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Update on Child Custody

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FettsBabe

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Went to the attorney today and she seemed to think we had enough to file a motion. We have to ask for a parental evaluation too. She wants us to go back to her office within a few weeks (when she completes the motion) for us to look over everything. I have to prepare exhibits that support our case. Then we should know how strong our case is. If the parental evaluation comes back in our favor then we can almost certainly win in court. If not, the least we can do is go to mediation and develop a new consent order which shows the new days we agreed to a few months ago.
 
What a nightmare this must be. I feel badly for you...I can understand what you're going thru.

Good luck. 🙂
 
More evidence to support the idea that you should be ABSOLUTELY sure that you can live with someone for at least 18 years if you're going to have a kid with them.
 
Originally posted by: notfred
More evidence to support the idea that you should be ABSOLUTELY sure that you can live with someone for at least 18 years if you're going to have a kid with them.
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Sometimes, sh1t happens...contrary to what a lot of parents will say in public, most children are not planned.
 
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Originally posted by: notfred
More evidence to support the idea that you should be ABSOLUTELY sure that you can live with someone for at least 18 years if you're going to have a kid with them.
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Sometimes, sh1t happens...contrary to what a lot of parents will say in public, most children are not planned.
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I realize that, but jsut because it happens doesn't mean it's the best way to go about having a family.
 
Michael, you are absolutely right. The pregnancy wasn't planned. So for those of you who frequently sleep with women you aren't married to! BEWARE! Condoms don't always work....and Babies Happen! Don't think it won't happen to you. Don't believe a woman when she tells you she can't have babies. Until you see a written confirmation from a doctor you better keep the slinky in your pants 😉

The attorney said the good thing is we basically already have the counselor on our side. Now all we have to do is get one more professional on our side. The person that does the parental evaluation will also talk to the counselor.

 
Originally posted by: notfred
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Originally posted by: notfred
More evidence to support the idea that you should be ABSOLUTELY sure that you can live with someone for at least 18 years if you're going to have a kid with them.
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Sometimes, sh1t happens...contrary to what a lot of parents will say in public, most children are not planned.
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I realize that, but jsut because it happens doesn't mean it's the best way to go about having a family.
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I don't believe that postition is truly tenable. There are any number of possible circumstances which would make divorce or seperation the best option. What's truly unfortunate is that a child is being held hostage by the resentments of adults.

 
Originally posted by: FettsBabe
Michael, you are absolutely right. The pregnancy wasn't planned. So for those of you who frequently sleep with women you aren't married to! BEWARE! Condoms don't always work....and Babies Happen! Don't think it won't happen to you. Don't believe a woman when she tells you she can't have babies. Until you see a written confirmation from a doctor you better keep the slinky in your pants 😉

The attorney said the good thing is we basically already have the counselor on our side. Now all we have to do is get one more professional on our side. The person that does the parental evaluation will also talk to the counselor.
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Having the counselor in the bag is about 60% of the battle, IMO. 🙂 Best of luck to you.
 
Originally posted by: FettsBabe
Michael, you are absolutely right. The pregnancy wasn't planned. So for those of you who frequently sleep with women you aren't married to! BEWARE! Condoms don't always work....and Babies Happen! Don't think it won't happen to you. Don't believe a woman when she tells you she can't have babies. Until you see a written confirmation from a doctor you better keep the slinky in your pants 😉

The attorney said the good thing is we basically already have the counselor on our side. Now all we have to do is get one more professional on our side. The person that does the parental evaluation will also talk to the counselor.
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AMEN!!! I have a wonderful 10 yo son because of that, and love him more than anything, but it has been a LONG road, I have primary customdy, and she is supposed to pay me child support, and doesn't (A whole other story).. It's literally a Jerr SPringer episode, and I wouldn't wish it on ANYONE.

Remember kids, there's no such thing as free sex.


I have to prepare exhibits that support our case
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Huh? That's what you pay the attorney for..
 
Huh? That's what you pay the attorney for..
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I'm a paralegal. I can do it for free or pay the attorney. It reduces our fees by allowing her to work on the "grit" of the case while I put together the supporting evidence. Remember, you only pay the attorney for the time they work on the case. The more I do the less we have to pay 🙂
 
It will still probably take years. The kids always suffer. Good luck and the world is better place for at least you two trying, Thank You. 🙂 😎
 
Originally posted by: FettsBabe
Went to the attorney today and she seemed to think we had enough to file a motion. We have to ask for a parental evaluation too. She wants us to go back to her office within a few weeks (when she completes the motion) for us to look over everything. I have to prepare exhibits that support our case. Then we should know how strong our case is. If the parental evaluation comes back in our favor then we can almost certainly win in court. If not, the least we can do is go to mediation and develop a new consent order which shows the new days we agreed to a few months ago.
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I know what it's like, good luck to you...
 
It won't take years. It should be over in July. We will file the motion, parental evaluation, go to mediation, go to court if mediation fails.

 
Originally posted by: SuperSix
Originally posted by: FettsBabe
Michael, you are absolutely right. The pregnancy wasn't planned. So for those of you who frequently sleep with women you aren't married to! BEWARE! Condoms don't always work....and Babies Happen! Don't think it won't happen to you. Don't believe a woman when she tells you she can't have babies. Until you see a written confirmation from a doctor you better keep the slinky in your pants 😉

The attorney said the good thing is we basically already have the counselor on our side. Now all we have to do is get one more professional on our side. The person that does the parental evaluation will also talk to the counselor.
Click to expand...

AMEN!!! I have a wonderful 10 yo son because of that, and love him more than anything, but it has been a LONG road, I have primary customdy, and she is supposed to pay me child support, and doesn't (A whole other story).. It's literally a Jerr SPringer episode, and I wouldn't wish it on ANYONE.
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Hope that your ex finally pays, so I won't eventually have to track her down...
 
Originally posted by: SuperSix
Originally posted by: FettsBabe
Michael, you are absolutely right. The pregnancy wasn't planned. So for those of you who frequently sleep with women you aren't married to! BEWARE! Condoms don't always work....and Babies Happen! Don't think it won't happen to you. Don't believe a woman when she tells you she can't have babies. Until you see a written confirmation from a doctor you better keep the slinky in your pants 😉

The attorney said the good thing is we basically already have the counselor on our side. Now all we have to do is get one more professional on our side. The person that does the parental evaluation will also talk to the counselor.
Click to expand...

AMEN!!! I have a wonderful 10 yo son because of that, and love him more than anything, but it has been a LONG road, I have primary customdy, and she is supposed to pay me child support, and doesn't (A whole other story).. It's literally a Jerr SPringer episode, and I wouldn't wish it on ANYONE.
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Hope that your ex finally pays, so I won't eventually have to track her down...

EDIT: Repeat...
 
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