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BigJ

Lifer
Nov 18, 2001
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Originally posted by: Quasmo
*Note: Quasmo's friend postingunder his name*

I'm a 20-year old restaurant manager who's been at the bottom of the food chain. Restaurant service is the most degrading thing you can possibly do for a living.

I knew not to take your friend serious after that line right there. He has to get over himself if he thinks restaurant service is the most degrading work a person can do. And yes I've worked in the industry as a bus boy, server, dishwasher, counterperson, cook (in emergencies) and delivery driver at a restaurant.

Seems to me like your friend thinks people deserve a tip simply because of the job, and not because he earned it. Which is all too common in the industry.
 

BigJ

Lifer
Nov 18, 2001
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Originally posted by: Quasmo
Originally posted by: Crucial
Hell no. I can't stand the entire philosophy of tipping and wish it would die in a fire. The whole premise of tippping more based on the cost of the food you order is also completely wack and makes no sense to me. If I order a fillet and the guy next to me orders a burger and fries we get the same exact level of service. Why should I pay more of a tip for that?

Because servers get payed something to the tune of $2-3/hour to attend to your needs so that you can sit and eat a nice meal.

Don't want to tip? Raise restaurant wages.

See how much money you actually make then. The good servers, even in a small restaurant, can easily clear $15 an hour.

You think you're going to get more than a buck or two over minimum wage for restaurant work?
 

JoeKing

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Oct 9, 1999
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I go into every sit down restaurant situation the same. By the time my ass hits the seat as far as I'm concerned I'm tipping my server 25%. BUT the amount I tip continually fluctuates throughout the meal as according to the service I receive. How long did it take for them ask what we wanted to drink, how long until they take our actual ordered, how long until we get the order (I give leeway if the restaurant is packed) did they get the order right, how many times did they refill my drink.

I make little mental notes and add and subtract to the tips in increments of 5%. (I'll tip up to 50% with this system then it hits the glass ceiling)

Now I know this method sounds really anal, but it keeps me from feeling guilty if I leave 10% or less because in my mind I can justify it. Trust me being in the Washington DC area where services can be absolutely horrible (any other DC residents want to attest to how bad it can be?) I've found myself leaving no tip at times.
 

JC86

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I tip less, I would typically round up the figure and add a dollar or two, they still had to box it and prepare the food.
 

Injury

Lifer
Jul 19, 2004
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Originally posted by: Quasmo
*Note: Quasmo's friend postingunder his name*

I'm a 20-year old restaurant manager who's been at the bottom of the food chain. Restaurant service is the most degrading thing you can possibly do for a living. Being asked to cater to a hundred or so individual's tastes, demands, expectations, and neuroses daily, five days a week pays like dick. People are whiny, insatiable, and rarely considerate or understanding of what is demanded of you by both the customers and staff. Tips are all you get.

I've worked all day for a week straight and your check looks like a gift check on Christmas. The money in-hand is what counts and the government even lays the taxing hammer down on those, which are pure cash handouts to you, personally, based on your performance. Then, after you've busted ass to make that money for yourself, you have to tip your cook staff a percentage for their performance. Some would say, "It's an easy job", which I'll admit it is, physically. Mentally? It's a taxation of your person. You are charged with cleaning up after people with no manners, couth, or class for hours and hours a day. You are charged with making people, with no regard for, interest in, or obligation towards you, happy and fat for hours and hours a day.

Final verdict: If you have the money to pay for whatever over-priced, renamed food you are eating, then you have the money to offer to someone who bends over backwards to bring you anything you ask for, refill your drinks after you suck them down in seconds, clean your table for you, attend to your dishes, clean up your trash (restaurant-based or otherwise), clean up your shit (literally), and prepare everything you eat. <b>If you're a cheap fuck, go to a fast food joint like all the other cheap fucks.</b>

*2nd note* Pick-ups should be tipped as well, because those orders are generally prepped and garnished by servers or delivery drivers who could have been working for tips, but instead had to take on extra duties to insure that order was completed.

Look, I'm not going to bash you for being in the industry because thankfully someone has the nerve to put up with it. I worked foodservice long enough to see the nasty side of people... oftentimes they themselves don't even see it... ignoring the fact that gratuity-based professions are a total crock in the US (for BOTH sides of the spectrum), I think it's important to understand that people in the restaurant industry get paid "like dick" because the skill level of their work requires basic comprehension skills and some patience with people. As the restaurant quality goes up, so does the caliber of people working there and so do the tips.

I have no qualms with tipping so long as it remains the standard in our country (or tipping extra when it's well deserved) but it's well-known before you go in to the business what you are going to have to do to earn an "above average" wage, and yes, for the work you do and the training required, a waiter or waitress making ~$100 for an 8 hour shift is above average... even $75 in an 8 hour shift is quite good.
 

