Trashy neighbors - what's the best way to deal?

Juddog

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I live in an ok section of town, but our old neighbors moved out and new neighbors moved in. This is an apartment complex. New neighbors fight every single night for hours. Cops have been called on them multiple times but they never stop arguing. The landlord says she's kicking them out at the end of the month, but they still continue banging around, arguing, and last night the guy involved smashed the woman's car window and broke her apartment window as well.

Cops were called again, I could hear them asking her in the hallway about the incident, she mentioned the boyfriend had a glock (gun). Cops asked her why there was blood on her shirt, she stated it was his shirt (and his blood) and that he smashed her car window and apparently cut himself badly like a dumbass from the glass shards.

I don't have a gun in my apartment because my wife is fearful of guns. She's paranoid about the neighbors, since the other night when they had a huge argument someone tried jiggling our doorknob (trying to see if it was open I guess?)

We're moving to another apartment in 3 weeks as we've had it with this place, obviously the landlord wasn't selective on who they let in. When we first signed our lease, our neighbors were a quiet couple who had a baby and were still way more quiet even with a crying infant than these people over there now.

So my wife and I are debating what's the best way to deal with this situation. My wife works from home so it's driving her batty and we can't seem to get a good nights rest as the neighbors love to slam doors and scream at the top of their lungs at each other. The cops have been called so many times I've lost count. Two nights ago when the cops came (and this time it was the lady herself who called them - apparently for her boyfriend being abusive), they found the guy on the street, had him in the patrol car, and asked her if she wanted to press charges - and of course she says "no". So they had to let him go, since she won't press charges, then he just goes back in there with her and they start arguing again.

What the heck can I do in this situation besides put up with it? Since I heard the woman say her boyfriend has a gun (and one time we heard him throw her out into the hallway and cock the gun at her - we heard the gun click when he pointed it at her and yelled at her to get out), I don't want to go over there and confront them. I've called the cops too many times to count and they just never seem to do anything. The dude involved seems like he's just crazy - literally. The cops the other night said that he was talking all kinds of insane stuff when they picked him up but didn't have the gun with him at that time - it was most likely still in the apartment.

The woman herself is totally senseless. She won't press charges and won't dispose of his gun, and keeps accepting him back into her life. The whole situation seems just retarded.

Cliffs:
* Neighbors fight constantly every night
* Boyfriend of neighbor has a gun and threatened her in the hallway right next to our apt door
* Cops called so many times I lost count but won't do anything
* Landlord says they're getting kicked out but they are still there
 

Aharami

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run away fast. stay at a low cost motel for the next three weeks until you change apartments
 

Juddog

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Originally posted by: Aharami
run away fast. stay at a low cost motel for the next three weeks until you change apartments

I was actually pondering just staying at my mom's house with my wife until the new apartment becomes available. It sounds ridiculous, a full grown man living at his mom's house with his wife, but honestly I wonder if that's the best option right now.
 

AnonymouseUser

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I don't have any advice, but since you are moving and they are being evicted, you'll be neighbors again soon.... >_<
 

rivan

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Move asap. I see you are, but there's probably not much else you can do.

Have relatives close by that you could impose on?
 

Red Dawn

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Originally posted by: Juddog
Originally posted by: Aharami
run away fast. stay at a low cost motel for the next three weeks until you change apartments

I was actually pondering just staying at my mom's house with my wife until the new apartment becomes available. It sounds ridiculous, a full grown man living at his mom's house with his wife, but honestly I wonder if that's the best option right now.
Given the situation it doesn't sound ridiculous to me.
 

rh71

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* Landlord says they're getting kicked out but they are still there

End of the month means 4/30 no? Why did you decide to move out in 3 weeks because of them if by those 3 weeks THEY are supposed to be gone?
 

Juddog

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Originally posted by: sourceninja
You have some amazing hearing. Racking the slide on a glock is very quiet.

Well I didn't exactly want to throw the door open while he was pointing a gun at his girlfriend and say "excuse me, glocks are normally more quiet than that, do you mind if I inspect it?"

We heard her tell the cops he had a glock. My wife and I heard a gun click when he was threatening her with it out in the hallway.
 

Juddog

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Originally posted by: rh71
* Landlord says they're getting kicked out but they are still there

End of the month means 4/30 no? Why did you decide to move out in 3 weeks because of them if by those 3 weeks THEY are supposed to be gone?

We had actually started looking for a new apartment several months ago but were waiting for the right one this time instead of rushing into another sh!tty complex like this one. We finally found a very nice apartment for rent, reasonable prices, spoke with the landlord at length about it and he showed us what steps he took to make the apartment quieter (for example he was screwing down the floorboards where there were squeaks or downright replacing sections of the floor, along with using twice the normal thickness carpet matting).

The neighbors had been annoying, loud, rude and downright nasty for a while now but our lease only expired this month. It's just that they've reached a new low the past few days with smashing windows, screaming, yelling and banging things around (on top of that blasting really obnoxious rap music). On top of that the smell emanating from their apartment seems to get worse and worse.
 

