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THINKING OF getting MARRIED !

helo7050

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OK GUYS... please read and respond. . i know its a little long but this is my life at stake here.

Ok, i need some advice if i should proceed with this girl that I might marry. BTW i'm 22yrs. and she is 19yrs

Last weekend my roommate's girlfriend(soon to be wife) bought her cousin out and they wanted to setup me and his GF's cousin together to meet and see if we want to proceed with a possible marriage.

I know what your thinking. . well we are Muslim and its culture to do things fast pase like that.

Well all four of us went out to dinner in the city. I would say I?m a good looking guy but my roommate (which is my cousin) is a much better looking and i guess he has this thing where he can seduce any girl he pleases. I guess being tall, dark and built really catches the girls. Well we went out and she was pretty but after sometime i noticed she wasn't paying to much attention on me to say. During dinner my CUz took her cherry from her plate than she made a wise remark saying (you popped my cherry!). .That kinda sent a brief hint but i let it slide and later in the night she made a remark to him saying (you have pretty eyes!). ." which he does--i guess thats what lurrs the girls to him. I dont' know but i wish i had it.." So than i'm now wondering WTF. . Your here to meet me not him...She didn't make any of those types of comments to me. We ended the night. later my cousin called his GF and she said she wants to go out again and meet me again . .

Today....I just got back from the date. . We went to the Museum. all four of us again..
This time We kinda split for about a half hour. me and her and my cousin and his GF. Me and her talked while walking around and got to know each other on a personal level...she is really nice and i think i could fall in love with her pretty easy... After we joined back i noticed she started talking with my Cuz but the conversation seemed as if she was more comfortable talking with him then me. . like she opened to him way more than she opened to me in the few moments. . Again she was making comments to him like "lets smell your colon you got on. . it smells good." Also in the car my cuz was getting ready to put a CD in the player and she told him .. "hurry up put it in, hurry stick it in there....". AT that point i was wondering if she is pretty much set to want him vs. me. So i'm home and posting this damn message...should i bother meeting her a few more times or just let her go since i dont' even think i can trust her already. I didn't feel that strong of a vibe but when i asked my Cuz he said he could feel a vibe from her when she talks to him. . .

Any suggestions, am i just being a little to paranoid. is she just mabe shy towards me because of the awkward situation of how we are meeting or is it she is already fantasizing about someone else besides me.

 
Young, but don't look for advice regarding this matter on AT. Look at the demographics, you should speak with people you know personally that know your situation and heritage.

Yes, I'll probably be flamed for this...
 
married?

at first i stopped at ages and said no. but then i read it and then said hell no. it doesn't sound like she likes you. and, she's 19.
 
I am not going to comment based on the ages (you ARE very young), but I would say that if she seemed more into your cousin than you and if testing the waters more (like going on more dates) would definitly ensure marriage, then DON'T. It would be hard to MARRY someone that you can't trust after TWO dates.
 
Married ONLY if you can put up with all the goods and bads of the other person. If you know deep down that you can't live without that person.

Both of you are too young to get married right away and from your post, I sense doubts.
 
Well she is a VIRGIN!..This i know for a fact. . also she has never been with any other man. . so she is fresh meat!

My Cuz is going to talk with his GF to see what she said about tonight and i'll post the results. .
 
Well, you've done the right thing by coming to us first.

But seriously... you went out with her twice? Maybe let things bloom a little more first.
 
Originally posted by: helo7050
Well she is a VIRGIN!..This i know for a fact. . also she has never been with any other man. . so she is fresh meat!

Well, she is technically still a virgin if all she's done is giving out the chocolate star fish.
 
so you're asking if you should marry her and you just met her?
1) no because you don't know her well enough
2) no because she doesn't appear to display much interest in you
 
Originally posted by: Baked
Originally posted by: helo7050
Well she is a VIRGIN!..This i know for a fact. . also she has never been with any other man. . so she is fresh meat!

LOL, OMFG, that's too funny. Why, did you put a chasity belt on her since birth and you hold the only key?

She is very religous person.. Her family is very religous and she prays 5times a day.
 
Originally posted by: Baked
Originally posted by: helo7050
Well she is a VIRGIN!..This i know for a fact. . also she has never been with any other man. . so she is fresh meat!

Well, she is technically still a virgin if all she's done is giving out the chocolate star fish.

Time for your hymen check honey.
 
Originally posted by: Thin Lizzy
Originally posted by: dc
"lets smell your colon you got on. . it smells good."

sorry but that had me LOLing

Me too, It took me a while to get what he was talking about. lol

yeah OMG I was dying. "it smells like sh!t in here!!!"

I dunno why the OP is talking about marriage when the chick doesn't even like him.
 
Originally posted by: JonnyStarks
Well, you've done the right thing by coming to us first.

But seriously... you went out with her twice? Maybe let things bloom a little more first.

I dont' know. . i guess if your with 2guys your gonna be all over the best looking one right?
 
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