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UPDATED Sunday: Girlfriend going to dance with other guy

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Originally posted by: archcommus
Well she is back, and we talked, and things were fine, however I sort of screwed things up do to my attitude about the situation. Sigh.

I don't think I have the courage to express how I acted to ATOT yet, though.
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out with it
 
her going to a dance with a friend because you can't be there is NOT a date. i don't see a problem with it at all.
 
Whoever said it was a "date"? Is she looking at it that way?

Take it from a 27 year old - you're probably looking into this too much if you are (or for those of you who are). You'll probably look back at this years from now (if you're still together) and laugh. I'm glad you said ok. It shows that you trust her.
 
As I said earlier, I saw no problem with it from the beginning, and I trusted her from the beginning. I only started questioning it after talking to some other people.

Some other things caused more of an issue, though. Like they did a lot of things before, and after, and that night, and the next day (today), a lot of things I would've been doing with her had I been there, and she had a great time, so it feels weird that I was quite easily replaced and things were great without me. I'm glad she had fun as she doesn't get enough of that kind of stuff, but it feels awkward missing out on it and it not seeming to really affect how fun it was for her at all. So I expressed that to her, she didn't get it, and things sort of went south. Not to mention that I had the most boring weekend ever here, while she had one of her best, and I'm the one at college! Sure makes it out to her = doing great, me = not so much.
 
yeah, don't ever do that 😛

i've learnt from that mistake in the past (good feelings are ok, bad feelings are not usually)...
 
Originally posted by: mercanucaribe
Uh oh, you screwed up. Telling girls how you feel is a bad idea!
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It's a bad idea when they don't get wtf you're talking about. Funny thing is, I KNOW she'd feel the same way, probably 10x worse, if the shoe were on the other foot. But she doesn't see that. 🙁

And I'm coming home in two days after not having seen her for three weeks. I REALLY don't want to screw up my first day home with her. I need to resolve this tomorrow.

What should I do? I don't want to cave and just say forget about how the whole thing makes me uncomfortable.

 
Originally posted by: Night201
Take it from a 27 year old - you're probably looking into this too much if you are (or for those of you who are). You'll probably look back at this years from now (if you're still together) and laugh. I'm glad you said ok. It shows that you trust her.
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While he said "It was okay for her to go out." she should have opted not to go with another guy.
 
Originally posted by: archcommus
Originally posted by: gigapet
who did she end up hooking up with when you got off the phone with her?
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Last night? No one. She was home. Just had a bit of an argument.
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you know this is only going to last until she is done with high school and realizes she needs about 2-4 years to party and fcuk to sew her wild oats before she is ready to settle down again. Don't want to rain on your parade but just so you know your days with this lass are numbered. You may even make it to junior year in college but she will need this time at some point.
 
I let my girlfriend go to a dance by herself. I asked her who she danced with and she said oh so-and-so and this guy and whatever. I have no problem with it because I know she's coming home with me. It bugged me for a while and I told her it did and we talked about it and its fine now. If it is still bothering you, just remember you can't have her all day every day and that being apart from someone is part of trust. And if you can't trust them, then why are you dating them?


Oh, and don't listen to the jerks on here about "why are you dating high schoolers?" and etc...
 
Originally posted by: gigapet
Originally posted by: archcommus
Originally posted by: gigapet
who did she end up hooking up with when you got off the phone with her?
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Last night? No one. She was home. Just had a bit of an argument.
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you know this is only going to last until she is done with high school and realizes she needs about 2-4 years to party and fcuk to sew her wild oats before she is ready to settle down again. Don't want to rain on your parade but just so you know your days with this lass are numbered. You may even make it to junior year in college but she will need this time at some point.
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Funny, I don't.

 
Originally posted by: archcommus
Everything is done now and I think it was fine (unless she's lying of course! 😛).
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Well a lot of high school kids don;t consider oral sex... sex. So thats something to think about also.

 
Girls Gone Wild candidate for sure. Did you ask her if she banged anyone at the party?

Originally posted by: archcommus
Originally posted by: gigapet
Originally posted by: archcommus
Originally posted by: gigapet
who did she end up hooking up with when you got off the phone with her?
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Last night? No one. She was home. Just had a bit of an argument.
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you know this is only going to last until she is done with high school and realizes she needs about 2-4 years to party and fcuk to sew her wild oats before she is ready to settle down again. Don't want to rain on your parade but just so you know your days with this lass are numbered. You may even make it to junior year in college but she will need this time at some point.
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Funny, I don't.
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You'll find out soon enough.
 
She will dump you when she gets to college. Be prepared for the Dear Archcommus letter/phone call/text msg/whatever this time next year.

Have fun while it lasts!
:thumbsup: 😉
 
You all say she will dump me when she goes to school, why do you assume that SHE will be a party girl next year but that I'M not now? How do you know both of us aren't? Or maybe neither of us are?
 
Originally posted by: archcommus
You all say she will dump me when she goes to school, why do you assume that SHE will be a party girl next year but that I'M not now? How do you know both of us aren't? Or maybe neither of us are?
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because we've all been there and 99% of the time that is what happens.
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: archcommus
You all say she will dump me when she goes to school, why do you assume that SHE will be a party girl next year but that I'M not now? How do you know both of us aren't? Or maybe neither of us are?
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because we've all been there and 99% of the time that is what happens.
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But why is the girl more likely to do the breaking up than the guy?

 
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