-update- I am back "home", sort of... still seeking advice

[Colt45]

go postal on them.

well. dont really. but are you that incompotent that you cant get a pair of shoes and your stuff before you left?

and you literally ran away? wtf. did your dad have a shotgun pointed at your ass?

 

[DannyBoy]

Originally posted by: Xiety

Originally posted by: pillage2001

Originally posted by: IDoNotKnow
Where do I get a job? I cannot stay in this area, they will find me.

I have no info to show employment. I have nothing on me at all.

I was living at home because my parents wanted me to live at home. They pay for my stuff and for that I will pay back. THey told me not to get job and jsut go to college. STudy. Don't worry about other stuff. My parents mean well for me but do not do so in the right way. I have tried living with it, I have tried being pateitn, I have tried talking, but nothing works. I will NEVER fogive them for hitting me though.

I often think maybe I'm the wrong one. AFter all they do all that for me. Why am i complainging why am I stupid. Myabe I still am the wrong one. I'm really sorry. I'ms orry for being a burden on my parents. But I still can't do it anymore.

I believe I know who you are............

who ?

PICS or BAN :evil:

 

[Turkish]

Originally posted by: IDoNotKnow
If I got to the police somethign will happen to my parents. I do not want that. I jsut want them to live life w/o me.

Yes I am asian. But whatever. Maybe it is ingraned into me, but still. Still a part of me, I dotn know how you guys say to do this stuff. I can't hurt my parents. I can't. I do not want to.

What do I do to get thsem so mad? ANything. Just not listening, disobeying.. being a stupid bratty kid I guess. I'm a f*ckin POS probably. I never ever laid a hand on them though fighting back. I told them not to hit me. I called 911 before but hung up right away. They called back and I said it was nothing. It's too scary. Its too sad.

I don't want to tell anyone where i am. I don't want anyone else involved. I dont want others to worry about me. I dont' want to burden others. I will jstu live and die. I am nothing but trouble.

Although I understand you are in a horrible situation here, running away, and crying out loud about it won't help. Tough days are waiting... and whether you are Asian, American, African, European, parents like that need to get punished.

 

[Shaftatplanetquake]

Originally posted by: IDoNotKnow
Where do I get a job? I cannot stay in this area, they will find me.

I have no info to show employment. I have nothing on me at all.

I was living at home because my parents wanted me to live at home. They pay for my stuff and for that I will pay back. THey told me not to get job and jsut go to college. STudy. Don't worry about other stuff. My parents mean well for me but do not do so in the right way. I have tried living with it, I have tried being pateitn, I have tried talking, but nothing works. I will NEVER fogive them for hitting me though.

I often think maybe I'm the wrong one. AFter all they do all that for me. Why am i complainging why am I stupid. Myabe I still am the wrong one. I'm really sorry. I'ms orry for being a burden on my parents. But I still can't do it anymore.

Suck it up.

 

[sygyzy]

Originally posted by: ThaGrandCow

I'm not asian and I believe in spanking discipline. I will do it with my children when I have them. I don't believe in beating kids, but a swat on the rear when they fscked up does a lot more to show they did wrong than a "stern talking to + sitting in the corner for 10 minutes" or whatever else the pacifists think is the best way to discipline children. Don't stereotype things that are common to every race and culture.

This is the first time I have ever seen someone complain that they were not included in a (generally perceived) negative aspect of a specific race/culture. I am Asian and have my thoughts on disciplining children. But for you to actually ask be to categorized as such a person, is pretty amazing to me. I am not saying that it's good or bad, but it's interesting. I mean that's like a hispanic person saying "Hey man, it's not just Chinese drivers that suck. I am a pretty crappy driver myself, please don't exclude me!"

 

[Tetsuo]

Originally posted by: manly
What if Tetsuo is the psycho killer?

Stereotypes aside, I find it disturbing that a few people are asking if this person is Asian. :frown:

OH NOES! You found me out!
























But anyways, if you are not going to try and go back home, or continue to make excuses that you can't a job or something. Why waste your time complaining to us, if you won't go out and do something?