BarbeQueGuy

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I'll ask my sister-in-law and her husband to keep it down till you move out the end of the month.
 

xSauronx

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Originally posted by: Red Dawn
Originally posted by: Juddog
Originally posted by: Aharami
run away fast. stay at a low cost motel for the next three weeks until you change apartments

I was actually pondering just staying at my mom's house with my wife until the new apartment becomes available. It sounds ridiculous, a full grown man living at his mom's house with his wife, but honestly I wonder if that's the best option right now.
Given the situation it doesn't sound ridiculous to me.

seriously, this is what family is for. save your sanity and suck up a couple of weeks with your parents, a couple weeks couldnt be too bad, and it cant be as bad as living where you are now
 

thepd7

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Originally posted by: sourceninja
You have some amazing hearing. Racking the slide on a glock is very quiet.

Do you have a Glock? I would disagree with your statement.

Plus, it's a very distinct sound.
 

DT4K

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Originally posted by: Juddog
Originally posted by: Aharami
run away fast. stay at a low cost motel for the next three weeks until you change apartments

I was actually pondering just staying at my mom's house with my wife until the new apartment becomes available. It sounds ridiculous, a full grown man living at his mom's house with his wife, but honestly I wonder if that's the best option right now.

Quitting your job, moving in with your mom, and mooching off her for years would be ridiculous.

Staying with your mom for a few weeks to avoid having you and your wife in a potentially dangerous situation is NOT ridiculous at all.
 

dud

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" ... obviously the landlord wasn't selective on who they let in."


There are reasons why your landlord cannot be selective in who they let in. There are laws to protect you and I from being descriminated against. They are calle dfair housing laws.

The cost of renting is always a non-descriminatory way of "weeding" out the rif-raf. Perhaps a more expensive place will preclude people like this from bothering you.
 

Juddog

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Originally posted by: DT4K
Originally posted by: Juddog
Originally posted by: Aharami
run away fast. stay at a low cost motel for the next three weeks until you change apartments

I was actually pondering just staying at my mom's house with my wife until the new apartment becomes available. It sounds ridiculous, a full grown man living at his mom's house with his wife, but honestly I wonder if that's the best option right now.

Quitting your job, moving in with your mom, and mooching off her for years would be ridiculous.

Staying with your mom for a few weeks to avoid having you and your wife in a potentially dangerous situation is NOT ridiculous at all.

Thanks for the advice, I will call up my mom tonight and ask her. She lives alone in a 4 bedroom house so she probably won't mind too much, I'm more worried about my wife getting irritated living there, but it would definitely make me feel way safer (plus my mom's house has a security system).
 

child of wonder

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Originally posted by: Juddog
Originally posted by: Joemonkey
dude, do you live in my apt. complex???

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...=2293234&enterthread=y

I share your pain. I am so sick of renting apartments. I'll move into an apartment, neighbors will seem great, then they move out and trash moves in and it turns to a living hell.

I really need to just buy a house but my wife doesn't pull enough income right now.

You can get trashy neighbors when you live in a house, too, unfortunately.

My next door neighbor has two dogs and lets them both run loose and crap on our yard.

Wife came home one day and saw the fat lady letting her rat dog drop a loaf in our front yard. Wife pulled into the garage then ran outside to confront the lady. Neighbor had quickly called the dog back and ran inside.

Now we enjoy "Dog Crap shotput" and launch it onto their roof.
 

Juddog

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Originally posted by: child of wonder
Originally posted by: Juddog
Originally posted by: Joemonkey
dude, do you live in my apt. complex???

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...=2293234&enterthread=y

I share your pain. I am so sick of renting apartments. I'll move into an apartment, neighbors will seem great, then they move out and trash moves in and it turns to a living hell.

I really need to just buy a house but my wife doesn't pull enough income right now.

You can get trashy neighbors when you live in a house, too, unfortunately.

My next door neighbor has two dogs and lets them both run loose and crap on our yard.

Wife came home one day and saw the fat lady letting her rat dog drop a loaf in our front yard. Wife pulled into the garage then ran outside to confront the lady. Neighbor had quickly called the dog back and ran inside.

Now we enjoy "Dog Crap shotput" and launch it onto their roof.

:confused:

You seriously take dog crap and throw it on the neighbors roof?
 

ISAslot

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Wait till they leave.
Sneak in and find the gun.
Wait till the girlfriend returns.
Shoot her.
Wait till the guy returns.
Shoot him.
Place the gun near him.
Murder suicide.
 

alkemyst

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damn dog crap on a roof...I am glad I don't live in the ghetto.

Why do those that live in dangerous and well-known shitty places insist they don't?

 

AreaCode707

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Originally posted by: Juddog
Originally posted by: Aharami
run away fast. stay at a low cost motel for the next three weeks until you change apartments

I was actually pondering just staying at my mom's house with my wife until the new apartment becomes available. It sounds ridiculous, a full grown man living at his mom's house with his wife, but honestly I wonder if that's the best option right now.

It's not ridiculous if you've got that level of threat in your area. It's a short period of time and it's prudent.
 

sourceninja

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Originally posted by: thepd7
Originally posted by: sourceninja
You have some amazing hearing. Racking the slide on a glock is very quiet.

Do you have a Glock? I would disagree with your statement.

Plus, it's a very distinct sound.

No different sound then my XD, my Walther, or my ruger. And not loud enough that my wife has heard me when I'm in the next room.

Plus, glocks (and any pinfired weapon) simply does not click. There's no hammer to pull back for that click. It racks, which is nowhere near the sound of a click.

Now a shotgun, or a AR-15 is a noise I could hear though a wall.