Therapy for husband who likes Asian chicks?

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nativesunshine

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Originally posted by: borealiss
Originally posted by: SuepaFly
As a Chinese female, it freaks me out majorly at clubs and bars when a guy approaches and it seems like the guy has a thing for asians. And the thing is that their first line of conversation always goes toward asians. It always seems to be with the caucasian men too.

what ticks me off more is when asian girls think i'm completely white and stereotype me as american gaijin or gosu that has yellow fever since i have a thing for chinese women. then if i bust out some mandarin, all of a sudden i'm a thing to be gawked at. "omg, he can speak some chinese." but yeah, i understand your perspective too, i know lots of guys that are horndog asian crazy up the arse cuz their asian, it's annoying. and it's always the japanese women they have a thing for. i don't understand that.

Ooh..that is so true about the japanese women thing. It's all this porn they see...they automatically think that asian = japanese.

I know it's bad to stereotype white guys saying they have a "asian fetish" or whatever. But most of the time it's true...they're only dating the asian girl to satiate their "fetish"...and also maybe because of the hype that asian girls are submissive and obedient..but wild and crazy in bed. It's so annoying that us asian girls are only seen as objects to be had...and not as real people with real feelings.
 

Aceshigh

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Originally posted by: nativesunshine
Originally posted by: borealiss
Originally posted by: SuepaFly
As a Chinese female, it freaks me out majorly at clubs and bars when a guy approaches and it seems like the guy has a thing for asians. And the thing is that their first line of conversation always goes toward asians. It always seems to be with the caucasian men too.

what ticks me off more is when asian girls think i'm completely white and stereotype me as american gaijin or gosu that has yellow fever since i have a thing for chinese women. then if i bust out some mandarin, all of a sudden i'm a thing to be gawked at. "omg, he can speak some chinese." but yeah, i understand your perspective too, i know lots of guys that are horndog asian crazy up the arse cuz their asian, it's annoying. and it's always the japanese women they have a thing for. i don't understand that.

Ooh..that is so true about the japanese women thing. It's all this porn they see...they automatically think that asian = japanese.

I know it's bad to stereotype white guys saying they have a "asian fetish" or whatever. But most of the time it's true...they're only dating the asian girl to satiate their "fetish"...and also maybe because of the hype that asian girls are submissive and obedient..but wild and crazy in bed. It's so annoying that us asian girls are only seen as objects to be had...and not as real people with real feelings.

Who's to say that because someone has a fetish for a certain type of woman that they don't care about that woman's personality or feelings? Just because you date the type of women you are attracted to doesn't mean you are objectifying them and are oblivious to who that person is inside. At least not in my case.
 

NetGuySC

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All of my life i have had a thing for asians. Now I am married to one, a South Korean. All I can say is that she is not an object but she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Sure we are different in many ways ... she's extremely smart and I'm a little above average. She is great with finances, well I pay all my bills on time but waste too much money on computers and stuff like DVD writers and such. She insist on eating healthy and I crave my junk food ... McDonalds anyone :)

All I am saying is that even though I have always been attracted to asians does not mean my wife is my servant. It is quite the opposite. We try to make each other happy but she is quick to tell me that she is not my maid :) Yes she is extremely tidy and organized and I'm a little less than tide and organized.

I consider her my equal and in many ways I consider her as being superior in things and of course I have my strong points too.

But I will say this she does have much more morals, intelligence, more loveing and the most realistic attitude about life than anyone I dated in the 35 years of my life before we married.
 

Moonbeam

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I have a thing for women.
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yeah, the real cure is to go to an authentic chinese dining place. I have a bit of an asian fetish myself, but I'll tell you, seing my gf's foreign friend (hot chinese chick for shanghai) gobble up fish heads, the exotic aspect of the fantasy quickly dissipated.
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For you maybe, but that would cause me to faint...................................as blood rushed from one head to the other.
 

Yax

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Originally posted by: Chaotic42
I've noticed that white guys like Asian girls. In my hometown, the white girls really flocked to the Asian guys. Nothing wrong with it of course, just kind of interesting.

Personally, I've kind of got a thing for Latin girls (not a stalker thing ;) ).

Where do you live! I'm moving there as soon as you tell me. :)
 

BatmanNate

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Originally posted by: Sealy
I think the bigger issue the wife needs to worry about is that he's checking out and hitting on other women while he's married! I think she's missing the point! Who cares if the women are Asian, he's behaving unacceptable, period. That's what he should be in therapy for.

I agree with you, Sealy.
 

rh71

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Originally posted by: simms
It's true.. mm I like Asians! Well,. ... I am Chinese... :)
Ditto. Resistance is futile. You will be assimilated.

 

WinkOsmosis

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Originally posted by: FFMCobalt
Originally posted by: WinkOsmosis
Why doesn't he divorce her and marry an Asian?

What's the point of a marriage if you're not going to follow through with the promise of being married?
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What's the point of being married to someone you don't love?
 

rh71

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Originally posted by: Chaotic42
I've noticed that white guys like Asian girls. In my hometown, the white girls really flocked to the Asian guys. Nothing wrong with it of course, just kind of interesting.
BS. Asian guys always get the shaft.

 

slycat

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Originally posted by: rh71
Originally posted by: Chaotic42
I've noticed that white guys like Asian girls. In my hometown, the white girls really flocked to the Asian guys. Nothing wrong with it of course, just kind of interesting.
BS. Asian guys always get the shaft.

really?...hmm, like another guy's shaft?
 

gregshin

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Originally posted by: isaacmacdonald
yeah, the real cure is to go to an authentic chinese dining place. I have a bit of an asian fetish myself, but I'll tell you, seing my gf's foreign friend (hot chinese chick for shanghai) gobble up fish heads, the exotic aspect of the fantasy quickly dissipated.

whats wrong with fish heads?
 

Isla

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Originally posted by: Moonbeam
that looks like snow
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All I saw was heaven.



:eek:

Moonbeam, you say the most amazing, sweetest things!
 

DrPizza

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Get it out of his system.... buy him an asian hooker, but pay her ahead of time to just slap the sh*t out of him and give him no pleasure.
 

Rainsford

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Here's what I think people fail to understand about marriage. The idea is you are willing to live the rest of your life loving only the person you are marrying. If you aren't sure about this...DO NOT GET MARRIED. This guy's problem isn't that he has a thing for Asian chicks, it's that he has a thing for women other than his wife. Yeah, it's unrealistic to expect a married man to never be attracted at all to any other women ever, but if his love for his wife can't crush that passing attraction, why did he marry her in the first place?