Babbles

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Jan 4, 2001
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Typically I don't tip for orders I call in and pick up, unless they went out of their way to jazz it up for me for whatever reason.
 

Farang

Lifer
Jul 7, 2003
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Originally posted by: BigJ
Originally posted by: Quasmo
*Note: Quasmo's friend postingunder his name*

I'm a 20-year old restaurant manager who's been at the bottom of the food chain. Restaurant service is the most degrading thing you can possibly do for a living.

I knew not to take your friend serious after that line right there. He has to get over himself if he thinks restaurant service is the most degrading work a person can do. And yes I've worked in the industry as a bus boy, server, dishwasher, counterperson, cook (in emergencies) and delivery driver at a restaurant.

Seems to me like your friend thinks people deserve a tip simply because of the job, and not because he earned it. Which is all too common in the industry.

Really.. guy acts like nobody else has worked in a restaurant. I enjoy restaurant work, if it paid better I'd pursue it as a career. I found it to be stress-free (even at the busy times, I remind myself it's just food) and the camaraderie was nice and after work you leave work behind completely. Plus you get to work with food, food is what we live for.

Now I work at a cheese factory making minimum wage. The work is backbreaking at times and I get no tips. So spare me the sob story.
 

Injury

Lifer
Jul 19, 2004
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Originally posted by: Farang
Really.. guy acts like nobody else has worked in a restaurant. I enjoy restaurant work, if it paid better I'd pursue it as a career. I found it to be stress-free (even at the busy times, I remind myself it's just food) and the camaraderie was nice and after work you leave work behind completely. Plus you get to work with food, food is what we live for.

Now I work at a cheese factory making minimum wage. The work is backbreaking at times and I get no tips. So spare me the sob story.


Totally... if there wasn't some portion of him that loved it then maybe a good hint would be to seek a new profession.

I worked foodservice for a while... I loved it because it's nearly zero responsibility work with a schedule that doesn't require "vacation time" and can usually get you some overtime on a whim when you want/need it.
 

Crucial

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Dec 21, 2000
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Originally posted by: Quasmo
Originally posted by: Crucial
Hell no. I can't stand the entire philosophy of tipping and wish it would die in a fire. The whole premise of tipping more based on the cost of the food you order is also completely wack and makes no sense to me. If I order a fillet and the guy next to me orders a burger and fries we get the same exact level of service. Why should I pay more of a tip for that?

Because servers get payed something to the tune of $2-3/hour to attend to your needs so that you can sit and eat a nice meal.

Don't want to tip? Raise restaurant wages.

You didn't answer my question.
 

Dunbar

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Feb 19, 2001
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Hell no, for the same reason I don't tip at McDonald's. You ain't getting tipped for the 30 seconds it took to ring me up.
 

aceO07

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Nov 6, 2000
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Originally posted by: Crucial
Hell no. I can't stand the entire philosophy of tipping and wish it would die in a fire. The whole premise of tippping more based on the cost of the food you order is also completely wack and makes no sense to me. If I order a fillet and the guy next to me orders a burger and fries we get the same exact level of service. Why should I pay more of a tip for that?

I agree with you. Price of the meal shouldn't mean I have to tip more, though it is generally accepted or expected. If I go to a restaurant with a friend for an inexpensive meal and then to the same place again with another friend for an more expensive meal, why should I tip more for the expensive meal? Assume same number of items and not intensive work for cook.

Perhaps if you ate at a up scale place, you could tip more since the staff should be better trained and presented. However, the price of the items are already increased at a fancier place, so shouldn't their staff always be paid more?

A bit off topic, my big peeve on tipping is when the receipt has a tipping guide. I shouldn't be reminded of something that is my choice. AND the tipping guide starts at 18% or higher.
 

Wreckem

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Sep 23, 2006
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Originally posted by: Farang
Originally posted by: BigJ
Originally posted by: Quasmo
*Note: Quasmo's friend postingunder his name*

I'm a 20-year old restaurant manager who's been at the bottom of the food chain. Restaurant service is the most degrading thing you can possibly do for a living.

I knew not to take your friend serious after that line right there. He has to get over himself if he thinks restaurant service is the most degrading work a person can do. And yes I've worked in the industry as a bus boy, server, dishwasher, counterperson, cook (in emergencies) and delivery driver at a restaurant.

Seems to me like your friend thinks people deserve a tip simply because of the job, and not because he earned it. Which is all too common in the industry.

Really.. guy acts like nobody else has worked in a restaurant. I enjoy restaurant work, if it paid better I'd pursue it as a career. I found it to be stress-free (even at the busy times, I remind myself it's just food) and the camaraderie was nice and after work you leave work behind completely. Plus you get to work with food, food is what we live for.

