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Think I got depression

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i wish i could say i couldnt relate, but i can.. all too well. definitely find people that you can talk about it with. nothing you can say will make it better, but just saying does help work it through your system. stay away from the alcohol and other drugs, imo they just mess with your head and body even more. try to rest a lot, exercise and eat whenever you can. i lost about 8 lbs when my girl broke it off with me (and i was only 5'9" 140 to start). your health, physical and mental is the most important. nothing is worth making yourself sick over. the worst part is, you feel like you arent in control of your mind and your feelings. people say, do the things you love, excercise, blah blah. the thing is, when you feel like this, those things dont give you the same pleasure and there just is no motivation or energy. just take it a day at a time. your mind heals itself, but it does take time, and the scar will always be tender. talking to family and friends is good too bc it makes you realize what you DO have (in terms of relationships).

hell, just realize that 90% of the people that read this thread cant get a gf (let alone have sex and know the feeling of being loved) should cheer you up 🙂 (jk... or am i?)
 
I broke up with her, for reasons I dont want to disclose. Im not seen as the type with deep feelings by my freinds, even tho im quite deep I never show it. Thanks for your help but I think I need to see the doc and keep it on the low
 
Originally posted by: clarkey01
I broke up with her, for reasons I dont want to disclose. Im not seen as the type with deep feelings by my freinds, even tho im quite deep I never show it. Thanks for your help but I think I need to see the doc and keep it on the low
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Why don't you show it? It doesn't matter what they think... if they're good friends they'll be supportive.
 
Originally posted by: clarkey01
Me and my gf broke up after 5 years, I feel like I m running on empty. Getting with other girls doesn?t matter to me. I just wana booze and listen to sad songs. I feel pretty depressed. We had broke up before and got back together a year later, and I still loved her. I still do. I don?t want to go into the reasons. I just need help. I feel like going to the doctor, my stomach is in knots, my chest hurts, and I don?t feel like eating. I feel heart broken. I think its depression setting in. 🙁
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I could have written this post, albeit with modified time scales.

I don't know what to do, so I just drink a lot. I drank nothing but alcohol all weekend, and din't leave the house either. Mind you, that happens all the time now since I broke up, hey, maybe we should meetup sometime and have a sad bastards club.

Uh, crap, I'm supposed to help. Uh. Well. I don't know how, if I did, I'd do the same for me. 🙂

I don't generally whine and mope about it though, because I know that won't help. I'm having a party at new years and whatever, and I see friends whenever I can. But yeah. Never the best times. Some days I'm a-okay and others I'm just pure crap.
 
Originally posted by: Xionide
OMG your feeling emotion. GO GET PILLS FAST!
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feeling emotion is one thing.

serious mental illness is another.

Study after study has shown that counseling with medication can cure depression with higher success rates and quicker than either method alone.

<---lost 40 pounds after my divorce in 6 week time span.
 
Originally posted by: piroroadkill
Originally posted by: clarkey01
Me and my gf broke up after 5 years, I feel like I m running on empty. Getting with other girls doesn?t matter to me. I just wana booze and listen to sad songs. I feel pretty depressed. We had broke up before and got back together a year later, and I still loved her. I still do. I don?t want to go into the reasons. I just need help. I feel like going to the doctor, my stomach is in knots, my chest hurts, and I don?t feel like eating. I feel heart broken. I think its depression setting in. 🙁
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I could have written this post, albeit with modified time scales.

I don't know what to do, so I just drink a lot. I drank nothing but alcohol all weekend, and din't leave the house either. Mind you, that happens all the time now since I broke up, hey, maybe we should meetup sometime and have a sad bastards club.

Uh, crap, I'm supposed to help. Uh. Well. I don't know how, if I did, I'd do the same for me. 🙂

I don't generally whine and mope about it though, because I know that won't help. I'm having a party at new years and whatever, and I see friends whenever I can. But yeah. Never the best times. Some days I'm a-okay and others I'm just pure crap.
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ill be a founding member of the club

 
I felt tears comign on today, I had to have a shower so no one would see me brake down like that. I feel so weak. Now i got metallica on, and im close to it now, goona go bed and try and sleep. But i bet i just stay awake and stare at the clock with a tight chest and knotted tummy pains.
 
Originally posted by: clarkey01
I felt tears comign on today, I had to have a shower so no one would see me brake down like that. I feel so weak. Now i got metallica on, and im close to it now, goona go bed and try and sleep. But i bet i just stay awake and stare at the clock with a tight chest and knotted tummy pains.
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got family? got friends?
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: Xionide
OMG your feeling emotion. GO GET PILLS FAST!
Click to expand...

feeling emotion is one thing.

serious mental illness is another.

Study after study has shown that counseling with medication can cure depression with higher success rates and quicker than either method alone.

<---lost 40 pounds after my divorce in 6 week time span.
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Serious mental illness? He didnt say he was just randomly feeling these things. His gf broke up with him so he feels sad. Thats hardly a serious mental illness.
 
Originally posted by: Xionide
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: Xionide
OMG your feeling emotion. GO GET PILLS FAST!
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feeling emotion is one thing.

serious mental illness is another.

Study after study has shown that counseling with medication can cure depression with higher success rates and quicker than either method alone.

