Wedding Etiquette

[IHateMyJob2004]

Bang the bride. Typical protocol.

 

[natto fire]

Considering how huge the gap is what people spend on weddings, the etiquette is not some simple standard. I have been to 7 of them and while 3 or 4 had similar etiquette, fairly dressed up, the other few were all over the place. Religion certainly has an influence and the Catholic ones were more formal, but they also turned out to be very good parties after the boring ceremonies.

Never brought a card to a single one, but I am a social outcast so maybe my advice is not the best to follow.

 

[Midwayman]

If you want to give a physical gift, inquire with the parents to find out if they are registered. Its bad etiquette to say where you are registered in an invitation. The best gift is cash. It always fits, and isn't returned. Give them a card (or more likely there will be a table at the reception). I usually count on covering the cost to invite me in the gift. (Yah, yah. I want to give them a gift, not a burden) That typically ranges anywhere from $30-$150 at the typical reception halls. (Depending on region, etc)

Dress nice- Like a button down shirt and slacks is normal for most.

Also its okay to say no to a wedding. You don't have to go. Just make sure you tell them as early as possible if you're not. Normally they're paying for the food no matter if you show up or not at this point.

 

[Zargon]

SRSLY? "Waves"? No, you just invite the people that you want to come. Some will decline, and you should have a reasonable idea of how many. If you get it wrong, you just have a slightly smaller or slightly bigger wedding than you were expecting. You don't invite random schmucks that you barely know to round out the numbers...that would get hilariously awkward, both at the wedding and when all of the other people in the same circle start comparing notes and figuring out who got invited and who didn't.

I emailed some friends the week before, when some RSVP's backed out

told them to show up if htey want, feel free to skip the wedding if they want and just hit the recepetion, since I had already paid for meal and booze

I have alot more friends than I could afford to invite to my wedding since my wife and I have decent sized familys

Taking a gift to the wedding service is bad etiquette, church or otherwise. Send it before or after, to the bride's home.

eh. Seen gift tables at a chruch when there was no real receptoin

but if there is a reception...dont take a gift to the service

 

[Maximilian]

I've just been asked to a wedding this Sunday, first one in my life. I wasn't planning on going but now I have to. Whats the etiquette like? Am I supposed to bring a card or something?

-Turn up naked
-Drink as much of the free alcohol as possible
-Piss yourself
-Leave

Have fun man! :thumbsup:

 

[Scotteq]

When you kiss the bride, it is frowned upon to use tongue...

 

[tynopik]

when they ask if anyone can give cause why these 2 should not be married, stand up and give a long spiel about that one vegas party that got really crazy and she ended up getting married and hasn't been officially divorced

then say 'PSYCHE!'

because everyone loves a good joke at a wedding

 

[BurnItDwn]

it's best to try to start a fight with the best man. However, do not urinate in the punch bowl.

 

[Bateluer]

heh, funny I should read this thread today after telling my sister I wouldn't be able to attend her wedding . . . for the 3rd fricking time. She scheduled it on a day where I have an ultra. Told her that 7 months ago when she first time me the date, told her again when she sent me an invite, and told her a 3rd time over the phone when she asked why I never RVSPd to the invitation.

 

[AreaCode707]

heh, funny I should read this thread today after telling my sister I wouldn't be able to attend her wedding . . . for the 3rd fricking time. She scheduled it on a day where I have an ultra. Told her that 7 months ago when she first time me the date, told her again when she sent me an invite, and told her a 3rd time over the phone when she asked why I never RVSPd to the invitation.

Ultra...sound?

 

[BurnItDwn]

Ultra...sound?

Maybe he's "expecting" Congratulations Bateluer I am so happy for you!!!

 

[Bateluer]

Ultra...sound?

Ultramarathon. The weekend of her wedding, I have a 63K on my home trails.

 

[tynopik]

Ultramarathon. The weekend of her wedding, I have a 63K on my home trails.

there will be another next year

there won't be another wedding for your sister next year (hopefully)

 

[phucheneh]

-Turn up naked
-Drink as much of the free alcohol as possible
-Piss yourself
-Leave

Have fun man! :thumbsup:

How do you piss yourself while naked? Isn't it automatically...just kind of 'pissing?' Is there an extra step to nude public urination that one must take to avoid pissing themselves?

