels good.

(Big thanks to the doctor that didn't make us wait till Tuesday to find out the results)
 
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I'm sorry. That is terrible news to receive, especially before Christmas. As others have said, spend as much time with him as you can.
 
OP, both of my parents died of cancer. I REALLY feel your pain. Recommend that you educate yourself now, today and manage your own expectations. I too had cancer but had it removed and other than a yearly check I live a normal life.

You seem to know how serious this form of Cancer is so I'll leave that be. Good luck ...
 
I am in the exact same position right now. Last Nov my dad had trouble swallowing. The docs in FL said it was an ulcer. It wasn't until he came back to MN that the UofM/Mayo found esophageal cancer in April (4mo later). My wife and I moved back to MN (I found a new job too) and he was supposed to have an esophectomy in Sept. The day before the surgery they found more cancer and now he is Stage 4. He can't eat, can't enjoy my mom's good cooking, couldn't have Thanksgiving or Christmas dinners. I just see my dad withering away.

I really feel for you man but stay strong for him. It might be all you can do for him and it does make a difference. Stay positive in front of him and make the most of your time.
 
Thank you all for your well wishes. I really appreciate it

LegendKiller said:
I really feel for you man but stay strong for him. It might be all you can do for him and it does make a difference. Stay positive in front of him and make the most of your time.
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I will. I wish you and your family the best of luck/good fortune in your own ordeal.
 
I feel for ya. I lost my mom to cancer a few years ago. Like someone said in this thread. Spend as much time as possible with him.
 
Sorry to hear it. Hope its a neuroendocrine tumor, the prognosis is much better than adenocarcinoma. Some can actually be cured with surgery and some radiation or chemo.
 
It's been an awful couple of years around here too. Lost my mom two years ago and my dad passed away monday after having a heart attack back in early november. I'll be thinking about you and I can totally relate to the pain you're going through. Good luck to you.
 
Damn man.. I'm real sorry to hear that.. We lost a close friend of ours to colon cancer that metastasized back in August. You're right, it's a real kick in the nuts.

Early detection is good though. Gives him the best fighting chance. I sure wish you and your father the best and I pray it all works out.

Stay strong brother.
-JR
 
Flash1969 said:
It's been an awful couple of years around here too. Lost my mom two years ago and my dad passed away monday after having a heart attack back in early november. I'll be thinking about you and I can totally relate to the pain you're going through. Good luck to you.
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:\ Good luck to you as well

sandorski said:
Crap. Hope for the best. Try to enjoy this holiday as much as you all can though. 🙁
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nutxo said:
I feel for ya. I lost my mom to cancer a few years ago. Like someone said in this thread. Spend as much time as possible with him.
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I guess thats the one 'positive' is that we did find out before Christmas so we can make sure to spend a lot of quality time together and enjoy it
 
tcsenter said:
Sorry to hear it. Hope its a neuroendocrine tumor, the prognosis is much better than adenocarcinoma. Some can actually be cured with surgery and some radiation or chemo.
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Interesting. I don't know all the details yet but I do know the doctors gave the impression of being pretty positive despite the 95% mortality rate within 5 years. The also mentioned that it is unusually to catch pancreatic cancer this early so there is more hope there

Ichinisan said:
Can a pancreas be transplanted?
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I don't think so. From what my dad was telling me was that he would still need to take enzymes and change his diet regardless (the pancreas secrets enzymes that digest fat, proteins and starch) its just a matter of how many enzymes and how bland of a diet.
 
Dirigible said:
Screw you cancer. FUCK you! 😡
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Cancer doesn't like to use kiddie gloves when it fucks us over. Two brain tumors, lung cancer (in a non-smoking cyclist no less) and now pancreatic cancer...

nutxo said:
I feel for ya. I lost my mom to cancer a few years ago. Like someone said in this thread. Spend as much time as possible with him.
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dud said:
OP, both of my parents died of cancer. I REALLY feel your pain. Recommend that you educate yourself now, today and manage your own expectations. I too had cancer but had it removed and other than a yearly check I live a normal life.

You seem to know how serious this form of Cancer is so I'll leave that be. Good luck ...
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JoLLyRoGer said:
Damn man.. I'm real sorry to hear that.. We lost a close friend of ours to colon cancer that metastasized back in August. You're right, it's a real kick in the nuts.

Early detection is good though. Gives him the best fighting chance. I sure wish you and your father the best and I pray it all works out.

Stay strong brother.
-JR
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sdifox said:
Sorry to hear that. Hang in there and hope for the best.
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Lazarus52980 said:
I am praying right now for you and your father.
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Thank you all!
 
Man that sucks OP. Hope you & your family can pull through this and thoughts and prayers sent your way. Good luck and have some strength.
 
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