Well, whatever floats your boat... I live in Southern California right now, and it's ~80 degrees today.
On the rare occasions that I have frost on the windows on the cars parked outside, I dump a bucket of water on the car, the proceed to drive. Like I said, you guys need to move to a warmer place, screw all that scrapping stuffs in freezing ass weather. If you feel like standing outside turning into a snowman scrapping your auto glass, while your car is warming up, more power to you.
Sucks to be you. And NO, it's not a "really bad idea" to dump water on your windshield to defrost.