*Updated - My wife's sister just told me that I am less intelligent than her husband.

What should I do...

  • Tell her he's obviously not as intelligent as me because I wouldn't have married a bitch like her.

  • Ignore it like her family does.

  • Try and talk to her constructively and see where the hostility is coming from.

  • Just avoid her whenever possible.


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monk3y

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UPDATE: Well I talked to my wife a little more about it... She was pretty much shocked that it still bothered me. She then told me that her sister has been trying to get pregnant for quite a while now (I really had no idea since they're both ~35, I figured they were just career oriented and didn't want kids.) My wife and I had a little one last September.

Not sure how what she said made her feel better but if it did, I no longer have an issue with it. As for why it bothered me to begin with? It's probably because I only have a Mathematics BS.

BTW his PhD is in Marketing.




It was a statement made when she was drunk but I'm not one that excuses nonsense like this because of alcohol.

She justified the statement by bringing up the fact that he has a doctorate degree from Columbia.

While I have no way to refute the claim or prove anything contrary, I simply don't think it is in proper form and am quite shocked that it was said with at least 10 other people around. At the time I simply walked away.

It's been a few days since the incident and I am still bothered by it. She is known for making statements like this and when anyone confronts her, everyone else pretty much says it's "her being her."

I'm at a loss for what to do especially because I will be with my wife's family for a two week vacation soon.
 
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jlee

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It was a statement made when she was drunk but I'm not one that excuses nonsense like this because of alcohol.

She justified the statement by bringing up the fact that he has a doctorate degree from Columbia.

While I have no way to refute the claim or prove anything contrary, I simply don't think it is in proper form and am quite shocked that it was said with at least 10 other people around. At the time I simply walked away.

It's been a few days since the incident and I am still bothered by it. She is known for making statements like this and when anyone confronts her, everyone else pretty much says it's "her being her."

I'm at a loss for what to do especially because I will be with my wife's family for a two week vacation soon.

Forget about it / stop talking to her?
 

Kelvrick

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Feb 14, 2001
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Tell her she is far less intelligent than her sister. Or more of a bitch.

EDIT: Try to bring looks into it too, if you can. If you married the sister that isn't as smart or pretty and is a bigger bitch though, then I got nothing for you. Except, sorry bro.

This would have garnered a much more serious response if it was in L&R.
 

rivan

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Jul 8, 2003
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You simply cannot be liked by everyone.

There's a reason in-laws have such a reputation.
 

TerryMathews

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It was a statement made when she was drunk but I'm not one that excuses nonsense like this because of alcohol.

She justified the statement by bringing up the fact that he has a doctorate degree from Columbia.

While I have no way to refute the claim or prove anything contrary, I simply don't think it is in proper form and am quite shocked that it was said with at least 10 other people around. At the time I simply walked away.

It's been a few days since the incident and I am still bothered by it. She is known for making statements like this and when anyone confronts her, everyone else pretty much says it's "her being her."

I'm at a loss for what to do especially because I will be with my wife's family for a two week vacation soon.

I've always felt that alcohol removes peoples internal filters only. So in reality, that is how she really feels about you.

Aside from his doctorate, anything else driving this? Why does it bother you so much?
 

God Mode

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Tell her its better than riding the coattails of her husband and to make you a sandwich.
 

bigrash

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Tell her she is far less intelligent than her sister. Or more of a bitch.

EDIT: Try to bring looks into it too, if you can. If you married the sister that isn't as smart or pretty and is a bigger bitch though, then I got nothing for you. Except, sorry bro.

This would have garnered a much more serious response if it was in L&R.

You forget OP is not intelligent enough for a comeback like that.
 

JimKiler

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Oct 10, 2002
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I understand you wanting to confront her but you should have done it immediately after the comment was made. Not that I would have reacted differently than you.

But you are missing the option of being passive aggressive on the trip to her. What did your wife think about the comment?
 

darkewaffle

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Don't avoid her, but whenever she's in the same room simply put her on mute. Talk over her, talk to people behind her, ignore her entirely while she's right in front of you.
 

monk3y

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I understand you wanting to confront her but you should have done it immediately after the comment was made. Not that I would have reacted differently than you.

But you are missing the option of being passive aggressive on the trip to her. What did your wife think about the comment?

Wife pretty much thought the comment was out of line but that it's just her being her and that I should just ignore it.
 

JulesMaximus

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Sounds like she's a pretentious bitch (you sure she's not alkemyst in drag?). Just ignore her. Nothing good can come from pointing out her stupidity and nothing good can come from arguing with drunks.
 
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vi edit

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Sounds like she's a pretentious bitch (you sure she's not alkemyst in drag?). Just ignore her. Nothing good can come from pointing out her stupidity.

Yep. Some shit you just let roll off you. No point in letting it sit and fester. There's no way you can "win" this other than simply ignoring it.
 

blankslate

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Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 17,113 Default Tell her she is far less intelligent than her sister. Or more of a bitch. EDIT: Try to bring looks into it too, if you can. If you married the sister that isn't as smart or pretty and is a bigger bitch though, then I got nothing for you. Except, sorry bro. This would have garnered a much more serious response if it was in L&R.


Best answer imo