Wedding etiquette

[Yo Ma Ma]

Originally posted by: MikeDub83
They are always mixed. Bridesmaids are the friends or relatives of the bride. Grooms are friends or relatives of the groom. If a brigesmaid or a groom has a significant other, and they are not paired together as part of the wedding party- TOUGH. They have to be mature, go through the ceremonys, even dance with their stranger. If they won't do it, they are not being mature, and not giving you the devotion of a friend or relative should.

Quite right! Good luck with your wedding

 

[Murphyrulez]

I got married, my 3 groomsmen were my 2 brothers and a close friend that I had known for 18 years.

The bridesmaids were 3 of the girls she worked with. Her friends.

My brothers girlfriends didn't care one bit, and the girls boyfriends didn't care one bit.

This deserves a HUGE WTF.... The wedding is for you, and her. Do not think ONE minute about her girlfriends feeling on the matter.

 

[GasX]

Your groomsmen are YOUR groomsmen.

Her bridesmaids are HER bridesmaids.

The one exception is siblings

 

[blackdogdeek]

you pick who YOU want in the bridal party. the constituents having s.o.'s has no bearing on who you should pick.

as an example here was our bridal party:

matron of honor: bride's sis(sis' husband not in bridal party)
best man: my best friend(his wife not in bridal party)

bridesmaid: bride's best friend(her husband not in bridal party)
bridesmaid: my sis(her bf not in bridal party)

groomsman: my bro(his gf not in bridal party)
groomsman: another buddy(his gf not in bridal party)

this is YOUR wedding, and hopefully you only have one, so YOU pick only who YOU want.

and good luck!

 

[Anubis]

i was a groomsman in my sisters wedding and so was my brother. i was paired with one of my sister friends WHO WAS MARRIED AND HAD A KID(hes Husband WAS NOT A GROOMSMAN), id never actually seen this person before, my brother was paired with my bro in laws sister, someoen he had only met like 3 times, she happened to be engaged to someone else

they dont have to be paired. you just pick your peeps, she picks hers, you match them so there isnt a odd height difference and be happy

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: TallBill
i was a groomsman in my sisters wedding and i was paired with someone who wasnt my gf.. although it made my gf very jealous because i wanted the bridesmaid one gf later and i still got the hots for the bridesmaid work with her now too.

You realize this kind of thing leads to much wedding drama . It's a typical thing with the younger crowd to try and do 'their' bridesmaid/groomsmen despite their 'date' watching it all unfold (older crowd too, but they are usually far more discreet and noone knows who did what with who the next day). It's cool for the single person to try and hit it off, and yeah the whole wedding / romance thing does lead to many one night stands throughout history ...but be discrete...if the date throws a fit (which would be warranted especially if they are a live-in) it's going to ruin it for everyone.

If you have the hots for this chick, and you have been single...how come you haven't asked her out? Get it done and move forward

Å

 

[TheAudit]

It's your wedding, if you have a friend that you want as your groomsman then go with that. Why would she not be the bridesmaid if her boyfriend is not involved? It's not like the boyfriend can't come to the wedding, right?

Congratulations on the wedding!!

 

[Homerboy]

Theres no question to this one.
You pick your own groomsmen and she picks her brides maids (unless there is famil youd like as a bridesmaid or vice versa).
Maids and men do NOT have to "match" Thats simply insane.
If it becomes a big argruement with her friend then she isnt a very good freind and shouldnt be a bridesmaid IMHO.

Hell in my wedding her "maid of honor" was man (her best friend for years and years and years) and he stood mainly on my side and such. It was perfectly fine.

 

[Jeff7181]

Ummm... at my brother's wedding, the maid of honor was married, another bride's maid was married, another was engaged, and one was single. Only one of the bride's maids was paired with her S/O.

 

[iliopsoas]

her bf doesn't have to be your groomsman. you invite whoever you like. she should buy herself a clue.

 

[PunDogg]

Originally posted by: Jzero
I can only speak to my own experiences, but they did not mix them. You aren't required to take an usher just b/c he's involved with a bridesmaid.

yeah thats what i thought, i would talk to the bridsmaid and ask her kindly if her b/f could please step down

Dogg

 

[dquan97]

Where's our invitation?

 

[rh71]

Originally posted by: Jeff7181
Ummm... at my brother's wedding, the maid of honor was married, another bride's maid was married, another was engaged, and one was single. Only one of the bride's maids was paired with her S/O.

I thought they couldn't be married to be standing up there with the wedding couple...

Ahhh... I'm beginning to feel like we should just do whatever the hell we want and screw any and all traditions.

 

[rh71]

Originally posted by: dquan97
Where's our invitation?

Nobody has gotten them. It's scheduled for Sept.

 

[dquan97]

Originally posted by: rh71

Originally posted by: dquan97
Where's our invitation?

Nobody has gotten them. It's scheduled for Sept.

ok, I'll be checking the mail around May/June

 

[Greyd]

what the heck....i've never heard of someone wanting to keep a couple together in a wedding. What the heck?