<---lost 40 pounds after my divorce in 6 week time span.
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Serious mental illness? He didnt say he was just randomly feeling these things. His gf broke up with him so he feels sad. Thats hardly a serious mental illness.
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There is a big difference between sad and depression. Last for more than 2 weeks = clinical depression.

Can't get out of bed? Can't eat? Don't enjoy things you used to? Trouble sleeping? Lack of energy? All of these things are constant when depressed and they don't just go away.

A loss like this is tough. Its been over a year for me and I'm still struggling.
 
I would look for someone neutral to talk with. A pastor or minster of a church might be a good option. I'm not implying that you have to get all religious, but these folks are great for dealing with folks like yourself in this situation.

Best of luck to you. 🙂

 
I went through the EXACT same thing a couple of years ago. Me and my finacee broke up after 5 years. We broke up once 6 months earlier for about a month. She left me for another guy. (who cheated on her after two months) After what i went through the first time, (i was miserable all the time), i decided to go get put on prozac. It worked wonders. I couldnt make myself think of the problem. I only took it for a few months. Just up and quit taking it one day. That little amount of time when you can think rationally, you start realizing it was for the best. Now I am married to someone else and happier than ever.

BTW. If you decide to take prozac, dont take it too long. Dont let it be a perminent crutch. Only use it to get past the hardest times.

Good Luck man.
 
be careful of the drugs, like 50% of the people I see at work (medical field) are on anti-depressants and they seem to never get off them.
 
Ive been in the same place. You just broke up with her, of course you are going to be upset...but you dont have a disease. Time is all you need...your condition and feelings are 100% completely normal...if they werent, you wouldnt be human.

I know it feels like life will never be the same again..but it will, in about a month or so. Trust me. 🙂
 
time time time, is the only thing that will truly help you. and I?am sorry i wish i had a different answer for you but i don't, the grieving process is a BITCH but its the only way. whatever the reasons for the break up are just know that you made them and I know you put a lot of thought into them and DO NOT second guess yourself about it. and a lot of the guys here are right, friends and family will be your saviors.

good luck my friend.

oh and remember the time tested saying, plenty of fish in the sea.
 
Originally posted by: clarkey01
Me and my gf broke up after 5 years, I feel like I m running on empty. Getting with other girls doesn?t matter to me. I just wana booze and listen to sad songs. I feel pretty depressed. We had broke up before and got back together a year later, and I still loved her. I still do. I don?t want to go into the reasons. I just need help. I feel like going to the doctor, my stomach is in knots, my chest hurts, and I don?t feel like eating. I feel heart broken. I think its depression setting in. 🙁
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You'll get over that in a few months. Just try not to do anything really stupid during that time...like kill yourself or get really drunk and go for a drive in your car or neglect your work/studies.

Edit-I've been there. You should tell your friends and family. That's what friends and family are for.

Edit x2-Trust me, you are better off. If things were really great between you two this wouldn't have happened. Be thankfull you don't have children (I'm assuming you don't have children since you didn't mention it) and that you weren't married. This relationship and break-up will only help you form stronger bonds in the future...but only if you fully recover from this one. Good luck!
 
Originally posted by: HardcoreRobot
Originally posted by: piroroadkill
Originally posted by: clarkey01
Me and my gf broke up after 5 years, I feel like I m running on empty. Getting with other girls doesn?t matter to me. I just wana booze and listen to sad songs. I feel pretty depressed. We had broke up before and got back together a year later, and I still loved her. I still do. I don?t want to go into the reasons. I just need help. I feel like going to the doctor, my stomach is in knots, my chest hurts, and I don?t feel like eating. I feel heart broken. I think its depression setting in. 🙁
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I could have written this post, albeit with modified time scales.

I don't know what to do, so I just drink a lot. I drank nothing but alcohol all weekend, and din't leave the house either. Mind you, that happens all the time now since I broke up, hey, maybe we should meetup sometime and have a sad bastards club.

Uh, crap, I'm supposed to help. Uh. Well. I don't know how, if I did, I'd do the same for me. 🙂

I don't generally whine and mope about it though, because I know that won't help. I'm having a party at new years and whatever, and I see friends whenever I can. But yeah. Never the best times. Some days I'm a-okay and others I'm just pure crap.
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ill be a founding member of the club
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Ha, I might need a membership card here in a few weeks, not sure yet though, we'll see.
 
Originally posted by: clarkey01
Thing is, we broke up for a year and i was with plenty of girls and booze ups and wild nights, but i still loved her. Then we got back, and after another 9 months we just finished. Think i need medication. Sorry if this seems like a cry for attention but I feel like shes died.
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Don't be ashamed or reluctant to ask a GP for anti-depressant meds, either. 'Everyone' is taking them these days. Maybe you would really benefdit from talking about this in depth, with someone. Havew you considered a counsellor/ psychologist? It's understandable you would be feeling this way, I guess in practical terms it actually is like she has died, in that she has completely disappeared from your life. Are you talking about this with anyone? GP? Friend? Don't forget to eat some food, and get some sleep. 🙂

 
Originally posted by: clamum
Originally posted by: mcveigh
booze and violence have helped men throughout the ages!


j/k my wife and I are seperated right now, it sucks.

don't drink it's a depresant, go exercize and spend time with friends
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You mean CNS depressant by "depresant," right? Not that it makes you depressed... 🙂
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Alcohol tends to magnify or enhance your current emotional state. If you're already depressed or feeling blue, boozing can make that feel worse.
 
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