Now I work at a cheese factory making minimum wage. The work is backbreaking at times and I get no tips. So spare me the sob story.

I kinda have to agree, on everything but the stress. Being a manager of a resturant is extremely stressful and can be completely degrading based on how big of douches the owners are.

<----- Managed two fastfood resturants. 55hrs week, 13hr shifts, managing 16 16-22 year olds at a time = stressful. Both locations made profit, one much more than the other.
 

0roo0roo

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Sep 21, 2002
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1/2 tip is rational depending on size of order since they have to deal with packing your food, but not serving you.
 

dabuddha

Lifer
Apr 10, 2000
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Originally posted by: Quasmo
*Note: Quasmo's friend postingunder his name*

I'm a 20-year old restaurant manager who's been at the bottom of the food chain. Restaurant service is the most degrading thing you can possibly do for a living. Being asked to cater to a hundred or so individual's tastes, demands, expectations, and neuroses daily, five days a week pays like dick. People are whiny, insatiable, and rarely considerate or understanding of what is demanded of you by both the customers and staff. Tips are all you get.

I've worked all day for a week straight and your check looks like a gift check on Christmas. The money in-hand is what counts and the government even lays the taxing hammer down on those, which are pure cash handouts to you, personally, based on your performance. Then, after you've busted ass to make that money for yourself, you have to tip your cook staff a percentage for their performance. Some would say, "It's an easy job", which I'll admit it is, physically. Mentally? It's a taxation of your person. You are charged with cleaning up after people with no manners, couth, or class for hours and hours a day. You are charged with making people, with no regard for, interest in, or obligation towards you, happy and fat for hours and hours a day.

Final verdict: If you have the money to pay for whatever over-priced, renamed food you are eating, then you have the money to offer to someonewho bends over backwards to bring you anything you ask for, refill your drinks after you suck them down in seconds, clean your table for you, attend to your dishes, clean up your trash (restaurant-based or otherwise), clean up your shit (literally), and prepare everything you eat. <b>If you're a cheap fuck, go to a fast food joint like all the other cheap fucks.</b>

*2nd note* Pick-ups should be tipped as well, because those orders are generally prepped and garnished by servers or delivery drivers who could have been working for tips, but instead had to take on extra duties to insure that order was completed.

I'm sure you report all of your cash tips to the IRS :D
But no, tipping for carryout is stupid. You're not getting any extra service at all. Whatever the servers are making hourly is more than enough to throw some food into a container.
 

ja1484

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Dec 31, 2007
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Originally posted by: PottedMeat
no tip. you drove your ass out there to get a bag of food.


^ What he said. A tip is supposed to be a gratuity based on level of service provided. No one provided a service here, unless you consider ringing you up a service.

If I eat in or have delivered, tip. If I do all the footwork, no tip.

As for the rant earlier about restaurant work sucking and thus we should tip takeout, what the hell? Why should I lose money because you took a job you hate? Fuck that. YOU switch jobs. I can't stand it when people use that "It sucks, give me money" argument. Suffering does not entitle you to my earnings. If you don't like the work, don't do it - get another job.
 

pontifex

Lifer
Dec 5, 2000
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since we're talking about tips, do you tip the owner of the establishment if he/she is your waiter or whatever?
for instance, the owner of the barber shop i go to cuts people's hair. do you tip him or not?
 

AndrewR

Lifer
Oct 9, 1999
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I do sometimes, especially if I'm picking up a pizza, and it's ready early (as in, 10 minutes after I order). Or, I'll tip if the girl ringing me up is cute. Thanks for the scenery! :D
 

Phoenix86

Lifer
May 21, 2003
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I tip a couple bucks because the people packaging/cashing me out are payed tip-based wages.

They don't magically go from $3/hour waiting tables to $10/hour when they start serving to-go orders.
 

KMFJD

Lifer
Aug 11, 2005
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I don't tip owner's, i do not tip at buffet's and i definitely do not tip for pick up, i do however tip for sit down service....
 

waggy

No Lifer
Dec 14, 2000
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Originally posted by: ja1484
Originally posted by: PottedMeat
no tip. you drove your ass out there to get a bag of food.


^ What he said. A tip is supposed to be a gratuity based on level of service provided. No one provided a service here, unless you consider ringing you up a service.

If I eat in or have delivered, tip. If I do all the footwork, no tip.

As for the rant earlier about restaurant work sucking and thus we should tip takeout, what the hell? Why should I lose money because you took a job you hate? Fuck that. YOU switch jobs. I can't stand it when people use that "It sucks, give me money" argument. Suffering does not entitle you to my earnings. If you don't like the work, don't do it - get another job.

yeap. and to many expect a tip for even shitty or below avarage service.

if i get avarage service i give 10% i get good service its %15-20 GREAT service well depedns on how good it is.

but i also have no trouble not leaving any for bad service.