Thoughts on being a geek

Alphathree33

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I've talked in the past (Here) about the choices we make as geeks.

Since I know none of you will read a long rant, I will provide cliff notes of my thoughts for you to flame/discuss. Here they are, in no particular order:

- Is our knowledge and mindset a burden?

I was at the grocery store earlier today. I realized that on every visit to the grocery store, I rarely consider what I'm going to buy. I might be thinking about the US Military or the next release of FireFox, but more likely than not I think about the grocery store as an abstract system with inefficiencies that I wish I could improve.

Everyone else there seems to be preoccupied with buying groceries. God forbid. This isn't some statement of superiority; I would love to be able to go to the grocery store and simply BUY GROCERIES. That rarely happens. In other words, the brain is always churning, even when I want it to shut off.

- The role of the woman; do we have the better end of the stick?

Many of the people on anandtech are happily married or in relationships. This is for the rest of you.

Many geeks seem to hold the opinion that if only women knew who they really were, they would be attracted to them. Sorry, but you're wrong in almost all cases. There is, of course, the odd woman that finds geeky intelligence very attractive, but the odds of finding an attractive version of said woman who is also single are, well, really low.

So most of you successfully substitute real women with games, internet surfing, roleplaying, current events, debate, and a long list of hobbies. And you look longingly at the pictures on your desktop of the beautiful but unattainable woman.

Do you feel that you really have the better end of the stick? That Joe Six Pack with Dumb Blonde is somehow missing out because he lacks your depth and intellectual freedom? Deep inside of you, there must be that little voice that says you're not really living life.

- The geeky girlfriend versus the normal girlfriend

My room has a binary blanket, a binary pillow and a binary clock. It has an LCD monitor and two to three laptops, a glow-in-the-dark keyboard and a floating globe. (Yes, I'm a huge think geek shopper.) It is full of science fiction books from Asimov to Herbert to Stephenson.

The first non-geeky (i.e. normal) girl I ever slept with saw my room in this state and didn't even bat an eye. Yes, we did it under the binary blanket. This was a girl who dated guys that started phone calls with "wut up, jizzy dawg" before me.

My first geeky girlfriend (don't get me wrong, she was an attractive little malaysian girl) and I had *competitions* over things like binary blankets.

That's a huge differnce. So which one was better?

In reality, I had a much better time with the normal girl. She was spontaneous. She didn't have any particular intellectual leaning (or any particular intellect at all, really) and so we never argued.

But for the same reason, I never felt a strong emotional connection to her. With the geeky girlfriend, the slightest facial expressions or single words could speak volumes, but with the normal one, there was no such depth.

So yes, there's some random thoughts floating around in my head. Flame away...
 

Gurck

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Dumber people are probably happier on average. Not much we can do about it though, not even drinking constantly can kill that many braincells (trust me, I've tried).
 

n0cmonkey

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Most of the chicks I've been with in one way or another were not geeks. The current one is. She's a lot better than the others were.
 

Hyperblaze

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Well, if i end up with a geeky girlfriend..she'll be a hell of a lot more understanding about all the computer stuff that i have ;)

 

cmdrmoocow

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Originally posted by: Alphathree33

- Is our knowledge and mindset a burden?

Yes. You're not alone, but I don't think that this applies to just geeks: a very, very intellegent lit majoring female would think on such a level.

Originally posted by: Alphathree33


- The geeky girlfriend versus the normal girlfriend
- The role of the woman; do we have the better end of the stick?

Nice gathering of goodies. Yes, I knew what I binary blanket was before reading the rest of the thread.

It's quite interesting the difference you saw between the levels of mental capacity between girlfriends. At a ripe old 18, I've had one girlfriend, and that was a couple years ago; I can't add anything interesting in this category from personal events.

I guess I'm still holding out that my intellegence rather than football or beer-can-opening finess will give me a chance with someone.

As far as substituting them, video games/forums/net/etc don't do it. It remains an empty hole waiting to be filled.

The thing that's funny is that some of the females that I regularly talk to have complained about how stupid their boyfriends are. They keep looking for some other traits, ignoring intellegence, get irritated, and split, wondering why she gets all the dumb ones. All the while, of course, ignoring the fact that I'm in close contact and would never date me. It irks me to no end.

(No, I don't want another IW or Ladder Theory link.)

 

ultimatebob

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Hmm.. I wish that I could find a geeky girlfriend! I haven't had much luck with the non-geeky variety lately :(
 

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Originally posted by: Gurck
Dumber people are probably happier on average. Not much we can do about it though, not even drinking constantly can kill that many braincells (trust me, I've tried).

<Matrix>

Ignorance is bliss.

</Matrix>

;)
 

EmperorIQ

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?? i don't think there is anything wrong with being a geek. It is perfectly fine, whatever group you put yourself in, there will be ups and downs to it, right? like that cliche the grass is greener on the other side?

today when i went to a professor's office hour i brought up the topic of beowulf cluster, and his eyes just light up. it was amazing, some 50 yr old man talking to me about clusters, blade servers, power consumption of processors and the likes. One thing that I think is great about being a geek is that age really doesn't matter, a 50 yr old geek is still interested in the same things as an 18 yr old geek, and both of you will be on the same level. About girlfriends? time will come, my gf isn't a geek
 

Gurck

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Originally posted by: cmdrmoocow
The thing that's funny is that some of the females that I regularly talk to have complained about how stupid their boyfriends are. They keep looking for some other traits, ignoring intellegence, get irritated, and split, wondering why she gets all the dumb ones. All the while, of course, ignoring the fact that I'm in close contact and would never date me. It irks me to no end.

(No, I don't want another IW or Ladder Theory link.)

I won't link it then, but it's the truth. I actually had your (shortened) quote prepared for my Ladder-link-containing reply before reading the last line, so I figured why not reply anyway...
 

Alphathree33

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Originally posted by: cmdrmoocow
Originally posted by: Alphathree33

- Is our knowledge and mindset a burden?

Yes. You're not alone, but I don't think that this applies to just geeks: a very, very intellegent lit majoring female would think on such a level.

Originally posted by: Alphathree33


- The geeky girlfriend versus the normal girlfriend
- The role of the woman; do we have the better end of the stick?

Nice gathering of goodies. Yes, I knew what I binary blanket was before reading the rest of the thread.

It's quite interesting the difference you saw between the levels of mental capacity between girlfriends. At a ripe old 18, I've had one girlfriend, and that was a couple years ago; I can't add anything interesting in this category from personal events.

I guess I'm still holding out that my intellegence rather than football or beer-can-opening finess will give me a chance with someone.

As far as substituting them, video games/forums/net/etc don't do it. It remains an empty hole waiting to be filled.

The thing that's funny is that some of the females that I regularly talk to have complained about how stupid their boyfriends are. They keep looking for some other traits, ignoring intellegence, get irritated, and split, wondering why she gets all the dumb ones. All the while, of course, ignoring the fact that I'm in close contact and would never date me. It irks me to no end.

(No, I don't want another IW or Ladder Theory link.)

In my experience, it's because women, first and foremost, want someone who is confident and manly.

Secondly, they want someone who is smart and creative.

Imagine your dream girlfriend. First, you would want her to be thin, tall, and beautiful. SECONDLY, you might be interested in her liking technology, literature, whatever.

But if you were surrounded by fat chicks who liked technology and literature, you would go looking for attractive blondes, even if they were quite dumb, because that's all you could find.

I don't think "confident and manly" = "good looking" for guys. It means what it means. Confident and masculine.

I've tried to master being BOTH confident and mascline AND smart and geeky. It works well when I can pull it off.