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Ugh....

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Yeeny

Lifer
I just found out a guy I have known since I was 16, and used to party with, blew his brains out this morning. I guess his wife left him, and he couldn't take it. I've been friends with his brother for a long time, what am I going to say when I see him? God....

Now he has two kids, fatherless, who are gonna grow up wondering why he did such a thing. Ugh! 🙁
 
🙁 Sorry to hear that Yeeny...

I had a good friend in high school that shot himself a couple years after we graduated. It's a shame your friend had children though.
 
I just feel bad when anyone can't look past the pain of today, to see what tomorrow can hold. Especially when they have kids, the pain those kids will grow up with now, just the thought of it breaks my heart.
 
Lets stand back and look at this from a different perspective. . .

He did not seem all that stable if he blocked his kinds and shot himself. I mean, he knew he had kids, so what is a wife to have anything to do about it if she left him. No matter what chemical inbalence was there, he should have understood the concept of his childrens roll in his life, and roll he had in theirs. Forget the wife. He was looking for an OUT, a HIGH, or anything along those lines. While he may have been influenced by other means to do this, I am sure it may not have been truly intentional.

-STeve
 
I'm not blaming his wife, at all, I was not in their marriage, and I'm sure if he was this unstable, then living with him could very well have been a hell she couldn't endure anymore. It was just the straw that broke the camels back.
 
Originally posted by: Yeeny
I just feel bad when anyone can't look past the pain of today, to see what tomorrow can hold. Especially when they have kids, the pain those kids will grow up with now, just the thought of it breaks my heart.
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Sometimes the pain is just too great, and the opportunity to end it comes easier than waiting it out, sadly. I agree it's all the more tragic when children are left behind. At least he didn't wipe out his entire family the way some do.

 
Originally posted by: Eli
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Poor children...
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Yes, I agree 100%.

But as always, I must play devil's advocate.

How much do we know about this situation? Maybe the guy wasn't all that educated and/or didn't have a decent job or ANY job, for that matter.

Maybe the prospect of paying 40% of his income in child support for the next 18 years, plus the cost of the divorce/attorneys' fees, plus the raping he knew he'd get in the divorce proceedings were a bit much? Anyone think of that?

Speaking for myself, I've worked very hard for what I have. The thought of some woman taking it all away in a divorce settlement is anathema to me...that's why I'll probably never marry.

Not saying what he did was right; it was selfish to leave those kids fatherless. Just saying that just maybe, the coming doom was too much for him to handle.

ps
And until you personally have been forced to either work two jobs, or live like a pauper and eat poorly, you don't know the true pain of The Single Father Screwed by the System.
 
Originally posted by: Yeeny
Originally posted by: Electric Amish
what am I going to say when I see him? God....
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Nice....Shot....Man

amish
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you know, sometimes you can be a real asshat. if you want to be a jerk, go do it elsewhere.
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I know I can, sorry, but people really dwell upon death too much. Lighten up.

People die. It's kind of a side-effect of being born.

It's not tragic. It's not surprising, It's not sad. It's life. When it's your time, it's your time; however it ends.

amish
 
Originally posted by: Electric Amish


you know, sometimes you can be a real asshat. if you want to be a jerk, go do it elsewhere.
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I know I can, sorry, but people really dwell upon death too much. Lighten up.

People die. It's kind of a side-effect of being born.

It's not tragic. It's not surprising, It's not sad. It's life. When it's your time, it's your time; however it ends.

amish[/quote]

why don't you just go away? I'm really not in the mood for your views on life or death right now, especially when they are downright obnoxious.
 
sorry to hear, been through it before and its not fun. but its not the end of the world either. count your blessings is all i can say
 
i am so sorry 🙁
Its sad to think he couldn't see life getting any better. That really is sad
 
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