jackstar7
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It is easy to get around this. Instead of the unmarried couple adopting, just have one of the two adopt as a single person.
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You've done a lot of adopting. It's obvious.
It is easy to get around this. Instead of the unmarried couple adopting, just have one of the two adopt as a single person.
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"Under Virginia law, single people heterosexual or homosexual and married couples may adopt, but unmarried couples may not"
What's the problem with this?
This is actually true. I am the son of lesbian mothers, and I was adopted during the early 1980s, when the laws were more stringent about gay adoptions. I ended up being adopted by one of my mothers when I was born, but my other mother wasn't able to legally adopt me until I was 11 (when the laws started shifting to allow further adoption rights for gay couples). The problem with this line of thinking is that, while it does get around the loophole prohibiting gays from adopting, it also means that if anything happens to the parent who adopted as a single person, the partner of that person would not gain custody; the child would go into the foster care system as though they were an orphan. This was the fear that my parents lived with when I was a young child; if anything happened to one of my mothers, my other mother would be denied custody (because she legally was not my adoptive parent) and I would either go into foster care or possibly been allowed to live with my grandmother as a legal guardian (who happened to live 900 miles away). It doesn't make sense to take a child out of home they've grown up in with people they've called their parents because someone else's homophobia has led them to conclude gays can't be parents; those are the ramifications of denying same-sex couples the right to adopt children jointly.It is easy to get around this. Instead of the unmarried couple adopting, just have one of the two adopt as a single person.
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