Wedding Dilema

[chimmytime]

I was helping out some friends of mine last night with their wedding guest list. You know of course weddings can get really expensive real quick, so they wanted to know whats the rule for inviting people.

They're already at 100 guest that includes family, and close friends. At what point do you decide to invite "other" friends/co-workers? Old Friends being the ones you see maybe once or twice a year, and co-workers you see everyday, but aren't really close to?

Do you just say f'it and invite everyone expecting a portion of them not being able to attend, or say f'it and they'll get over not being invited?

 

[LeiZaK]

f' it and elope

 

[MrDudeMan]

100 is way too many IMO. im limiting mine to immediate family and only very close friends. ive already told her she can suck it if she doesnt like it.

 

[Codewiz]

PIck the people you would rather have at your wedding. If you don't care about them being there then don't invite them.

 

[RichPLS]

It does not matter, the wedding is for your fiance!
but
Do not invite your girlfriend(s).

 

[Injury]

Invite the people that deserve to come.

Then invite the people that are rich and will give fat cash.

Then invite the people you see once or twice a year.

 

[chimmytime]

Well both come from large families so thats where the majority of the guest are coming from, but the friends are ones that you would care to see them there, but at the same time don't? If that makes any sense?

My friend has an older brother, is it an automatic that he's his bestman? (friend was bestman for brother)

Also is there a polite way to say no Kids?

 

[PingSpike]

Talk her into eloping. This wedding sh|t is a fvcking nightmare. Its a fvcking money pit hassle that sucks up all your time and drives you insane. Take it from me, I haven't even gotten to the worst of it yet. God its such a load of crap.

 

[blackdogdeek]

invite only up to the number of people you can afford. don't invite above that number expecting people to decline. do this with enough time that you can send another round of invites if the number of attendees is below the number of people you can afford.

best man is whomever the groom selects; it is not automatic.

to avoid kids, only put the names of the adults on the invites.

 

[DingDingDao]

Originally posted by: PingSpike
Talk her into eloping. This wedding sh|t is a fvcking nightmare. Its a fvcking money pit hassle that sucks up all your time and drives you insane. Take it from me, I haven't even gotten to the worst of it yet. God its such a load of crap.

LOL I hear you man. I'm getting married next May and already I feel overwhelmed with planning. :beer:

 

[Ktulu]

Invite the people that actually give a sh!t about you, or else they're just mooching off a free dinner

 

[rh71]

Originally posted by: Ktulu
Invite the people that actually give a sh!t about you, or else they're just mooching off a free dinner

They come with checks in hand upwards of $75 to $100 per person. You think it's just a free dinner to them ?

 

[dquan97]

Originally posted by: Injury
Invite the people that deserve to come.

Then invite the people that are rich and will give fat cash.

Then invite the people you see once or twice a year.

agreed

 

[rh71]

Originally posted by: DingDingDao

Originally posted by: PingSpike
Talk her into eloping. This wedding sh|t is a fvcking nightmare. Its a fvcking money pit hassle that sucks up all your time and drives you insane. Take it from me, I haven't even gotten to the worst of it yet. God its such a load of crap.

LOL I hear you man. I'm getting married next May and already I feel overwhelmed with planning. :beer:

you dope, the woman plans everything, you just sit there and say yes or no.

 

[733SHiFTY]

so long as we're invited, its all good

 

[EKKC]

pics first

 

[compnovice]

Go marry in Hawaii...Invite everyone... I bet hardly anyone would turn up

On second thoughts...Do you live in Hawaii

 

[Lola]

Originally posted by: PingSpike
Talk her into eloping. This wedding sh|t is a fvcking nightmare. Its a fvcking money pit hassle that sucks up all your time and drives you insane. Take it from me, I haven't even gotten to the worst of it yet. God its such a load of crap.

riiight... eloping is no different. we "eloped" to Hawaii and it cost us over 20k... but even ask my husband and he will tell you it was worth every penny.

anyways, it doesnt have to be stressful. Take it from me who IS married, the process is what you make of it.

 

[chimmytime]

Originally posted by: compnovice
Go marry in Hawaii...Invite everyone... I bet hardly anyone would turn up

On second thoughts...Do you live in Hawaii

Well thats what i'm doing for my wedding, Im going to rent out a bunch of rooms, and who ever shows up can stay there!


but my friends are getting married in laguna beach, ca. http://www.seven-degrees.com/

 

[RichPLS]

Originally posted by: chimmytime
Well both come from large families so thats where the majority of the guest are coming from, but the friends are ones that you would care to see them there, but at the same time don't? If that makes any sense?

My friend has an older brother, is it an automatic that he's his bestman? (friend was bestman for brother)

Also is there a polite way to say no Kids?

No such thing as an automatic best man, that is your choice!

Weddings are great for kids, building memories that will be the foundation for years to come. Make great flower kids. Integrate some children that are close to you and yours into ceremony. Good relations, and they are adorable and a major part of marriage.
I wonder if you dislike kids to the point you do not want any at your wedding, why are you getting married?

 

[cronos]

Originally posted by: PingSpike
Talk her into eloping. This wedding sh|t is a fvcking nightmare. Its a fvcking money pit hassle that sucks up all your time and drives you insane. Take it from me, I haven't even gotten to the worst of it yet. God its such a load of crap.

you're saying it as if it's possible

 

[RichPLS]

you dope, the woman plans everything, you just sit there and say yes or no.

You meant to say Yes and Yes dear!

 

[cronos]

Originally posted by: rh71

Originally posted by: DingDingDao

Originally posted by: PingSpike
Talk her into eloping. This wedding sh|t is a fvcking nightmare. Its a fvcking money pit hassle that sucks up all your time and drives you insane. Take it from me, I haven't even gotten to the worst of it yet. God its such a load of crap.

LOL I hear you man. I'm getting married next May and already I feel overwhelmed with planning. :beer:

you dope, the woman plans everything, you just sit there and say yes or no.

make it mostly a 'yes' if you want to save the energy. it's not like you really care or anything

 

[Toasthead]

and MAKE SURE to inviote people you know wont be able to make it ( might be too far away or whatever) its a free gift!

 

[blackdogdeek]

Originally posted by: RichPLS
Weddings are great for kids, building memories that will be the foundation for years to come. Make great flower kids. Integrate some children that are close to you and yours into ceremony. Good relations, and they are adorable and a major part of marriage.
I wonder if you dislike kids to the point you do not want any at your wedding, why are you getting married?

we didn't allow kids at our wedding.