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**UPDATE** YAGT: I'm telling her today how I feel.... w/ working PICS

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DumbGuy

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... and let's see what happens, here's the story:

Met her through one of my best friends (they go to school together) , she posted her pic on my website (the guestbook), and I thought she was cute. I told my friend to give me her screename, so I got it and started talking to her.
Asked her if one day she would come to my pool to hang out with me and my friends and she agreed, so I finally got to meet her in her in person (about a week after I started chatting w/ her). We met, thought she was beautiful, etc etc...

Week goes by, and we start talking on the phone. Eventually I ask her out to go have lunch with me, and she agrees... everything goes well. It wasn't an "official" date, so like, a week after, I ask her out again to have something more serious than just lunch, but here's the problem: The Mother.

BAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH. She has the poor girl on lockdown. She doesn't go out very often cuz of this, even thought she's an extroverted girl. Mom has this "rules" about her dating guys, etc etc.

Anyways, this is getting too long and I just want to get to the point. I really really really like this girl a lot, and well.... we've been talking on the phone (a lot... even both of us just going to sleep together talking on the phone, which was.. cute), hanging out, and it's been 2 months since I met her... and I think it's time to tell her how I feel about her.

How will she react? I will find out today... I certainly hope that I don't fall in the "friend" zone. Although I think there might be a chance to have something with her... with the signals I'm getting. She loves the fact that I make her laugh.... always saying things at the same time (coincidence, but hey... cute, lol). blah blah blah

You know you want em.. so here they are:

weee
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BTW, she's 17, and I'm 19.

Oh yeah, I read before that someone had a fail-proof plan. Something about asking her "so.. what are we?", she would obviously answer "what do u mean?" and for the come back "are we friends, or....." then she would say whatever she feels... which seems like a good thing to do, and I might try it.

Wish me luck!
 
Yeah that's a fail-proof plan if you are hoping to be just friends.

I wouldn't try it.

Just tell her how you feel! Be honest. Gee what's so wrong with that?
 
updated with working pics...
yeah, eventually I will tell her how I feel, but that's the way I'm approaching her.
 
Originally posted by: DumbGuy<brMom has this "rules" about her dating guys, etc etc.
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So you must dress up like a girl when you pick her up. Then you will eventually end up at the same resteraunt as her parents, while you are on a double date. You will have to keep changing clothes so that her parents see you as a female, but your friends don't find out about the cross dressing thing, cause then you won't make the football team.

Hilarity will ensue.
 
she's definitely a cutie, you have my approval 😛

anyway here's a plan. throw a small party. don't forget the alcohol. don't leave her side the entire night. i can't tell you what'll happen exactly, but i bet it'll be something good. just make sure that neither of you get trashed.
 
I hope that works out for you! The thing is, even if she likes you enough to start a relationship with you rather than just be your friend, you still have her mom to deal with. Maybe you could try talking to her as well just to see if you can get her to let her daughter go out more. Set up some rules with her and assure her that you will follow them. This might make her more open to her daughter dating you more often than she is letting her now. Just an idea. 🙂


: ) Amanda
 
Go meet the mother, as ohtwell said. Talk to her, ask her mothers permission to date her. The first time you do get to take her out, have her home early. If her father is in the scene, include him in the discussion about curfew, general rules, etc. Also, dress nice, conservative. Nice jeans, polo shirt, and nice shoes are alway in order when meeting for the first time.

If you do get to take her out, always treat her as a lady, this goes double in front of the parents. Open doors, close them for her. Extend your hand to help her out of the car. When she, or her mother enters the room, always stand if sitting. Look the parents in the eye, kids who cannot look an adult in the eye has something to hide. at the end of the date, walk her to the door. If the parents are up and waiting, and they see you, or invite you in after the date, again, look them in the eye.
 
lol, ok here's another thing:

I did meet the mom a while back... the woman loves me. Heck, the whole family loves me. I asked her (the girl) if I could talk to her mom. She said that I could, but that would make everything so much weirder... I guess that is a sign that she might be not interested in me. It does seem like she wants to wait until the "right" time to go out from what she told me, (like asking the mom for permission, etc).
 
