Weight Gain During Relationships Poll/Question

[Cattlegod]

if one is going to ask the other to lose weight, the one who is asking should be willing to go to the gym with the other 100% of the time.

 

[Kwaipie]

no x 3
overweight people are the new people of "color"
American society has some really screwed up values.

 

[SpanishFry]

Originally posted by: Kwaipie
no x 3
overweight people are the new people of "color"
American society has some really screwed up values.

 

[FoBoT]

i'll go with "Other" on that poll

 

[IAteYourMother]

yes
yes
yes

depends on h0ow much weight gained though.

 

[FeuerFrei]

No: Yes: Yes

No obligation. But the other has a right to complain if you do pack on pounds. Not mock, complain.

If I was married it wouldn't be a "dealbreaker" (I would just curse my fate) but if I wasn't, I would seriously reassess my relationship.

 

[PrinceofWands]

Everyone is entitled to live how they choose, but if you're planning on having others dependent upon you then you have a responsibility to be in moderate health. That doesn't mean a ripped stomach, just not dangerously out of shape.

If you're worried about someones health it's fair to discuss it. If you're worried about being with someone that's 10 pounds overweight because of what others might say or think then I think you're better off just living alone.

Everyone has the right to end any relationship for any reason. It doesn't make them less shallow however, when its for ridiculous reasons.

 

[mrrman]

Originally posted by: Aquaman

Originally posted by: JoLLyRoGer
Yeppers. Wife and I both agree on this and we work together to keep each other in check. Turns out that we make good workout buddies that keep each other motivated!

Totally agree....... now I just need to find Aquawoman

Cheers,
Aquaman

Ditto on the lol

 

[buck]

Originally posted by: TheNinja
yes
yes
no

P.S. NO FAT CHICKS!

 

[CarlKillerMiller]

Originally posted by: bennylong
Does anyone date fat chicks? I see a lot of fat chicks with boyfriend so there must be people willing to date fat chicks

Guys with wispy moustaches, actually. It's weird, every time I see a fat chick with her S.O, he has a wispy moustache.

 

[Gooberlx2]

Originally posted by: sward666
What you really need is a poll to see what amount of weight gain is acceptable.

QFT.

 

[Miramonti]

Non-mutual weight change by one party in a relationship can result in a significant amount of stress on relationship. This can be one gains weight and the other doesn't, or one loses weight, and the other doesn't.

Personally, my current gf weighed 125 and then gained 40lbs w/in a year after I got together with her. I was honest with her how I didn't enjoy it and she's working hard to lose weight as a result. She's such a uniquely great person for/to me so I wouldn't split up with her for it, altho other g/f's definitely could have been different because I don't find it as attractive.

Each relationship is different but in all of them physical attraction is important, and its up to each person to be honest with themselves and others, even before big weight changes happen.

 

[eakers]

Originally posted by: tk109
Women always seem to pack on weight when they get in a relationship.

My last girlfriend was very in shape. Had a perfect body. She probably put on like 5 - 8 pounds in the first month or so. That's not bad but it was starting show. We were only together like a month I cant' imagine if we were together longer. After 15 pounds it gets scary and I'd be worried. Another Gf of mine had a totally tight body and then put on about 10 pounds in 8 months. Again no big deal they were still very attractive. But they were on their way.

I really dont want to know what they would have looked like after 5 years of marriage or so. I've seen some horriblely nasty looking wives who used to be attractive. Man that would be depressing. They all seem to just not give a crap and pack on the pounds after they get into a relationship and especially after marriage.

I'll be reasonable and I dont want to sound shallow but I'm not staying married to some fat chick. I just couldn't handle it. I need to find them attractive. And they need to stay healthy. I about want to gag when I see women do that waddle thing.

Perhaps your lifestyle caused your girlfriends to gain?

I personally believe that healthwise then yes a person has an obligation to their family to stay as healthy as possible. I also think that a person should be able to mention if their SO weight gain/loss is unhealthy.

As far as breaking up goes, I probabley wouldn't if it was someone I truely loved unless they gained or lost so much weight we were unable to enjoy activities together and our relationship changed to a point where we/I was unhappy.

 

[SSP]

Yes, other, other.

The last 2 depends on the weight.

 

[DAGTA]

Yes, Yes, and Yes.

I tend to lose fat when I get into a new relationship because I WANT to look good for my girlfriend. If I were married, I would work at it because I would WANT to look good for my wife.

 

[Special K]

Originally posted by: Gooberlx2

Originally posted by: sward666
What you really need is a poll to see what amount of weight gain is acceptable.

QFT.

That would depend entirely on the height/build of the person though. Person A might carry 5 lbs. of fat differently than Person B.

 

[habib89]

i definately think it's important to stay healthy and make sure that your SO is healthy as well.. and no, i don't think gaining weight should be grounds for breaking up, unless that person gains and unhealthy amount and does not want to become healthy