I always like the good first and I always try to use the good first. However, I'm finding out now that people ignore the first thing you say and only focus on the last thing. No matter how much emphasis you put on the first thing, it is forgotten. Thus, I'm now going against my grains and doing the bad part first. It doesn't make any sense to to it that way, but that is what people want.
For example, when doing a critique on writing I get these choices:
[*]Option A)
Me: Your writing is total garbage, nothing is clear, it is all illogical, and you seem to have no order, no rhyme, and no reason to your paper. However, I like your example on page 3.
Them: So it is perfect! Great I'll send it out as it is.
[*]Option B)
Me: Your writing is nearly perfect, it is the best thing I have ever read. There is a smooth flow, wonderful examples, etc. However, you misspelled "their" on page 4.
Them: Why do you always criticize me? Can't I do anything right? Can't I ever please you?
I just can't see why people react that way to option B. I like to butter them up first and then say everything is perfect if you just make one minor modification. But for some reason, everyone needs to be given option A. Then they are happy. It just does not make sense. But I deal with it.
I'm a realist. The glass is 40% larger than it needs to be. The remaining 10% is a buffer zone for splashing while carrying the glass and/or potential overfilling on the next use of the glass.