 

[GeekDrew]

Originally posted by: ThaGrandCow

Originally posted by: IDoNotKnow I am in college but thats no longer a possiblity now. I need shoes if I am to get a job. I need somewhere to sleep.

You have a legal right to your stuff. Remember that, go home (maybe when they're not there), and take it. DO NOT TAKE STUFF THAT ISN'T YOURS (Stuff your parents bought you is legally yours, but the TV in the living room is not.)

Note that this depends on what are you are in. I have been told (repeatedly) by the police that anything my parents bought for me or I had in my possession while I was under 18 may be claimed by yours parents as belonging to them. Thus, I don't have the right to get my stuff from my parents' house, whether I have a sheriff's escort or not.

If you can get into the house without them there... I would probably go that route. Just don't take things that would piss them off to the extent that they would file a robbery report about and have you arrested.

 

[IDoNotKnow]

Yes I know I'm f*ckin writing like a f*ckin child alright!!

I'm not in the f*ckin right state of mind to type out all this sh1t in essay point format with perfect grammar and spelling. I'm shaking, I'm crying, I really don't know WTF to do anymore okay!

Pilalge, if you know who I am I hope you can respect another enough to not tell others and please remove any indiciation on showing who I am. THe mods could probably find out, maybe not, but I don't know. I jsut don't want people that I know in real life to know.

Listen, I am not trying to make excuses. I am not tryign to jsut whine. I'm really looking for advice. I"m just really damn f*ckin scared. I will plan on going back to try and get some stuff, some clothes and shoes. (ANd yes i f*ckin RAN, my dad was chasing me and would've beat me, he was alreayd grabbing stuff anytihng nearby that he can throw at me.) I will try to go to chruch first, but I don't know anyone there. I wil then try friends if nothign esle. THen army. I am so scared. i will NOT go back.

I have ran away before and I always came back. But nothing ever changed. NOthing wil change if I go back, thats why I wont'. I understand that now. I have gone through this before. But last time I said if it were to ever happen again, I will leave and never come back. I just can't do it anymore.

I think its wierd to some of you guys. Yes i hate my parents, but I don't wwnat them harm. My mom has recently been really depressed form her parents dying. I never felt sad for that, but sad that I didn't care really. I don't really care for them, but I don't want to harm them. THey are people, we are stupid, I am stupid. I'm probably at fault anyways, but f*ck, it jsut doesn't work.

 

[dvdrdiscs]

Originally posted by: IDoNotKnow
If I got to the police somethign will happen to my parents. I do not want that. I jsut want them to live life w/o me.

Yes I am asian. But whatever. Maybe it is ingraned into me, but still. Still a part of me, I dotn know how you guys say to do this stuff. I can't hurt my parents. I can't. I do not want to.

What do I do to get thsem so mad? ANything. Just not listening, disobeying.. being a stupid bratty kid I guess. I'm a f*ckin POS probably. I never ever laid a hand on them though fighting back. I told them not to hit me. I called 911 before but hung up right away. They called back and I said it was nothing. It's too scary. Its too sad.

I don't want to tell anyone where i am. I don't want anyone else involved. I dont want others to worry about me. I dont' want to burden others. I will jstu live and die. I am nothing but trouble.

Well now that we know you're Asian, some of us can at least identify with what you're going through. Personally, I feel like I totally understand what you're feeling RIGHT NOW. Just don't think you're the only one because I'm telling you right now that you're not. Asian parents can be assholes. You running away is a first step you've finally decided to take. Something had to be a catalyst for that to happen so go with the momentum and try to support yourself. I'm sure you are REALLY scared right now and your mind is in a rush. Maybe you should sleep on it. I'm sure the next morning y ou'll start to feel some regret and doubt on what you did. Just remember it'll be an endless cycle unless you step out of the circle and face the unknown. Faith should be what's driving you because in the end, it will get better.

 

[VioletAura]

Originally posted by: IDoNotKnow
Where do I get a job? I cannot stay in this area, they will find me.

I have no info to show employment. I have nothing on me at all.

