*Updated - My wife's sister just told me that I am less intelligent than her husband.

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What should I do...

  • Tell her he's obviously not as intelligent as me because I wouldn't have married a bitch like her.

  • Ignore it like her family does.

  • Try and talk to her constructively and see where the hostility is coming from.

  • Just avoid her whenever possible.


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SunnyD

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Duh. You married her sister, not her. And her husband is the one banging her... not your wife.

Though, to clarify, we'd need pics for sure.
 

KeithTalent

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Tell her you posted a strongly worded thread about her on the interwebs. That will shut her up.

KT
 

randay

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be a super nice guy, the make then blow up one day in her face and in the aftermath make the family choose between her or you. also video tape it and send it to mtv labelled as "First World Problems, pilot episode".
 

JimKiler

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Oct 10, 2002
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Tell her she's fat. That'll shut her fat cakehole.

But he has to point out a flaw even if imagined for a specific body part. That will cast doubt and eat away at her. i.e. why are your eyelids so pudgy?
 

zokudu

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I don't think you can win at this point without showing that it is bothering you. Right now ignore it and move on I don't think you can come out in the right by getting into a confrontation about it now. If she brings it up again take some of the advice in this thread about how to come out on top of that argument.
 

SZLiao214

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If she brings it up again just tell her he must not be that smart since he married her.
 

CraigRT

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Someone like that is not worth your time.
I would just more or less ignore her forever.
 

Platypus

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Apr 26, 2001
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she might be right, you care what some dumb wise and beautiful woman thinks enough to even give it a second thought.
 

ShawnD1

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Tell her she is far less intelligent than her sister.
This! Comparing someone against their sister or brother is a great way to cut them down. Of course I don't know why you'd intentionally make the situation worse...


But he has to point out a flaw even if imagined for a specific body part. That will cast doubt and eat away at her. i.e. why are your eyelids so pudgy?
Do this in a cute way. Say you like her squirrel cheeks or whatever. It's not an insult since you "like" it, but it will still get inside her head.
 

Doppel

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I said first response, but I'd just ignore it, not much you can do about the bia.
 

unokitty

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There is a difference between being well educated and being intelligent.

It is obvious that your sister in law isn't sophisticated enough to understand that difference.

Probably not worth your time to try to educate her.

What is it they say?

If you try to teach a pig to bark, chances are that the pig will get angry. And you will get frustrated.


Uno
 

Childs

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Tell her your dick is bigger than her husbands. If it was bigger he wouldn't have spent so much time getting his phd, and she would have something else to brag about.

But seriously, so what. He may be smarter. There are probably hundreds of millions of people smarter. I would use the above as a comeback, or joking threaten to kick his ass and use his degree for toilet paper. Probably one after the other as she tries to defend him. Then you two can have a loving, yet adversarial relationship...in other words you become part of the family.
 

sixone

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May 3, 2004
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It was a statement made when she was drunk but I'm not one that excuses nonsense like this because of alcohol.

She justified the statement by bringing up the fact that he has a doctorate degree from Columbia.

While I have no way to refute the claim or prove anything contrary, I simply don't think it is in proper form and am quite shocked that it was said with at least 10 other people around. At the time I simply walked away.

It's been a few days since the incident and I am still bothered by it. She is known for making statements like this and when anyone confronts her, everyone else pretty much says it's "her being her."

I'm at a loss for what to do especially because I will be with my wife's family for a two week vacation soon.

That was a pretty crappy thing to say. You were right to walk away.

Did she say this in front of your wife? If so, your wife should have responded to it, in your defense. Talk to your wife about it, and about how SHE will respond the next time it happens.