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Well doesn't this just suck (for me)!

Nutdotnet

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Little bit of a story here, hope you all can follow along.

So anyways, I was down home for the holidays. Two awesome weeks, was able to see all my buddies, partied numerous times, and the last day I was there made the whole trip super special, but at the same time made me rather sad.

I see an old high-school friend of mine when I was down there. She and I had a little bit of history (we kind of saw each other but I was still hung up on another girl and after our first kiss I kind of ditched here, very, very rude of me) but it was over five years ago and I was a totally different person back then. She is absolutely stunning, well to me anyways. At first she was still pissed off at me for doing what I did to her five years ago, and I completely understood. But after a while she did realize that I have gotten my "sh1t" together and she warmed up to me a little bit. After a few parties we became pretty close. Nothing sexual or anything just a lot of talking and bonding.

So my last night rolls around, last Saturday to be exact. I was over at a friends house having a very small social. Drank a few beers and around 1am I headed home because I needed to be awake to catch a plane at 10am and then drive for another 5 hours to get home for class the next day. When I open the door I noticed there was a note on my seat. She told me that she was sorry for not stopping by and to give her a call or stop by that night to say goodbye.

To make this long story short I went over there at 1am, didn't leave till 8am.....got home, packed, caught my plane at 10am, drove for 5 hours, got to my "real" home at 4pm, went to sleep at 7pm and didn't wake up until 10am the next day. 30 hours being awake, 15 being asleep straight. Needless to say today was not a good day! lol.

I had the most amazing time with her that night. Mind-blowing goodness (if you know what I mean). I really care for this girl too, it sux because we both said no-strings attached. She is just an extremely special person and I want her to know that but without freaking her out. We are both young and free-spirited, and the last thing I wanted was to get attached to someone. But I am, to an impossible situation. I go to school in Alaska, she goes to school in Providence, RI. I know I will see her this summer but her and I both don't want a long-distance thing. I don't know how she feels about me, I get the feeling that the whole "no-strings" thing isn't working how she wanted it either.

What should I do? No matter what I want to be her friend but she made me feel something that I haven't felt in quite sometime. She made me feel overjoyed with care for someone else.....

Thanks! And the reason I am ranting this all to you all is that all my friends don't understand how to care for someone, they are just looking for the next piece of bootie. ;)


 

Jfur

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DO send her a note and keep in touch with her until your next visit. Don't make her question your intentions (which are obviously good) :D
 

Nutdotnet

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Thanks for reading man, I had didn't realize how long it was until I hit the "done" button.
 

Ns1

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no strings attached sex never works out unless both people are completely emotionally stable

now fly back and banger again

or tell me where she lives and i'll do it for you

;):p:D
 

Nutdotnet

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Haha, that is the thing. We both are emotionally stable. Like I said, I wasn't looking for a relationship. Have you ever gotten that feeling that when you are "close" with someone you know something more is there than what you were expecting? Well that is what happened to me.

My problem is that do I tell her what is in my heart and risk the chance of scareing (sp?) her away? Or do I still play it cool keep in touch, send a flower or something every know and again to show that I do think about her and see what happens this summer?

Damn summer is a long time....lol

[Edit] HAHA! No way man! ;) [/Edit]
 

biglaw11

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<< Haha, that is the thing. We both are emotionally stable. Like I said, I wasn't looking for a relationship. Have you ever gotten that feeling that when you are "close" with someone you know something more is there than what you were expecting? Well that is what happened to me.

My problem is that do I tell her what is in my heart and risk the chance of scareing (sp?) her away? Or do I still play it cool keep in touch, send a flower or something every know and again to show that I do think about her and see what happens this summer?

Damn summer is a long time....lol

[Edit] HAHA! No way man! ;) [/Edit]
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Well, there is nothing wrong with telling a friend that you have feelings for her. Since you guys are good friends, it shouldn't scare her away. At most, things may get a little awkward, but as long as one person doesn't make the situation awkward, then everything should be fine. If a friendship is a very strong and stable one, then something so little such as sharing one's emotion shouldn't even shake the foundation of that friendship.

I suggest that you do what everyone else is saying: keep in touch and let time take its course. Whatever is meant to happen will happen. Don't force anything. Good luck man!

-biglaw11
 

book2

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How`s that old say`n go, It is better to have loved than not to have blah-blah-blah! If she means anything to you, you will keep in touch. Besides where your going, (AK) you`ll need a pen pal for sure! :)
 

Muadib

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My problem is that do I tell her what is in my heart and risk the chance of scareing (sp?) her away?
No, at least not until you can do it face to face. Remember, the eyes are the windows to the soul.

Or do I still play it cool keep in touch, send a flower or something every know and again to show that I do think about her and see what happens this summer?
I don't see why not. It will show her you want to at least remain friends. Good luck!
 

Nutdotnet

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Well even before that night we made a point to stay close as friends......

Still trying to figure out whether or not that night was a good thing. I mean on one hand I am happy because it was simply awesome, hate to say it but definetly a better lover than any of my previous experiances. But if it never happened then it may have been easier to just be friends, even though she knew that I was attracted to her because I told her what was up.
 

Viper GTS

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even though she knew that I was attracted to her because I told her what was up

You had to tell her?

Damn.

;)

Just kidding man, long distance really isn't that bad. If you both want to make it work, it's doable.

Viper GTS
 

Nutdotnet

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I hear that dude, I would be down with it....something to keep my mind off of stuff. :D

She called me tonight, hopefully will see each other before she leaves.