I was living at home because my parents wanted me to live at home. They pay for my stuff and for that I will pay back. THey told me not to get job and jsut go to college. STudy. Don't worry about other stuff. My parents mean well for me but do not do so in the right way. I have tried living with it, I have tried being pateitn, I have tried talking, but nothing works. I will NEVER fogive them for hitting me though.

I often think maybe I'm the wrong one. AFter all they do all that for me. Why am i complainging why am I stupid. Myabe I still am the wrong one. I'm really sorry. I'ms orry for being a burden on my parents. But I still can't do it anymore.

I was in they same situation. Dont get a job, go to school and study and live at home is what they told me. They wanted to maintain control. I was treated as more of a live in servant than their daughter for most of my life, but I don't hate my parents for it. Now I am finished school, got a job and now they are treating me better because age has caught up with them and they realize they aren't getting any younger. Your parents will realize this eventually once their hair becomes grey and their health begins to fail and they will treat you better, just hang in there, go home, don't do anything stupid to get yourself hurt.

 

[dvdrdiscs]

And some of you are really assholes. If you can't understand what he's going through, shove it. You can keep your "fake" manliness to yourself. It's not as easy for everyone to be just like you. I can totally understand if you are not the type of person to try to show sympathy or whatever but don't make him feel any worse.

 

[Megatomic]

The ones you know IRL are going to be first ones to find out IDoNotKnow...

I'm really sorry to hear about your problems, they are serious for sure but you have to tighten up. You can't face life when it gets tough the way you are right now. Good luck no matter what you do, just make sure you do something positive to fix things.

 

[jjyiz28]

that is a typical asian household. seriously, suck it up. finished college. get a job, then move out and never see your parents again. pay them all back for what they have given you, then cut off communication and live your own life.

be a man, don't be such a crybaby. while ur living with them, just grit ur teeth.
them hitting you is not wrong if you are in the wrong. if they are int he wrong, AND they hit you, well that sucks, but sh!t like that happens alot in asian families. im mostly inthe right with my mom, my dad is koo. my parents never apologized for anything they did, or any mistakes they have done. while me i have to apologize even when i know i am right. grow up. they mean well. but when you get older, you can afford to cut off yoru ties and never see them again if you wish.

 

[jjyiz28]

y run away, you shoulda done what i did, i punched through the kitchen glass. felt relieved afterwards.

 

[jjyiz28]

 

[IDoNotKnow]

Originally posted by: Megatomic
The ones you know IRL are going to be first ones to find out IDoNotKnow...

I'm really sorry to hear about your problems, they are serious for sure but you have to tighten up. You can't face life when it gets tough the way you are right now. Good luck no matter what you do, just make sure you do something positive to fix things.

THere are only very few who actually know me in real life. I'm not close w/ them or anything and don't talk to them often. But i see them occasioanlly and woudl jstu rather avoid the awkwardness. I probalb ywoudlnt' see them anyways now.

dvdrdiscs, i appreciate your comments. I am calming down more and can think better now. but I repeat, I will NOT go back. I have done so before, and no it just can't stand it anymore. I have thought this since I was young, since elementary school. I HAVE been trying to deal with it for my whole life. As a young kid, I was jsut stupid and helpless. Now that Im older I may die, but at least I can't blame anyone but myself now. I am sucking it up, I am looking for advice and jsut needed to say something before I cry myself to death.

Yeah I guess this is the typical asian household wahtever. Yeah theres probalby tons of you who went through worse. But ME, I jsut can't do it anymore. I'm sorry, I'm not as strong enough as you guys. I don't like running, I don't like crying, I don't like liek being f*ckin hit and chased w/ baseball bats. I don't think they woudl kill me, but honestly I don't know when they get pissed off. Being chased w/ a f*ckin baseball bat sayign hes going to kill me and that I'm a POS is not f*ckin cool okay?

 

[oSReApEr]

Originally posted by: ScottyB
If this is real, go to a police station and tell them the story. They can take you to family services in the morning and they will place you into foster care.

WOW slick your a moron.