Originally posted by: DumbGuy
lol, ok here's another thing:

I did meet the mom a while back... the woman loves me. Heck, the whole family loves me. I asked her (the girl) if I could talk to her mom. She said that I could, but that would make everything so much weirder... I guess that is a sign that she might be not interested in me. It does seem like she wants to wait until the "right" time to go out from what she told me, (like asking the mom for permission, etc).
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Oh! Well, nm to that then. That doesn't meant that she isn't interested in you though. Hopefully this whole situation works out well for you.


: ) Amanda
 
Oh god...

Well, how "do you feel", don't tell me you "love her" or any of that BS.

IMO, Do not tell her "how you feel". Certainly you don't want to fall in the Friendship zone, but you most definatly should not "tell her how you feel". I suggest just being very aggressive with her, alot of physical contact and such. See her reaction, if she flirts back, you've definatly got a nice solid chance. Its great you two are talking on the phone, it shows shes at least interested in talking to you.

BTW, if you're 19, and shes 17, shes Jail Bait for you.

Check that out

Its a discussion forum (which is probally alot better than here), they basically got all the best and most helpful threads, and put it into one big "Bible". Different posts in different chapters on different parts of relationships, from building your confident, to approaching women, to sex.

The forum used to be really good, I used to post there alot, but after I left (and returned) alot of stupid kiddos whom "know it all" joined, and are giving the stupidest advice. So I just say stick to the bible for the most informative posts.
 
dude.. did I even mention love?

How do I feel? well, I really like her... and I'm hoping to see if we can take our current status to a higher level. that's all, I like her, I think she's awesome, that's it (I don't want to get poetic 😉 )
 
The way you descibe it, it sounds sure fire.

Dont be a punk ass, tell her how much you like her and ask her out on a REAL date, dont ask her how she feels. Youre golden. I'd put money on it if I could.

But in the end, dont read any guides, dont follow anyones advice, just be yourself and say what you want to say. Since youre obviouslu not drop dead in love with her, youve got nothing to fear. Just tell her how much you like hanging out with her blah blah and you want to see where it goes blah blah. I say this only because I assume this is what youre already thinking. If she's scared off by you asking her out on a real date, then you dont want a part of that.
 
BTW, going out with girls that have their moms on lockdown is kinda fun. Sneaking in and out at night is awesome.

Until that fateful day when her dad catches you sleeping with her..... But thats a whoooole other post.
 
Originally posted by: BD2003
The way you descibe it, it sounds sure fire.

Dont be a punk ass, tell her how much you like her and ask her out on a REAL date, dont ask her how she feels. Youre golden. I'd put money on it if I could.

But in the end, dont read any guides, dont follow anyones advice, just be yourself and say what you want to say. Since youre obviouslu not drop dead in love with her, youve got nothing to fear. Just tell her how much you like hanging out with her blah blah and you want to see where it goes blah blah. I say this only because I assume this is what youre already thinking. If she's scared off by you asking her out on a real date, then you dont want a part of that.
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yeah dude, I want to do something like that like the way you describe it.... btw, she doesn't seem scared at all of me asking her out. She seems pretty interested, and we've actually talked about and she would ask "oh where are u taking me huh huh huh?" lol, stuff like that.
 
So wtf are you waiting for? Call her and get it over with. Dont think about it, just do it. Trust me. Anyone that tells you to carefully plan out each move has no idea what theyre talking about.

Rejection is a bitch the first time, but looks like youre all in the clear. Just dont get drama queen on her and youve got nothing to worry about.
 
If a guy had to ask me what we were, I'd totaly be like WFT? you dont know... RETARD!

If you have to ask and expect an answer from her to a question like that, if she's has any bit of brains she'd look for better then you.

How bout just asking her right out. Why beat around the bush? IMO that more mature then asking "what are we."

What's wrong with kids these day?
 
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