*UPDATE* to my earlier post about running into my EX GF.

[DaWhim]

yes, talk to her. let her know what the question is.

 

[Iron Woode]

Originally posted by: Goosemaster

Originally posted by: PipBoy
There is no need to make peace with ex-girlfriends. Forget them and move on. You are going to create some bad problems for yourself.

Not only that, but there is SERIOUSLY NOTHING TO TALK ABOUT.

One thing is speaking with old aquainrences after having gone through a change. It makes for interesting conversation. Otherwise, you are liable to ahve a boring conversation, start following you human instincts, and prolly have sex with some woman; definitely acts you would regret.

I have thought about that too.

Actually this thread has been very theraputic for me. It has helped me put things in perspective. Talking to her parents again without feeling like a complete a$$ was very helpfull. It felt like a home comming and I thanked them for allowing me to come over. It is the final act that I must do to close the book on this. I want her to know I am sorry for hurting her. I know she needs to hear it as well. Seeing me has obviously upset her and she wouldn't be so upset if she had clearly moved on. If she was over me and secure about it, she would have been able to speak to me like an adult. I don't want to have a relationship with her other than as a casual friend. Someone to talk to once in a while. I sure as hell don't want to make love to her again. I couldn't handle that kind of intimacy with her. I am not going to let her play head games with me again.

 

[Danman]

Well I hope these bones in the closet get settled for you man. I wish you luck, you got a lot of things to work out.

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: Skoorb
Goodluck! You didn't drive her to him though. Sh*t happens and she made the wrong choices.

OMG intelligent rational opinions on OT, when will the rain of frogs begin?

 

[littleprince]

Just remember. Things will never be as you remember them... I've tried

 

[Iron Woode]

Originally posted by: cashman
Well I hope these bones in the closet get settled for you man. I wish you luck, you got a lot of things to work out.

One way or the other, this is going to get settled. I have waited long enough to confront my demons. 5 years ago I would not have had the maturity or the guts to do this. There is nothing I can say or do, that will change what happened in the past. The both of us need healing and closure, and it will take the both of us to do it.

 

[Iron Woode]

Originally posted by: littleprince
Just remember. Things will never be as you remember them... I've tried

I know that from trying it after we broke up the first time. I am not looking to go back out with her, no matter how tempting that may be.

I have made my overture today and will find out more on Sunday.