Nah, too harsh. When you're young, you don't always make the best decisions. Why should you have to live with them the rest of your life? The fact that you ask the question makes me lean towards you leaving, because if you were so in love, you wouldn't need to ask. Be a man, face the facts, talk about it and I think you'll decide it's time to start over. You got lucky by not having kids yet, otherwise it would be more difficult. Good luck buddy, your life is a do over.
Nah, too harsh. When you're young, you don't always make the best decisions. Why should you have to live with them the rest of your life? The fact that you ask the question makes me lean towards you leaving, because if you were so in love, you wouldn't need to ask. Be a man, face the facts, talk about it and I think you'll decide it's time to start over. You got lucky by not having kids yet, otherwise it would be more difficult. Good luck buddy, your life is a do over.
kids would definately make me say no, but since you two dont have any, thats not an issue for you.
if you two have a good healthy marriage, why wouldnt she support you? if this is a once in a lifetime oppurtunity for you for wealth and dream fulfillment, why would she want to stand in your way. it can only make you happy or miserable. either way she would still win: money and a husband who is happy because he achieved a dream, or a husband who realised he cant survive away from his wife, and only wants to return to her side. i can understand her not wanting to be apart for so long, but sometimes we have to set aside our emotions and selfish tendencies. trust me, i wouldnt want my wife to go, but i wouldnt hold her back from a chasing a dream.
if you dont have a good healthy marriage, just go and use this as an oppurtunity to put the past to bed, and start a new life.
what you really have to ask yourself is: can you avoid resenting her if you stay for her? that will destroy the marriage.
if you do end up going and not losing your wife, dont do anything stupid like cheating on her.
tough situation for you and your wife. just make sure to keep a level head, and dont say anthing you cant take back just because you were angry.
good luck.:beer:
I should have also mentioned that she is active duty military and seperations were a known factor when we got married. However both of us going away for long periods of time seem to preclude a marriage. Where do you come home to? Who do you come home to?
depends on why hes is going. if its to make money and advance his career to the benefit of his wife and future additions to his family, then that is too harsh. if hes going just to get away, then he should realize that and be honest with his wife and decide from there.
One good thing is that neither of us are angry or bitter. I woul describe the mutual feelings as tired and apprehensive.
that seems to be a double standard to me. if shes could be deployed for months at a time, how is that any different from your potential job? why does she expect you to deal with something that she wont?
im not taking shots at your wife, just thinking out loud.
- are you joinng MIB? SPECTRE?
- why can't she come with you?
- does "more than a little wealthy" mean at least seven figures?
- does this adventure of a lifetime substantially decrease your expected lifetime?
Imagine yourself in ten years: Which choice are you more likely to regret not making?
I'd do it. But then, I'm not married.
- why can't she come with you?
- does "more than a little wealthy" mean at least seven figures?
- does this adventure of a lifetime substantially decrease your expected lifetime?
Imagine yourself in ten years: Which choice are you more likely to regret not making?
I'd do it. But then, I'm not married.
She seems to be the one with concerns which probably means there is more to it than the seperation.
When we got married it was with a tacit understanding that I would follow her around for the 1st tour. That didn't work out when we got posted to bumfvck and I had the option of working at a movie theatre or sitting at home all day. That was a very rough time, and I admit I should have probably tried harder at that point.
It will be under conract with the DOD deployed in a foriegn country. I can't give any more details until I sign on the dotted line. If I go I will be sure to post pics with my new Optio S4.
Not seven figures but well over six.
Thier is significant hazard pay
I don't know. Do I risk losing the love of my life, or the opportunity of a lifetime. Man, I am sounding like an indecisive little bitch aren't I?
I say, as long as your wife is active duty and has to be away from home, you should take that job. She's going to be away from home anyways. Whats the matter if you are away from home?
$100K+ at age 25 is too good to pass up.
$100K+ at age 25 is too good to pass up.
haha, the poll is 50/50. Sorry kid, in the end, it's all up to you. I know it's tough too, 'cause I'm in pretty much the same boat, except I'm 30.
You shouldn't be asking this kind of question online ... you should think long and hard over it. Whatever you deicde, hope it brings you happiness :beer:
That changes things. If the marriage is on the rocks...
It only takes 60 days to divorce in Texas. I'm kind of an expert.
sounds like you have already made the decision to go, your marriage is on the rocks, you have an opportunity of a lifetime. are you trying to convince us or are we supposed to agree with you?
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