Thx

[James Bond]

Edit:

Thanks for all the advice! Got it from here

 

[Wyndru]

pics?

 

[Platypus]

she needs to find a different job

 

[Gibson486]

pics?

agreed.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Have her tell the guy that she isn't interested in meeting with him outside of a work setting. If he continues to pursue then go to HR.

Keep the text messages and voice mails as evidence.

Oh, and pics of GF?

 

[Heller]

Have her tell the guy that she isn't interested in meeting with him outside of a work setting. If he continues to pursue then go to HR.

Keep the text messages and voice mails as evidence.

Oh, and pics of GF?

Or give the guy a quick bj and get promoted. Whatever floats your boat:whiste:

 

[shocksyde]

Dude, tell your uppity GF to answer my texts or I'm gonna get her ass fired. I'm gonna unwind all over dat ass!!!

"IIIIIII'm giiivviiiiiiing yooooouuuu a raaaaaaaaaaaise!"

 

[drnickriviera]

Sure I can meet after work. Can my husband come along?

 

[JulesMaximus]

<--Waiting for parody thread.

 

[SagaLore]

Any advice?

Save evidence. Emails, picture of the text messages and a copy of her cell phone log. Submit to HR. A good HR will handle this professionally most importantly, legally. It will be her best defense.

 

[SagaLore]

Everyone that has replied to this thread so far, you're a bunch of asshats. This isn't a funny topic - getting put in that situation, especially as a woman, is very scary and humiliating.

 

[Ns1]

1st: Document everything
2nd: HOPA?

 

[Matthiasa]

Forward the interactions in the email and texts to HR.

They will deal with it for you.
Even the mightiest can fall to HR.

 

[Malak]

Or just respond to him. All you have to go on at this point is speculation, however accurate it might be. Keep it going.

 

[ElFenix]

pics?

this is getting old.

 

[James Bond]

Or just respond to him. All you have to go on at this point is speculation, however accurate it might be. Keep it going.

What could she possibly gain at this point from keeping it going. There is no question what this guys intentions are.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Everyone that has replied to this thread so far, you're a bunch of asshats. This isn't a funny topic - getting put in that situation, especially as a woman, is very scary and humiliating.

What the fuck was wrong with my reply? I thought it was good advice personally.

Have her tell the guy that she isn't interested in meeting with him outside of a work setting. If he continues to pursue then go to HR.

Keep the text messages and voice mails as evidence.

 

[NutBucket]

Save evidence. Emails, picture of the text messages and a copy of her cell phone log. Submit to HR. A good HR will handle this professionally most importantly, legally. It will be her best defense.

Bingo.

 

[SpatiallyAware]

To put this shortly... there were red flags all over that initial email. I have a feeling she missed some cues during her face to face interaction with him. My bet is that she (unintentionally I'm sure) came across as flirty or whatever when she was just trying to be nice.


The reality is that she needs to work on determining intentions earlier than this. In the business world a ~40 year old random upper level manager wanting to discuss this sort of stuff with a 24 YO employee is rarely (never) with good/honest intentions. I've never heard of this sort of thing being anything other than a come-on, and if she wants to succeed in the workplace she needs to make sure her intentions are clear very early on.


I've seen many woman 'pushed out' of companies for stupidly taking up offers of "mentoring" and "potential jobs" etc and ending up in the exact same position your GF is in. Is it right? No. But it is reality. A hot girl cannot be too nice/sweet/etc in the workplace or this will happen all the time and is detrimental to being at the same place for longer than a few years. Usually there are a couple of seperate incidents (i.e. this same sorta thing happens with 2-3 people) before word starts spreading around etc.. We have a girl like that here, and most of the guys tip-toe around her because she's overly flirty yet got upset when someone asked her out (supposedly it was similar to your GF's situation... 'she didn't mean to come on to him')


IMHO once it's gone this far it's really tough to end it without embarrassing the guy or causing resentment. I think her best bet is to send a short polite email that she keeps her work and personal life separate - or something along those lines... and hope she doesn't end up canned with him hoping to date her after that. She should NOT say 'I have a boyfriend' as a defense because he'll take that as a "I might be interested just not right now"...

 

[James Bond]

Forward the interactions in the email and texts to HR.

They will deal with it for you.
Even the mightiest can fall to HR.

I agree with you. I think she is afraid that HR will "talk" to the guy, but not fire him because he is important, then she will be essentially screwed for trying to rat him out. This doesn't seem too far fetched to me.

 

[edro]

I'd reply something like "Please stop contacting me outside of work hours."
Keep proof of the calls and TXTs and if anything else happens, report him to HR.

The 10:45 TXT was way over creepy.

 

[darkswordsman17]

1st: Document everything
2nd: HOPA?

This.

Save evidence. Emails, picture of the text messages and a copy of her cell phone log. Submit to HR. A good HR will handle this professionally most importantly, legally. It will be her best defense.

And this.

Everyone that has replied to this thread so far, you're a bunch of asshats. This isn't a funny topic - getting put in that situation, especially as a woman, is very scary and humiliating.

Hi, welcome to ATOT, you don't seem to be familiar with us yet.

 

[JMapleton]

Bring a tape recorder (wire) and meet up with the guy. Then turn him in.

 

[jtvang125]

Dude, all I want is some HPoA. But if you're hitting it already then she really shouldn't have approached me in the first place. Usually when women approach a guy they only want one thing.

 

[TheVrolok]

Just give the whole story/evidence to HR plain and simple.