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was this a jerk move?

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nageov3t

Lifer
my boyfriend was snoring like a motherfucker tonight, preventing me from sleeping, so at like 3:30 am (after 2 hours of staring at the wall) I slipped out of bed, wrote him a note, snuck out the back door, and left.

I felt kinda like an asshole doing it and he's probably going to be crazy annoyed when he wakes up, but really? wtf wasI going to do, lay in bed for another 5 hours staring at my eyelids?

by the time I got home (4 am) I couldn't even justify trying to go to sleep since I'd have had to wake up for work at 6:30 am so I just showered, changed my clothes, and started my shift at work early.
 
It depends on what the note said, I guess. If it said something along the lines of "I' can't sleep so I went ahead and went to work early. Have a good day. Love, Loki," then I don't see why he would be upset. You could discuss his snoring gently with him later. if it went more along the lines of "Thanks a lot. I can't sleep due to your snoring. Now I'm going to be a zombie at work," then I can see why he'd be upset. He can't control his snoring, after all.
 
Azraele said:
It depends on what the note said, I guess. If it said something along the lines of "I' can't sleep so I went ahead and went to work early. Have a good day. Love, Loki," then I don't see why he would be upset. You could discuss his snoring gently with him later. if it went more along the lines of "Thanks a lot. I can't sleep due to your snoring. Now I'm going to be a zombie at work," then I can see why he'd be upset. He can't control his snoring, after all.
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it was something like "hate to sneak off in the middle of the night, but I couldn't sleep with the snoring."

I think I got spoiled... I had been having hearing issues in one of my ears for the past month or so, so I could sleep with my good ear pressed against the pillow and not hear a thing. but alas, my ear problems were resolved this week and now I can hear everything.
 
Next time use the pillow trick.

And by that I mean to cover his mouth with said pillow until the snowing sound stops.

Just a warning, if he is a heavy sleeper you may have to dig a hole in the backyard in the morning.
 
Given what you put in the note I don't think it was a "jerk move" I think he'll understand, everybody needs their sleep.
 
god... there's two sounds that come to mind that make me almost homicidal when i'm trying to sleep; dogs barking and snoring.

protip: There's an application for the iphone/itouch called "white noise" that simply generates a constant static noise that makes sleeping through such crap infinitely more feasible. I've been using this for a year and half and many, many folks I've recommended this to call it a god send. Not an advert, I don't care what you use, I just recommend sleeping with static noise for light sleepers like myself and perhaps the OP.
 
This is one of the things I hate about sleeping with someone. Especially other men who tend to snore more.

I sleep so well when I'm single, and then when I'm in a relationship, some nights I just feel the need to sleep alone.
 
I would have wanted to be woken up and told nicely that you were leaving. A note will, in most cases, sound really passive aggressive.
 
loki8481 said:
my boyfriend was snoring like a motherfucker tonight, preventing me from sleeping, so at like 3:30 am (after 2 hours of staring at the wall) I slipped out of bed, wrote him a note, snuck out the back door, and left.

I felt kinda like an asshole doing it and he's probably going to be crazy annoyed when he wakes up, but really? wtf wasI going to do, lay in bed for another 5 hours staring at my eyelids?

by the time I got home (4 am) I couldn't even justify trying to go to sleep since I'd have had to wake up for work at 6:30 am so I just showered, changed my clothes, and started my shift at work early.
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What were you thinking (or drinking) when you decided to post this?
 
dud said:
What were you thinking (or drinking) when you decided to post this?
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I was thinking that I'd been awake for 24 hours, was tired/hungry/cranky/bored, and writing shit down always helps me think about it :hmm:

12 pm and I still haven't heard from him, he's either super pissed, sleeping ridiculously late, or is having phone problems.

but my relationship with sleeping well is a lot longer than my relationship with him has been :thumbsup:
 
If you guys were married would you have done the same thing? Jerk move you should have slept on the couch. The relationship won't last move on and find someone new, don't waist his time. Unless you are just hooking up and not in a relationship.
 
OlafSicky said:
If you guys were married would you have done the same thing? Jerk move you should have slept on the couch. The relationship won't last move on and find someone new, don't waist his time. Unless you are just hooking up and not in a relationship.
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probably... once I'm out of bed, I'm up for good. takes me eternity to fall back asleep even if I just have to get up to go to the bathroom.

if I was home alone and some noise that I couldn't control was keeping me up, I probably would have brewed a cup of coffee, cooked breakfast, and started work early. it's my work-night insomnia modus operandi... but I didn't want to wake him up by turning on lights and mucking about in his kitchen and I didn't have my laptop with me to do work on.
 
get an ambient CD, like rain, night sounds and play it. Or do what i do with unwanted noise and learn to tune it out...you can train your own brain if you bother to try, duh
 
loki8481 said:
I felt kinda like an asshole doing it . . .
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In your relationship, are you always the asshole or do you take turns? 😉 😛

Joking, joking, I'm joking, damn it! Please don't rip me a new one . . . wait! 😱
 
This is an interesting thread. Loki came in to post something benign and most of the respondents to this thread are shamelessly fixating on the fact he mentioned "boyfriend." This coupled with the racist undertones in other threads I've been perusing recently has left me disappointed in the current state of ATOT. Shame.
 
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