IDoNotKnow staying postive is your best hope. If need something done (like getting a job) determination will lead you to it, keep on trying and hope for the best.

Good Luck

o$ Re@pEr

 

[CanOWorms]

So you're staying at a friend's place right now? Using their internet connection, etc.? That probably means they're pretty good friends to help you out right now. Can't you stay with them for a bit? I'm guessing that they're college students, too... maybe you can live with them for a bit and try to find a job within a month or so. I'm sure if you went to your campus you could find an on-campus job!

 

[oSReApEr]

woops wrong quote i used.

 

[dvdrdiscs]

Originally posted by: IDoNotKnow

Originally posted by: Megatomic
The ones you know IRL are going to be first ones to find out IDoNotKnow...

I'm really sorry to hear about your problems, they are serious for sure but you have to tighten up. You can't face life when it gets tough the way you are right now. Good luck no matter what you do, just make sure you do something positive to fix things.

THere are only very few who actually know me in real life. I'm not close w/ them or anything and don't talk to them often. But i see them occasioanlly and woudl jstu rather avoid the awkwardness. I probalb ywoudlnt' see them anyways now.

dvdrdiscs, i appreciate your comments. I am calming down more and can think better now. but I repeat, I will NOT go back. I have done so before, and no it just can't stand it anymore. I have thought this since I was young, since elementary school. I HAVE been trying to deal with it for my whole life. As a young kid, I was jsut stupid and helpless. Now that Im older I may die, but at least I can't blame anyone but myself now.

And I encourage you NOT to go back. You can try going to the bank tomorrow and see if you can take out a loan? $2-3,000 should be enough to help you get started. You will also need to find a job. Ask around to see if any of your friends can hook you up with a job. Just tell them you need money. Don't have to tell them everything.

A lot of these people think it's as easy as "sucking it up." Too bad it's not as easy if you're emotionally scarred since you were little.

 

[Megatomic]

If you need direction in your life the military is a good start. Your documentation is public record, a recruiter could/would help you get all the stuff together that you'd need to to sign up. There are many good programs available in the US armed forces for smart young people. You could go in enlisted and leave an officer in a decade (if you're motivated enough).

Just one avenue for you to consider...

 

[KK]

Originally posted by: VioletAura

Originally posted by: IDoNotKnow
Where do I get a job? I cannot stay in this area, they will find me.

I have no info to show employment. I have nothing on me at all.

I was living at home because my parents wanted me to live at home. They pay for my stuff and for that I will pay back. THey told me not to get job and jsut go to college. STudy. Don't worry about other stuff. My parents mean well for me but do not do so in the right way. I have tried living with it, I have tried being pateitn, I have tried talking, but nothing works. I will NEVER fogive them for hitting me though.

I often think maybe I'm the wrong one. AFter all they do all that for me. Why am i complainging why am I stupid. Myabe I still am the wrong one. I'm really sorry. I'ms orry for being a burden on my parents. But I still can't do it anymore.

I was in they same situation. Dont get a job, go to school and study and live at home is what they told me. They wanted to maintain control. I was treated as more of a live in servant than their daughter for most of my life, but I don't hate my parents for it. Now I am finished school, got a job and now they are treating me better because age has caught up with them and they realize they aren't getting any younger. Your parents will realize this eventually once their hair becomes grey and their health begins to fail and they will treat you better, just hang in there, go home, don't do anything stupid to get yourself hurt.

Yeah, just remember IDoNotKnow, you will be the one to put them in a nursing home. So tell them that. Maybe that will have them think alittle. Tell them, they fvck with you now, you won't forget.

KK

 

[manly]

How do you get a loan with no employment or credit history?

Capital One would hook you up w/ at least a few hundred dollars credit limit though.

 

[jjyiz28]

what i want to know is why your parents are angry at you?? what did you do?? what are you guys fighting about?? are you int he wrong?? or are they??

 

[DannyBoy]

Originally posted by: jjyiz28
y run away, you shoulda done what i did, i punched through the kitchen glass. felt relieved afterwards.

Tried that, well, glass door panel, hurt like hell, regretted it afterwards