• We’re currently investigating an issue related to the forum theme and styling that is impacting page layout and visual formatting. The problem has been identified, and we are actively working on a resolution. There is no impact to user data or functionality, this is strictly a front-end display issue. We’ll post an update once the fix has been deployed. Thanks for your patience while we get this sorted.

Updated "what to do" thread with two possibilities left...

Hi all,

I live in an apartment right now that I semi-regret moving into since I graduated college three weeks ago. Its noisy, and right next to the ex, and expensive. The only good part is it is close to work (20 minutes). And yes, if i left here, I can get out of my lease if I decide soon. I have already discussed this with them.

My parents have offered for me to move in with them. Rent free, for three or four months, I could save money, still live a mostly "free" life, no gas/electric bill, etc. Then, while i was living with them, I could take the time to find a new place. The negatives? Not as much freedom (I can't just bring a girl back to my parents house like I have done now), and the commute to work would be 40 minutes (about double). But my rent right now is $1500 and expenses are like $500 so I would be able to bank a good ADDITIONAL $6000 over the course of those three months.

So what to do? Stay in the place now, since its close to work and I'm already here, learn to deal with the noise (trucks), and the fact that its near the ex. Or move in with my family (I'd probably pay a moving company to put most of my stuff in storage)?

I have to decide by tomorrow.

-Matt

PS: I should also say that as a 22 year old I have about $9000 in CC debt. I could pay that off over this three months. That's partially influencing my decision. If I didn't have the debt, I think I would consider staying. Please consider this in your responses. I mean, obviously, I yearn to be on my own, get married, yada yada yada. That's who I am. I think life would be a lot sweeter if I wasn't paying CC companies every month.
 
You could use that logic forever (it is always convenient and cheap to live with your parents). Then you'll soon become a 40 year old living with his parents. Now is the time to cut the cord.

I would deal with the bad decision for the apartment, and learn from that mistake. Noise and cost should be your #1 factors deciding on an apartment.
 
Originally posted by: dullard
You could use that logic forever (it is always convenient and cheap to live with your parents). Then you'll soon become a 40 year old living with his parents. Now is the time to cut the cord.

I would deal with the bad decision for the apartment, and learn from that mistake. Noise and cost should be your #1 factors deciding on an apartment.


Dullard,

No way. You don't understand. I can't live with my family for a long time. That's not who I am. Plus, I already have a place in mind, and my name is on the waiting list, it isn't avail. till August though. And my parents would kick me out after 3 months anyway.

I just think its fate that I can get out of my lease and move to another place since its noisy. I dunno. I'll wait for more opinions. Thanks!

-Matt
 
I vote for family too. As long as you don't plan to stay long (and they are cool with it) I don't see the issue with having them help bail you out of a situation you don't want to be in. That's what families are for.
 
Originally posted by: mjuszczak
I just think its fate that I can get out of my lease and move to another place since its noisy.
Sounds like you've already made up your mind. Go with it then. Why stick around for people like me to muddy the issue even more?

 
Well, now here's a first; I agree w/everything everyone's said so far. 😕

Sao123 said what I was first thinking.

Then Dullard made an excellent point.

But then YOU (OP) said that your 'rents will kick you out after 3 months anyway. WTF is up w/that? Do they like, start a timer when you move in or something? 😕

I was all for the move back home idea (due to the money saved) until you said they'd kick you out.

As a mature, bill-paying adult, the last thing you NEED is to worry about the roof over your head.

Why would your parents kick you out? Probably for your own good, I guess.

My opinion? Suck it up and deal with paying your own way. Your parents want you to learn through "tough love." Based on the fact that they would let you move back in , but only for a limited amount of time, that tells me that they want you to learn to survive w/o them. That's a good thing. Tough for you, but good. :thumbsup:

Try your hardest to make it on your own. Should the situation reach critical mass, you won't be homeless; you can move back in w/them for 90 days or so.

Good luck!
 
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Well, now here's a first; I agree w/everything everyone's said so far. 😕

Sao123 said what I was first thinking.

Then Dullard made an excellent point.

But then YOU (OP) said that your 'rents will kick you out after 3 months anyway. WTF is up w/that? Do they like, start a timer when you move in or something? 😕

I was all for the move back home idea (due to the money saved) until you said they'd kick you out.

As a mature, bill-paying adult, the last thing you NEED is to worry about the roof over your head.

Why would your parents kick you out? Probably for your own good, I guess.

My opinion? Suck it up and deal with paying your own way. Your parents want you to learn through "tough love." Based on the fact that they would let you move back in , but only for a limited amount of time, that tells me that they want you to learn to survive w/o them. That's a good thing. Tough for you, but good. :thumbsup:

Try your hardest to make it on your own. Should the situation reach critical mass, you won't be homeless; you can move back in w/them for 90 days or so.

Good luck!



They won't kick me out after a set amount of time. Just after three months, they would probably start pushing me more to get a new place. There is no time limit. If I find a place I really like and they don't have availability for 5 months, then they would let me stay 5 months.

And the thing is .... I don't have all the time in the world. Because my leasing agency will only let me out of my lease through this Monday. After that, they would make me pay two months rent to get out. Big difference between $0 scott free and $3000...
 
Originally posted by: mjuszczak
MichaelD: does your opinion change then?

OK, you're thinking straight. That's good. 🙂 Yes, that changes my opinion.

I say: Move in w/the rents. Pay off your CC Debt. You are LUCKY you only have $9K in CC debt. It's not a lot, really.

Do you own furniture? A bed? Kitchen stuff? TV?

Go for it. You have an excellent opportunity to start anew. :beer:

1. Pay off debt
2. Get new place, far away from ex
3. Be a way cool bachelor, with a cool pad and no attachments!! Trust me; you'll be lonely 50% of the time, but stupidly, insanely happy and at peace with your world the other 50% of the time No live in GF = no maintenance. Get yourself a pretty new GF, cook her dinner on Friday, she can be breakfast on Saturday, send her home Sunday morning, play PC games Sunday night. Who's better than you, then, huh? 😎


ps
Step 3 is how I've lived for....6 years now. It's beautiful.
 
Back
Top