those in serious relationships, what are you "allowed" to do?

PatboyX

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was just talking to a co-worker. he said "my girlfriend brought me back two cubans from ireland. when she gave them to me she said 'these are the only things you are allowed to smoke.'"

not a big deal, of course...but i started making fun of him and another co-worker came by and asked what was going on. i tried to explain to him but he didnt seem to get it. he said "yeah, my girlfriend lets me go to the strip club once every couple of months"

lets?!
allowed?!

are you not adults?
i have trouble understanding being in a relationship with someone who will not "allow" things you want to do.
i understand as far as "dont bang any other chicks" but...after that?

what are you guys allowed to do?
what do you not allow your SO to do?
 

Lazy8s

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I guess I'm "allowed" to do anything. I ask out of courtesy to make sure I'm not going to mess-up her plans but I think we'd have a pretty nasty knock-down drag out if one of us "didn't allow" the other person to do something.


oh yeah, and his g/f let's him go to a strip club? wtf?
 

isasir

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My girlfriend gets jealous when I go to the (female) strip club without her. :)
 

Gunslinger08

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No restrictions in my relationship. But then again, I'm boring, and don't want to do anything that would hurt the relationship.
 

WHipLAsh13

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Originally posted by: Lazy8s
I guess I'm "allowed" to do anything. I ask out of courtesy to make sure I'm not going to mess-up her plans but I think we'd have a pretty nasty knock-down drag out if one of us "didn't allow" the other person to do something.


oh yeah, and his g/f let's him go to a strip club? wtf?

My wife could care less if I go to a strip club she just doesn't want me blowing a ton of cash on the girls there. I rarely go anyhow so it really doesn't matter. But as Lazy says it s a consideration thing especially when kids are involved.
 

Eli

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It just depends on how their relationship dynamic works. Sometimes, the girl is in control. Stereotypically, it's the man.. that's why you're all "wtf mate?!".
 

beer

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Originally posted by: minendo
what are you guys allowed to do?
Whatever the hell I want to do. She trusts me and I trust her so there is nothing to worry about.

Seriously. About the only time that I crossed the line with my ex was when we commandeered her apartment and tripped on DXM....and she came abck after 6 hours of class + 3 hours of tests to find us stuck to the ground. Other than that...no problems. She kinda got pissed about us putting her through that much stress at the end of the day though
 

clamum

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Allowed? Anything unless it's cheating or something stupid like that.

I don't dance and hate clubs, so my girlfriend goes to the club w/o me and dances with her friends or whoever. She said that some people said "I would never let my gf do that!"... I don't care, I trust her and don't care if she dances with guys; if she's a cheater she'll cheat regardless. In the end, who takes her home at the end of the night? :D
 

Phoenix86

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Originally posted by: PatboyX
i have trouble understanding being in a relationship with someone who will not "allow" things you want to do.
i understand as far as "dont bang any other chicks" but...after that?
So your not allowed to bang chicks... Are you allowed to grope them? What about kissing, or look at them naked? Strip joint?

Of course there are lines in relationships, those could always be viewed as things your 'not allowed' to do.
 

Lazy8s

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Originally posted by: clamum
Allowed? Anything unless it's cheating or something stupid like that.

I don't dance and hate clubs, so my girlfriend goes to the club w/o me and dances with her friends or whoever. She said that some people said "I would never let my gf do that!"... I don't care, I trust her and don't care if she dances with guys; if she's a cheater she'll cheat regardless. In the end, who takes her home at the end of the night? :D

her friends?
 

PatboyX

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Originally posted by: Phoenix86
Originally posted by: PatboyX
i have trouble understanding being in a relationship with someone who will not "allow" things you want to do.
i understand as far as "dont bang any other chicks" but...after that?
So your not allowed to bang chicks... Are you allowed to grope them? What about kissing, or look at them naked? Strip joint?

Of course there are lines in relationships, those could always be viewed as things your 'not allowed' to do.

ive never asked.
it was the only thing i could think of when my co-workers said "isnt there anything you arnt allowed to do?"
and i said "other chicks"

and eli, its not like she is being restrained by me. although, i do understand what you are saying. we both can do whatever we please as adults.

i just found it odd that these guys had restrictions on what they could do especially when they were things they wanted to do.
 

Lazy8s

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Originally posted by: WHipLAsh13
Originally posted by: Lazy8s
I guess I'm "allowed" to do anything. I ask out of courtesy to make sure I'm not going to mess-up her plans but I think we'd have a pretty nasty knock-down drag out if one of us "didn't allow" the other person to do something.


oh yeah, and his g/f let's him go to a strip club? wtf?

My wife could care less if I go to a strip club she just doesn't want me blowing a ton of cash on the girls there. I rarely go anyhow so it really doesn't matter. But as Lazy says it s a consideration thing especially when kids are involved.

heh I dunno about the wife lettin ya go to strip clubs but then again if it works for you guys then more power to ya. I do, however, know I wouldn't be happy if my g/f went and saw male strippers, but who knows, I may just be too uptight on that one.
 

clamum

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Originally posted by: Lazy8s
Originally posted by: clamum
Allowed? Anything unless it's cheating or something stupid like that.

I don't dance and hate clubs, so my girlfriend goes to the club w/o me and dances with her friends or whoever. She said that some people said "I would never let my gf do that!"... I don't care, I trust her and don't care if she dances with guys; if she's a cheater she'll cheat regardless. In the end, who takes her home at the end of the night? :D

her friends?

ME... so I don't care if she dances with guys. Most of them are her friends anyway.
 

Lazy8s

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Originally posted by: clamum
Originally posted by: Lazy8s
Originally posted by: clamum
Allowed? Anything unless it's cheating or something stupid like that.

I don't dance and hate clubs, so my girlfriend goes to the club w/o me and dances with her friends or whoever. She said that some people said "I would never let my gf do that!"... I don't care, I trust her and don't care if she dances with guys; if she's a cheater she'll cheat regardless. In the end, who takes her home at the end of the night? :D

her friends?

ME... so I don't care if she dances with guys. Most of them are her friends anyway.

well, technicaly if she goes tere with her friends they take her home...


Relax, I'm just bustin your chops a little, just havin fun, here, have one on me :beer:
 

clamum

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Originally posted by: Lazy8s
well, technicaly if she goes tere with her friends they take her home...


Relax, I'm just bustin your chops a little, just havin fun, here, have one on me :beer:

I pick her up cause they're all drunk afterwards :)

Ah thanks, I'm at work but I'll gladly take it! :beer: