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Was this guy being abusive to his kids?
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NuclearNed
Raconteur
The situation apparently made everyone in the gym uncomfortable, because lots of people were giving the guy funny looks, and everyone got real quiet.
If my lifting partner calls me a pvssy its one thing because I know he doesn't really mean anything by it. But saying stuff like that to a kid, using a loud angry voice, is a completely different story IMO.
One more bit of info - last night the dad also brought in his little girl. In my opinion she was being a pretty good kid. But she asked her dad if she could do something or other, and he started yelling at her about "be quiet and sit still or you're really going to be in trouble"
If my lifting partner calls me a pvssy its one thing because I know he doesn't really mean anything by it. But saying stuff like that to a kid, using a loud angry voice, is a completely different story IMO.
One more bit of info - last night the dad also brought in his little girl. In my opinion she was being a pretty good kid. But she asked her dad if she could do something or other, and he started yelling at her about "be quiet and sit still or you're really going to be in trouble"
I'm really on the fence with this. On one hand I think the dad is an idiot; no kid deserves that. On the other hand, I wouldn't want people meddling in my family affairs.
At some point, it needs to be your business. Some children do need saved from their parents. The problem is that the line is subjective from individual to individual.
I like the idea of offering to spot the guy and then treating him like he treats his son... of course, if he's belittled in front of his son, it's possible that he'll feel inferior and he'll go even further to prove his manhood to his boy at home.
Too many uknowns... probably should just leave it alone. When the kid is 17 he'll punch his dad in the face and they'll be square.
Maximilian
Lifer
Thats pretty weak... as in nasty. His sons gonna put him in a home when hes older.
Since when was abuse only physical? :roll: Get a clue or join us in the current Century. If someone is *publicly* yelling at a child on a repeated basis, then it would make anyone with a brain think something was going on. Only an idiot would saying that yelling in public on a constant basis is "none of your business." At the very least he should be told to STFU so that other people can work out. More than likely he's verbally abusive to the kid in other situations, because it isn't like a 10 year old needs abuse to work out. He's not pushing through to the next level. He's 10.
Can you show me where something where it says that physical abuse is not ok but mental or emotional abuse is ok? Hoser.
HomeBrewerDude
Lifer
Makes you wonder what the father is thinking...
Cheetah8799
Diamond Member
I've seen parents do this sort of thing, and honestly, it's their business, not yours. If the guy starts hitting the kid, then I think you should step in. If you are really bothered, maybe try to talk to the dad when the kid isn't around. It might provoke him into a fight, simply because you are telling him how to raise his kid, some people don't like that. But in the long run the kid will be better off if the dad lays off a little. That's my opinion.
Reminds me of the time there was a youth wrestling tournament at my old high school. I was there after a cross country meet, just going to my locker to grab some stuff. I witnessed a father yelling at his kid for losing a wresting match, and the kid was crying his eyes out.
Reminds me of the time there was a youth wrestling tournament at my old high school. I was there after a cross country meet, just going to my locker to grab some stuff. I witnessed a father yelling at his kid for losing a wresting match, and the kid was crying his eyes out.
poopaskoopa
Diamond Member
That's a tough judgment call, though. He might be just as described and is being abusive, or he could have that rapport with the son. From the way OP described it, and the way the father spoke to the daughter I'd think he's a dipsh!t, however.
Of course it is subjective, and that's why all of us are giving our opinion here. I'm not busy-body. I rarely, if ever, interfere with anything that goes on in public. However, if I saw a father REPEATEDLY yell at his son in public, then I would certainly be paying attention to it, and I would certainly say it was my business. Not in public? Sucks, but I don't go around planting bugs. In public on a frequent basis? How is that not a problem?
Maximilian
Lifer
Dont do this, you will get a smack in the mouth. People dont like being told how to raise their children or how to do things. Think what you want, inform others, but dont go up and say "uh mr guy, dont talk like that to your child, its wrong, you shouldnt do it" Not everyone takes advice well, and by the sounds of this guy, he would take it badly.
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