 

[tynopik]

How do you piss yourself while naked? Isn't it automatically...just kind of 'pissing?' Is there an extra step to nude public urination that one must take to avoid pissing themselves?

well, if you were laying on your back (from being passed out drunk for instance), it could get kind of messy depending on directionality

 

[Bateluer]

there will be another next year

there won't be another wedding for your sister next year (hopefully)

True, but then there'd be a gap in my collection of tee shirts and finisher swag. She knew when she picked this date that I had a prior engagement.

Since I have to fly to Michigan from Phoenix for it, which is a 400+ dollar plane ticket, plus lodging, plus vehicle rental(or bum rides everywhere), plus dress clothing rental, plus the irritation of an ultra-Christian side of the family.

 

[Midwayman]

Ultramarathon. The weekend of her wedding, I have a 63K on my home trails.

You're blowing off your sister's wedding for a marathon? Geez, you deserve what ever hell she gives you for the rest of her life.

 

[Anubis]

is it her 3rd wedding or you had to tell her 3 times?

personally id do the ultra and if done in time show up for the after party

 

[crashtestdummy]

True, but then there'd be a gap in my collection of tee shirts and finisher swag. She knew when she picked this date that I had a prior engagement.

Since I have to fly to Michigan from Phoenix for it, which is a 400+ dollar plane ticket, plus lodging, plus vehicle rental(or bum rides everywhere), plus dress clothing rental, plus the irritation of an ultra-Christian side of the family.

Why do I feel like this has a lot more to do with the story than the rest of the factors you list? I'm guessing you and your sis are not very close.

Just about the only things that would keep me from my sister's wedding would be the birth of my child or the death of my wife. Other than that, I'm showing up no matter the date she sets.

 

[Schfifty Five]

heh, funny I should read this thread today after telling my sister I wouldn't be able to attend her wedding . . . for the 3rd fricking time. She scheduled it on a day where I have an ultra. Told her that 7 months ago when she first time me the date, told her again when she sent me an invite, and told her a 3rd time over the phone when she asked why I never RVSPd to the invitation.

is it her 3rd wedding or you had to tell her 3 times?

personally id do the ultra and if done in time show up for the after party

I too wasn't sure if he meant his sister's 3rd wedding or if he had to tell her 3 times, but I re-read his post and he meant 3rd time telling her.

 

[jaedaliu]

I believe this thread has now been hijacked by Bateleur so that ATOT can judge him on his life choices and how family is less important than a t-shirt.

 

[Murloc]

bateuler, defeat the OCD and give up the t-shirt collection continuity.

How do you piss yourself while naked? Isn't it automatically...just kind of 'pissing?' Is there an extra step to nude public urination that one must take to avoid pissing themselves?

yes, you have to hold the hose in a quasi horizontal position to direct teh stream forward.
Otherwise it will hit your leg or foot. Even if you do it, it may still flow towards your feet due to terrain inclination.

 

[DaTT]

You should never bring a gift to the wedding. If you had been invited with enough time, you should send your gift before the big day.

Are you friend/family to the bride/groom/their family member? Or is this a date with someone who has a relationship with someone in the wedding party?

I have never heard of not bringing a gift to a wedding....what planet is this from?

 

[Midwayman]

Just about the only things that would keep me from my sister's wedding would be the birth of my child or the death of my wife. Other than that, I'm showing up no matter the date she sets.

Yup. Missing something like this is one of those things that you'll feel like a complete ass for 20 years down the road. Hell, I'd be there for my in-laws.

 

[sixone]

I have never heard of not bringing a gift to a wedding....what planet is this from?

http://www.smartmoney.com/spend/family-money/the-wedding-gift-etiquette-guide-23264/

What is inappropriate, however, is bringing a gift to the wedding especially if it's a cumbersome 10-pound rice cooker. Many couples don't get married in their hometowns, so you make it more difficult for them to haul the gifts home post-wedding. Instead, send the gift directly to the couple's home address or to one of their parents several weeks before the wedding, says Krecke.
...
While it's fine to celebrate the special day with the couple and send a gift later don't wait until well after the bride's written all her thank-you notes. Some people think "you can wait up to a year to give a gift," says Krecke. "We generally say anything more than six months is poor etiquette."