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kaymin

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I have my own room. Living alone is awesome. I wouldn't have it any other way!!!
 
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Trygve

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Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Can't take my ex, who is still my room-mate, bringing other guys over and stomping on what is left of my bleeding heart.

I have never lived by myself in an apartment. Does it suck?
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I've never lived in an apartment, but I've almost always lived by myself. It's great--you don't ever have to worry that you're going to disturb anyone else when you decide to crank up the volume on music, movies, or whatever in the middle of the night, nobody else to clean up after, etc., etc.

I haven't quite figured out what the advantages are of living with someone else, though I'm sure there must be some.
 
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ggnl

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Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: ggnl
It's not bad at all living by yourself, although you might want to find a roommate just so you won't be alone while you're recovering from your previous relationship.

On a side note, it's really fvcked up that your ex is bringing new guys over to your shared home. He should at least have the decency to not make you witness that kind of stuff.
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I guess he just doesn't understand or care. He wanted to break up, and he wanted me to stay. Now he wants to bring other guys over and expects me to be fine with it. May'be I thought I would. But I am not. I am stuck back in my area, miserable, because I wanted to stay together. I have given three years of my life to that fvcking relationship, put up with sh!t I shouldn't have, and for what?

Sorry.
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There's no reason to be sorry. Im going through the exact some thing right now and I'm just as bitter. Anyways, it sounds like you need to cut your ties with this guy asap. Whether that means getting a roommate or doing it by yourself, just get out. It's going to be very difficult to move on with your life if you don't.
 
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I asked you if it made you uncomfortable and you said no. Next time come to me before bringing your problems to Anandtech. You have to be more assertive about these things, because I can't read your mind.

Now about the guy - I'm simply trying to make friends here, because I have NONE outside of you. I have no intentions of having a relationship with this guy, and I'm just trying to meet people.

Regardless, since we're single now, what are we supposed to do - nothing? I really don't want you to move out, and if it hurts you that much I won't have him over again.
 
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Zysoclaplem

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Originally posted by: ggnl
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: ggnl
It's not bad at all living by yourself, although you might want to find a roommate just so you won't be alone while you're recovering from your previous relationship.

On a side note, it's really fvcked up that your ex is bringing new guys over to your shared home. He should at least have the decency to not make you witness that kind of stuff.
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I guess he just doesn't understand or care. He wanted to break up, and he wanted me to stay. Now he wants to bring other guys over and expects me to be fine with it. May'be I thought I would. But I am not. I am stuck back in my area, miserable, because I wanted to stay together. I have given three years of my life to that fvcking relationship, put up with sh!t I shouldn't have, and for what?

Sorry.
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There's no reason to be sorry. Im going through the exact some thing right now and I'm just as bitter. Anyways, it sounds like you need to cut your ties with this guy asap. Whether that means getting a roommate or doing it by yourself, just get out. It's going to be very difficult to move on with your life if you don't.
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He is my friend, I just need to get away. We are over dating/relationship wise, but that doesn't mean we have to stop talking. I'm just hurting, and it hurts.
Three years doesn't disappear so easily for me.
 
Platypus

Platypus

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Originally posted by: steelels1
I asked you if it made you uncomfortable and you said no. Next time come to me before bringing your problems to Anandtech. You have to be more assertive about these things, because I can't read your mind.

Now about the guy - I'm simply trying to make friends here, because I have NONE outside of you. I have no intentions of having a relationship with this guy, and I'm just trying to meet people.

Regardless, since we're single now, what are we supposed to do - nothing? I really don't want you to move out, and if it hurts you that much I won't have him over again.
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oh snap
 
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loup garou

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Originally posted by: steelels1
I asked you if it made you uncomfortable and you said no. Next time come to me before bringing your problems to Anandtech. You have to be more assertive about these things, because I can't read your mind.

Now about the guy - I'm simply trying to make friends here, because I have NONE outside of you. I have no intentions of having a relationship with this guy, and I'm just trying to meet people.

Regardless, since we're single now, what are we supposed to do - nothing? I really don't want you to move out, and if it hurts you that much I won't have him over again.
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Well, this could get interesting.

/popcorn
/:beer:
/lawnchair
 
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Zysoclaplem

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Originally posted by: steelels1
I asked you if it made you uncomfortable and you said no. Next time come to me before bringing your problems to Anandtech. You have to be more assertive about these things, because I can't read your mind.

Now about the guy - I'm simply trying to make friends here, because I have NONE outside of you. I have no intentions of having a relationship with this guy, and I'm just trying to meet people.

Regardless, since we're single now, what are we supposed to do - nothing? I really don't want you to move out, and if it hurts you that much I won't have him over again.
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Who am I to run your life? I'm better at running mine.
You can do whatever you want, it's not up to me. But I cannot change how I feel about the situation, so I think I should change the situation instead.
I bet you had no intention of having a relationship that first night when I came over to your house 3 years ago, did you?
 
Platypus

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You guys should go talk about this in person, it's only going to get ugly here; especially considering the audience...
 
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gigapet

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Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: steelels1
I asked you if it made you uncomfortable and you said no. Next time come to me before bringing your problems to Anandtech. You have to be more assertive about these things, because I can't read your mind.

Now about the guy - I'm simply trying to make friends here, because I have NONE outside of you. I have no intentions of having a relationship with this guy, and I'm just trying to meet people.

Regardless, since we're single now, what are we supposed to do - nothing? I really don't want you to move out, and if it hurts you that much I won't have him over again.
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Who am I to run your life? I'm better at running mine.
You can do whatever you want, it's not up to me. But I cannot change how I feel about the situation, so I think I should change the situation instead.
I bet you had no intention of having a relationship that first night when I came over to your house 3 years ago, did you?
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get em' zypoclasem
 
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steelels1

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Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: steelels1
I asked you if it made you uncomfortable and you said no. Next time come to me before bringing your problems to Anandtech. You have to be more assertive about these things, because I can't read your mind.

Now about the guy - I'm simply trying to make friends here, because I have NONE outside of you. I have no intentions of having a relationship with this guy, and I'm just trying to meet people.

Regardless, since we're single now, what are we supposed to do - nothing? I really don't want you to move out, and if it hurts you that much I won't have him over again.
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Who am I to run your life? I'm better at running mine.
You can do whatever you want, it's not up to me. But I cannot change how I feel about the situation, so I think I should change the situation instead.
I bet you had no intention of having a relationship that first night when I came over to your house 3 years ago, did you?
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:Q Ouch, that was a cheap shot. You forgot to mention I'd known you for awhile before that.

This thread is beginning to feel like Divorce Court...
 
moshquerade

moshquerade

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Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Can't take my ex, who is still my room-mate, bringing other guys over and stomping on what is left of my bleeding heart.

I have never lived by myself in an apartment. Does it suck?
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ferchrissakes, get the hell out. what are you waiting for?

 
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steelels1

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Originally posted by: SynthDude2001
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Sorry guys, had to continue this in AIM. :p
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I hope you two work things out. As CR said, it might not have turned out well in the thread here...
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Yeah, especially with all of Anandtech on his side. :p
 
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AntiEverything

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Two ex-lovers quarreling on ATOT, how nice.

I just hope one of them isn't killed in a freak car accident on the snowy cliffs of Nova Scotia.
 
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